um my best friend and I are slowly drifting away from each other for some reason. Online (we're internet besties) she seems to act normal with me. However she seems lively on group chats but never to talk to me anymore?? She told me even if we're apart we're still besties but idk? she has other people and I miss her. Shes one of the only people in this world that makes me feel wanted but I guess I dont matter to her anymore. Im afraid to lose one of the only people that will love me for who I am
Hello friendo, sorry this was answered so late, I hope this can still be relevant O﹏o
I can definitely see where you’re coming from with this, I personally pine for attention and love talking to my friends, and can’t stand to be away from them. It’s good that you’ve taken the time to notice that something was wrong, rather than keeping it inside, and being even more unsure of yourself; the first step to fixing something is to know what the root of it is.
As for your friend, I think that you shouldn’t worry yourself too much. The bond between two people who are close is something that can’t be broken by mere distance or lack of attention; I can attest to that a lot personally. Just because you may think that they don’t want you, or that they are with other people does not mean you are unwanted in any way. (´∇｀) The fact that she wants to keep you close, and that she wants to keep being your best friend shows that she doesn’t want to leave you; she still cares. Sometimes shock or fear may occur after something we have is taken away from us that we care about a lot, but rest assured, it’s still there. Sure, she does has other people; but maybe her words are numerous there, but few with you because she knows that a close friendship is sometimes more than a few words, but the trust and care between two people. I can assure you that if no real reason presents itself that you can think of, that there shouldn’t logically be a reason for her to not be close to you. It’s more than alright to miss someone, how ever long the distance, or short the time; the fact that you pine for them when they aren’t present shows your affection to be with them, however, the relation is between the two.
And of course, you matter. Never, ever say that, even at your lowest, and no matter how hard you have to fight against yourself to not say it. Talking from experience, there is no way that you won’t matter to her or anyone you know as a matter of fact; because you really matter.
You’re so special. You’re unique; you’re you. Every single little part that makes who you are is so beautiful and amazing and is a true miracle of life.You can’t be replaced; no one can ever even hope in their wildest dream to even match up to you. You absolutely do matter, even to her; and the fact that you care about her and the fact that she makes you feel wanted should only strengthen this. And even though she treats you beautifully, and makes sure that she cares for the real and true you, there are many people, you might not even know about that share a similar appreciation for you, and that there are people who care for you in many different ways ◕ ‿ ◕
As for getting back to her, and becoming close to her again, the steps you can take are slow, easy, yet rewarding. Just simple things as engaging in topics together and really just spending time with them is great. Try not to force things on her, and forcefully enter yourself in vain attempts. Let yourself be open to her own discretion on whether you spend time together or not, I’m sure she’ll gladly take you up on the offer. When you do things together, try and have days where the suggestions come from one person, and maybe the next time the can come from the other; a good way to spend time doing what both of you love, and have it be enjoyable too.
But in the end, your friend might seem to be drifting, but maybe it might just be a bump that appears like a mountain. Always give both of you two the benefit of the doubt when it comes to this; maybe what you think isn’t what is really happening.You can do it; the sad feelings you might be having will pass, and those happy thoughts you want will come in due time. Sometimes there are those bad drops in our life where we might all feel like that, but it’s a job for both you and your caring friends to help you, though, and sometimes you might have to initiate that helping hand. Thank you so so so much for writing and sharing your tribulations with us (^w^)
Ganbatte kudasai; you can do it dear!
