Mod Eli, my mother through all years of my life, has never been satisfied with who I am. She's been the kind of mother to be disappointed in my appearance & personality. No matter the achievements I've done, she never expressed gratitude. It makes me feel discouraged now that I've received job offers. She believes that I've the disability to learn. Also, thank you so much for making this blog! It's been a joy to read along so many positive notes.
I really want to congratulate you on the job offers you received! It’s such a great achievement, esp. nowadays, and you totally can be proud about it! You have worked hard to achieve this and it really is a great thing! (*^▽^*)Well, don’t the job offers disprove her belief that you cannot learn? What does her belief derive from? And anyways, “learning” is so generic. Every person in this world has their own strong points. Some people are good at sports, some are amazing at science, then we have people who create magnificent art! If people try to “learn” something that is not their strength then it easily seem like they are not capable. Especially in this aspect school really cannot be taken as a good meassurement for learning capability. The range of subjects is far too narrow to determine this.I hope you have found your place and can enjoy the job which is most suitable for you! ( ´ ▽ ` )ノ Even if your job doesn’t give you a feeling of “fullfillment”. It is totally enough if you can enjoy it (maybe because of your co-workers? Because it is easy for you?) and then do what means fun to you in your freetime~Regarding your mother. Maybe you should think about what you really want for yourself. Is it necessary for you that your mother approves of you? Or do you already have friends who feel happy for you, cheer you on and believe in you? Society makes us think: Children have to repay their parents and family bonds are the strongest. But this isn’t necessarily true. A teacher once told me: “Everyone on this world is my brother. I cannot choose my family. But what I can choose are my friends.” We have to live with everyone on this world. Wether they are family or strangers, but it is in our personal might to choose who becomes dear to us! (ノ>▽<。)ノAnd your appearance is something which should only be of your concern. If you feel beautiful, then you are beautiful. If you feel comfortable in your body, then you are absolutely perfect!I am really proud of your achievements! Based on your message I can tell, you have given your best. You tried really hard. And not only me! All of us mods are really proud of you for doing your best! You have tried so hard to please your mother but it is of far more importance that you can look at yourself and say “Yes! I have grown!” And you have! You totally have grown. Your mother is not the ultimate judge of your value as a human being. So, please, do not feel discouraged. Here are so many who believe in you and are so happy that you have grown so much!! (ღ˘⌣˘ღ)And thank you so much! We’re so happy that we are able to brighten some people’s days ♥