#deformisia

[this-is-lookism]

Lookism (and also ableism) is when my family was making fun of the DJ we hired for our wedding for having a cleft lip

This is lookism, ableism, and deformisia/disfiguremisia (i'm not sure which).

[this-is-lookism]

I’m not really sure if this counts but: people being super weird about visible skin conditions. I have cmtc. It doesn’t bother me. But every time I wear shorts it’s always “omg your leg is purple!” “Ewww!” “Is it contagious?” “You know you can get that removed, right?” Even from doctors! I don’t need it removed! I don’t want to be “fixed”! I don’t really care that much and honestly those kinds of cosmetic treatments are stupidly expensive!!! I expect this kind of shit from children but genuinely it’s ridiculous how many adults do it.

This is lookism, ableism and deformisia/disfiguremisia (dependending on the skin condition).

[this-is-lookism]

Oh. I have a looot and its not pleasant.

Tw for SA, slut shaming, and transphobia

I have rosacea and constantly got teased and made fun of for “blushing” because I was the fat kid and they found the idea of me having a crush on someone amusing.

I got called a whore as a preteen because I was fat “ugly” and started developing big breasts around age twelve. Specifically with the stereotype of the fat prostitute in mind. That really put me off bright colors, shorter cut clothes, and makeup for years. I’m ashamed to admit that up until a few years ago I had some pretty bad issues with misogyny.

A friend’s mother said to me that “at the very least, you have your breasts” when I admitted to being insecure about my skin. I was thirteen.

I was constantly made the butt of jokes and expected to take it because otherwise people wouldn’t want to be friends with me. There was a period of time where the running joke was that I was a dog. I was told I looked and sounded like a pug. I had severe anxiety and undiagnosed asthma.

I was taken advantage of romantically and sexually on numerous occasions during my late childhood, teens and young adulthood because I was ugly enough that they “figured I didn’t get enough attention and was desperate.”

I got told I was being a creep for making the same jokes and saying the same things that my “friend” group at the time did.

After I came out as trans, I was told “is that your excuse?” in regards to my appearance.

“Well at least you’re safe,” said in response to me (a child at the time) worrying about a neighbor who was rumored to be a predator. (He wasn’t actually predator, it was the mother. See the “friend’s mom” thing I said earlier. I just want to clarify.) I’ve also been told “you’re not that pretty” when trying to complain about a customer creeping on me.

Having jokes made at my expense about putting a paper bag over my head or turning out the lights before getting it on.

Having a coworker with her own insecurities only back off from bullying me when I made jokes about my own appearance and weight.

This is lookism, fatphobia, transphobia, deformisia, misogyny and SA.

I'm so sorry that happened to you, you didn't deserve that. No one deserves that. You were just a kid.

It's too common for fat people and Ugly people to be told that being taken advantage of was something that they should thank or something that just doesn't happen to people like them.

[this-is-lookism]

This is also classism, but the weird association between looks and perception of wealth? Like, in job interviews, especially, Ugly people are more likely to be assumed poor or homeless, while pretty people are figured as wealthy.

Not to mention the societal presumption of "Ugly = drug addict = poor = domestic/child abuser" that gets you turned away from most job opportunities.

It's like the snake eating its own tail except it's just you constantly being accused and mistreated for things outside your control (i.e., genetics) and suffering because of it, which leads you to appear unhealthy and therefore even more "ugly."

This is lookism and clasissm.

This comes from the knowledge that most of the facets that are deemed as ugly are "fixable" if you have enough money.

Wrinkles? Expensive creams and cosmetic surgery (ageism). Obesity/fatness? Ozempic, fat removals and expensive diets (fatphobia). Darker skin? Skin bleaching (colorism). Non western face complexions and afro/curly hair? Cosmetic surgery, hair relaxers/treatments and real hair wigs (racism). Face deformities? Plastic surgery (deformisia). Acne/acne scars? Skin care and expensive treatments (deformisia).

And signs of having them unconsciously signals to others that you don't have the net worth for it. It's also intrinsically linked with racial and class strugglles of having crime be associated by proxy for it. As white people tend to have more resources than POC and them and lower class folks have more needs for crime for it (For unaffordable healthcare going to drugs, unaffordable mental health support and going to drugs/ending up being unsupported and ending up in the crime scenery, unaffordable housing and ending up loitering, unaffordable food and ending up stealing, etc).

[this-is-lookism]

I had really bad acne when I was younger and one girl asked if I had leprosy

This is lookism and deformisia working hand in hand.

It starts with seeing the acne scars as ugly (lookism) and then making fun of you comparing you as having something deemed as looking worse than acne, leprosy. Which works with deformisia. As it's deeming the deformities that leprosy can/tends to give as bad because they're considered Ugly.