hi just wondering what made you want to get ur life together? im still in the loop of consuming self help content and planning everything but i haven’t really started accomplishing anything to make myself improve and its making me feel bad, but i just cant seem to find the push to make me start. any advice?
✧ what made me want to get my life together ✧
hey lovely! ✨
first of all, thank you so much for this question - it's something i think about a lot, and honestly? i completely understand where you're at right now. that cycle of consuming content but not taking action is something i was stuck in for the longest time.
for me, the turning point wasn't one big dramatic moment. it was actually a random tuesday when i realized i'd spent three hours scrolling through "how to be productive" videos without doing anything productive at all. the irony hit me so hard i had to laugh at myself!
what really pushed me to change was this tiny realization: all the planning and researching in the world couldn't replace even 5 minutes of actual doing. i was using self-improvement content as a form of procrastination, and it was giving me the illusion of progress without any real change.
here's what helped me break the cycle:
start ridiculously small i mean truly tiny steps. not "organize my entire room" but "put away three items." the smaller the action, the harder it is to talk yourself out of it. these micro-wins create momentum.
recognize that motivation follows action this was life-changing for me! i always thought i needed to feel motivated to act, but it's actually the opposite. taking even the tiniest action creates the motivation for the next step.
create a "done list" instead of a to-do list at the end of each day, write down what you actually accomplished, no matter how small. this shifts your focus from what you haven't done to what you have done.
find an accountability buddy having someone to check in with made such a difference for me. we send each other a simple text when we complete our daily mini-goals.
notice your resistance without judgment when you don't want to do something, get curious about that feeling instead of beating yourself up. ask "what am i afraid might happen if i try this?"
the most important thing i've learned is that transformation isn't about massive overnight change. it's about those tiny daily choices that seem insignificant in the moment but compound over time.
and please remember - the fact that you're asking this question shows you care deeply about your growth. that awareness is already the first step, and it's a really important one.
what's one tiny action you could take in the next 5 minutes? start there, and i promise the next step will feel a little easier.
sending you so much love and support on your journey! 🤍
xoxo, mindy
