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[why-justsaying]

Indian stereotypes

[12thhouseshakti]

Are you bad or broken?

om gam ganapataye namaha

Are you attracting negative relationships? When you look back, is your past riddled with angry reactions and frustrations like divorce or separation or even unstable jobs?  

Are you acting out in a negative way? Are you finally sick of the self-sabotage and fixing your own destructive behavior?

Is it your fault?

No of course not. We are human and we need to balance the black and white dog inside of us. Once this is balanced, we will find peace.

Are you filled with anxiety, depression, or fear?

When we reject parts of ourselves, that part of us stays with us. Worse yet it will fester and turn into negative entities or negative shadows.

It’s called our shadow self or our personal demons.  

Your ego creates this darkness to protect you. Or at least your ego thinks you are protecting it. This can also be a sign of trauma from childhood or even past lives. There is a hidden lesson there. Once we reveal these parts, they no longer have power.

Remember that the shadow is unresolved trauma – don’t let the ego let you forget that.

We must go into the dark so that we can bring it light. That is the only way to address it. And yes, you can face it.

What is the danger of not acknowledging it?

Hurt people hurt others.  

E. Tolle says “Once the pain-body has taken you over, you want more pain. You become a victim or a perpetrator. You want to inflict pain, or you want to suffer pain, or both.”

Ignoring the shadows within ourselves is harmful to ourselves.  

Our bodies will suffer as they can be filled with mental illness or mysterious physical illnesses like chronic illness (lupus, fibromyalgia, RA, etc.)

Just look around. Where are you avoiding things? When are you being triggered?  

We must answer these questions and face ourselves.

What does the shadow work help us do?

This is the secret part of us we keep hidden. It never goes away. So work with the energy and master it. This is step one.

The shadow self is where the destructive habits and escapism comes from.  

When we internalize those shadow aspects we have we actually hurt ourselves. For example, you may stop expressing yourself due to past trauma. This is a good example of how people protect themselves. It seems simple, but it is hurting you because it is blocking what is meant for you.

That is why it affects all our life decisions.  

Subconsciously we start to settle for things, or we avoid things. We simply do not want to experience these things. We accept things as faith or it’s in our chart.

This is no way to live.

How do these shadows of deception effect your life?

We do all we can to avoid the trauma again. We do ridiculous things to avoid pain. We even avoid truths that are right in front of us.  

Here are some ways we may act out to avoid pain:

We avoid people even though we used to love people. This is because in the past we experienced that people cause pain.

We avoid talking any risk (even calculated ones) because we were put down for being adventurous

We may hide our sexuality because we were shamed for it in the past.

We were cheated on and decided that all relationships hurt so she avoids them like the plague.

Exercise – where do we feel the most pain? Where are we avoiding things or escaping? Write this down and look at it today, tomorrow – until you figure out why you do what you do.

How do we reintegrate ourselves so that we are whole?

There is no way to put this off. You must go right through the emotional pain to get past it.  

We must reintegrate the parts of ourselves we hate. Eckhart Tolle calls this the pain body or we will be triggered.  

Face the trigger and the pain when you feel it. Stay in the moment. It is hard but when you feel it, you have to sit with the anxiety or the pain associated with that trauma.

Embrace the feelings with your own personal strength. Breath through it. You got this. Acknowledge the way you feel but sit with yourself. 

Acknowledge the pain and what it did for you.   It is the only way to release it and understand it.

You can use amazing tools to work with your shadow self. Spiritual practices like Reiki or chakra work or journaling are valuable healing tools to help you through it. Yes, this will be hard, but in the end it is worth it.  

You are worth it. So, hug yourself for starting.

Exercise –  Look at the list of anger and triggers from the first exercise and sit with it. Close your eyes and feel it. Ask yourself in a nonjudgmental way – why am I feeling this? What happened in the past? Look at it and talk to it.

You will start becoming your own best support. You will be your own big sis.

Yes, this is a process that will take time. And although people come in and out of lives to help, no one is coming to save you. 

That job is yours. You have to look within and heal.

Be patient with yourself. Please first tell yourself you will not judge you. And makes sure you are doing that. We have a tendency to get into it and we can sometimes forget. This is a shout out to my Scorpio, Pluto and 12th house people of course!

And remember how brave you are for being here at all. When we see our own defects, we are brave spiritual warriors. And for that I honor you for being here.

E. Tolle says: The moment you observe it, feel its energy field within you, and take your attention into it, the identification is broken. A higher dimension of consciousness has come in. I call it presence. You are now the witness or the watcher of the pain-body.

How do you manage your shadow work?

The yogic mantra “so hum” is not only a reflection of the sound of the breath but also carries a contemplative meaning: “I am that” (so = “I am” and hum = “that”). Here, “that” refers to all of creation, the one breathing us all. Hatha yoga may be a good choice for stress management.

Therefore, the translation of So Hum is “I Am That.” or “I am one with the Universe and all of creation.” 

As your focus settles on your breath, begin to employ the simple mantra “so hum.” As you inhale, silently say “so” to yourself and as you exhale, say “hum.” Once the “so hum” rhythm has been established, begin to contemplate the meaning of “so hum.”  

As you inhale with the mantra “so,” say to yourself ”I am”, this connecting to your essential self. 

Each time you notice your mind wander, simply draw your attention back to your silent mantra and aligning the pace of your mantra to the pace of your breath. (https://mindfulminutes.com/the-power-of-so-hum-mantra/) 

*Hatha is one of the most common styles of yoga, and beginners may like its slower pace and easier movements. But most people can benefit from any style of yoga — it's all about your personal preferences. (Mayo clinic). You are where you need to be. Source brought you here to this moment because you are ready to deal with this and move past it.

Hari Om Tat Sat.

Sources:

https://www.newworldlibrary.com/Blog/tabid/767/articleType/ArticleView/articleId/438/DISSOLVING-THE-PAIN-BODY-An-excerpt-from-THE-POWER-OF-NOW-by-Eckhart-Tolle.aspx#.YPxIZuhKjXM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=drFXq0SsWWk

https://www.yogajournal.com/meditation/so-hum-contemplation-meditation/

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