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Abortion

After many years of trying to have a baby, our first pregnancy ended with an abortion. I think it’s important to take the time to address the reality of the situation.

Trigger Warning; Abortion/Miscarriage/Loss. Previous: Embryo Transfer #1 Throughout my entire childhood, I always knew that my mom had trouble getting pregnant and ended up going through 5 miscarriages before I was born. I listened to her talk about it, and I knew that she had names chosen out for each one of the siblings that I never had. I never quite knew how to feel for her. I never…

Abortion

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A year to remember

I’ve now been a father for an entire year. After spending so much of my life waiting and hoping for that to happen, and going through IVF and all its emotions with my wife, I am so incredibly proud to call myself a dad. This past year, I have held a baby every single day, and every day I think about how one day he’ll be too big to hold. Every parent I know says that time goes by so fast and…

A year to remember

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9 months is a short and long time all at once. I am so grateful we've been able to experience this together after so many years, and life will completely change very soon.

9 Months

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This post goes back to the beginning of pregnancy #2, when we found out that the second embryo transfer was successful. After the first embryo's story ended too soon, we were hesitant, but thankfully the excitement has continued.

Pregnancy #2

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Embryo transfer #2

Previous: Abortion August 24, 2024 The week of our 8th wedding anniversary. Once again not something we imagined we would be doing surrounding a life event. This time feels different. I think it feels almost like our 2nd IUI. We know what to expect now and the trip into the fertility clinic feels so routine and uneventful. It’s nice to feel comfortable about these things. Another difference…

Embryo transfer #2

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my first poem, early biography of me and who i now know to be my biological dad

Cell number 2. Hand selected, cultivated, a swimmer, tied at the finishing line..

Blue gloves determine the womb deserved. 

9 months later removed, dissected out,

2nd to the first, male.

No tears, no fuss,

waiting for the next order

Measured. Legs long,

head circumference small,

hair red, eyes blue

Milestones completed, all is well

Does he know?

Cell no.2 has grown

Cell no.2 is flawed, conscious of self. 

Can he know?

Tower Hamlets homes Creator 1. A former poet, comedian…

Was no.2 one of his jokes?

Does she know?

Park view homes cell no.2. Does she know?

What was she made for?

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Embryo Transfer #1

We talk about what it's like to have our first IVF embryo transfer.

Previous: Andrea Part 5: Stims May 7th, 2024 The mood going into our first embryo transfer was optimism and excitement, finally being here and feeling so close after many years. Before the procedure, Andrea needed to have a full bladder. When we got to the front counter to check in, I told her I was going to go to the washroom and the person at the counter joked that I had to have a full…

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Fertility Part 22: Egg retrieval/Embryos

Embryos are not babies. But they are a critical step. In this part of our journey, I tell you all about how many embryos we get, and how we got them.

Previous: Fertility Part 21: Follicles We drove into Vancouver in the morning, April 2,2024. The night before felt strange, not having any other injections to do, but it was oddly relieving as well. We got checked in pretty quickly and set up in a prep and recovery bay. They came to take her blood pressure and other vitals, talked through the entire procedure, and put in her IV. Andrea had a…

Fertility Part 22: Egg retrieval/Embryos