Submission - #Diffurent
Thank you Kelly, it does make sense but how do I move on from it? Whenever we’re not talking, it really hurts cause I miss him and I just feel really empty. And every time I think of the fact that we’re not together and how he says we’ll never be together again, I can’t stop myself from crying.. Like even when I try to distract myself by talking to other people, I can’t stay interested in the conversation and feel like I’d rather be having one with him instead, even if we’re not together. It’s just the way he talks that makes me feel really comfortable about being myself and how it’s just so different from everyone else. I really miss him. I find it hard to move on because it feels like I’ll never be able to find someone who can make me feel like this and also cause I’m afraid that if I move on, I’m letting something that could’ve worked go if only I held on.. 😪
It’s really hard right now because you never allow yourself to be far away enough from him. breakups are never easy. You’re going to cry for the first 2 months. You’ll hate him for a month. You’ll miss him terribly for 6 months and you’ll want to do anything and everything to get back together. However, when you’re not talking to him, when you force yourself to not call him in the middle of the night, you begin to form a distance between yourself and him. You begin to find your own dependence outside of him.
It’ll suck. I promise you that. You’ll hate it and it’ll hurt a hell lot, but it’s necessary. Give yourself 6 months. 6 months to find yourself again. To be you. To be everything that you are. To be sad. To cry. to make new friends. to rekindle the relationships you severed when you got together with him. To find new hobbies. To eat the foods that you liked but he didn’t. To do things that you liked but he didn’t. Give yourself at least that.
Does it mean that you’ll be A-okay in 6 months? No. But it means that you’ll start to find out new things about yourself and some days you’ll go without thinking about him. That’s when you realise that it’s possible. It’s possible to be without him.
I don’t believe that there aren’t better people out there. If there weren’t, then things would’ve worked out for you. Things happen the way they do because it knows there are better things ahead. Sure, there’s a chance that you’ll find each other again in the distant future but should you have to wait around for it? what if it doesn’t happen for 10years? Are you going to hang onto him for 10 years?
Don’t be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you. You deserve more than that. Even if he was great, you deserved more than someone who doesn’t want to be with you.
Don’t torture yourself anymore. Come be my friend. Breakups are tough but it’s tougher to get your hopes up. Cry. Gain a couple kilos. And then gather yourself as best as you can and move on.
Always by your side,
Kelly
