MY OPINIONS ON "POPULAR" NARRATIVES ON THE INTERNET #1 (of who knows how many)
The narrative that only spirit, specifically deities can propose a spirit bond (especially in relation to spousalship) has been showing up on my feed a lot lately and in my opinion (and many others) it shouldn't be the only narrative encouraged. I don't necessarily care that that narrative is being shared because it's not my narrative and therefore has nothing to do with me, what I do mind is the WAY that narrative is being shared.
All the posts I've seen so far makes it seem like relationships that don't necessarily fall into that narrative is "fake". The narrative that only the spirit can propose a spirit bond invalidates and demeans (whether intentionally or not) those in relationship with spirit who's relationship doesn't necessarily fall into that box.
It makes it seem like that perspective is the only "right"/"proper" way one can have a relationship with spirit with. Which it's not. Sure, some bring up the argument that it's considered disrespectful for the mortal/human to propose a spirit bond (especially when a deity is involved), but that belief stems from the perspective that "you have to be called by the God to do anything".
I'm not saying that that perspective is wrong or trying to invalidate it in any way. If that's a perspective you're subscribed to than that's cool! Everyone has a right to their own perspectives, beliefs, opinions and experiences. What's not okay is invalidating or making it seem like others' perspectives, beliefs, opinions and experiences (that harm no one) are wrong or impossible just because they're different or even contradicts yours.
Just because a belief, opinion, experience or perspective is contradictory to or different than yours, it doesn't mean it's wrong. Neither, does it mean that yours is wrong either. It just means people have different beliefs, opinions, experiences and perspectives and that's completely okay and valid and no one should be ridicule or insulted just for having different opinions (again, as long as those opinions, beliefs etc. harm no one).
I've spoken to people who's narrative match up with the narrative that's been shared in some way or form and I've spoken to people who's narrative doesn't match up with the narrative that's being shared at all. Heck I fall into both AND neither categories because the relationships I've formed with spirits and the way I've formed those relationships aren't necessarily considered "conventional".
I've spoken to those who's relationships have been proposed to them by the spirit/s AND I've spoke to those who proposed those relationships to the spirit/s WITH the encouragement of said spirit/s. No relationship is the same, neither should it be expected or encouraged that a relationship should fit perfectly into a specific box. However a relationship is formed, it should be formed according to what's best for all the parties involved in that relationship.
No one person's needs will be the same as another's. No one person's perspective on relationships, especially relationships with spirit is the same as another's neither should it be expected or assumed to be. What one relationship requires doesn't necessarily mean another's relationship will require the same thing/s.
Remember when it comes to spirit communication and interaction, your experiences will never exactly match up with another's experiences. Neither should it be assumed, even if another's experiences seem familiar to yours there will always be some difference and that's okay and valid.
The way spirits communicate and interact with someone will also not be the same as the way they communicate and interact with another. A spirit might for instance prefer proposing a spirit bond themselves when they're with you and they might prefer the human/mortal propose the spirit bond themselves when they're with someone else.
The human/mortal proposing themselves might even be something the spirit has been helping the human/mortal work on. Both is valid and okay and it doesn't mean that the spirit is a "trickster"/"imposter" just because someone's experiences with them doesn't match up with yours. Spirits are multi-faceted beings.
Whatever your perspective is, whether it matches up with the narrative that only the spirit can propose a spirit bond or it matches up with the narrative that it's valid when the human/mortal proposes a spirit bond to the spirit or it doesn't match up with either narrative it's completely valid and okay and shouldn't be something to feel bad about or feel bad for thinking differently. Individuality is a dope thing and something most spirits advocate and encourage.
