Season Secrets : July 24th
Recognise when someone only does enough to keep you around.
It is important to know when a partner isn't all that into you but wants to keep you around just for the sake of it or as a back up measure.
The partner who has 'bad communication' (In quotes because let's be real hun , are they bad at communicating or are they bad at communicating with YOU) and is always 'busy' (again cause really.) yet when you are finally about to hit your last straw they suddenly decide to spend an entire day with you filled with passionate kisses and cuddles then they convince you that 'He really does make me happy' or 'she really does care'. However as soon as you are feeling all lovey-dovey again , they disappear or the affectionate gestures lessen. Love, I have to break it to you - That partner of yours is playing games with your heart and they know it, cut them off or at least monitor that shit and leave.
The situationship you 'think' could work but they seem to disappear for a few weeks then come back as if nothing happened. Different scenario, you see them with multiple potentials and you see them going out consistently then randomly they remember you exist and start flirting again because your validation and attention seems to be the easiest to access. Last case scenario, every time you guys talk they always end up making the conversation sexual and being explicit about the things they want to do to you without even answering your 'how are you'. Love, what is this you are entertaining, stand up please , ew.
The gifter. I'm not going to lie, I love the gifter especially when I'm not emotionally invested but anyways for those of us that are. This person knows what you like and they use that information so well you won't even consider the fact that they are stringing you along. He knows you like to shower with Dove so he comes home with a Dove essentials basket at 10 PM when he said he'd be there by 7 PM. She buys tickets to see the new Thor which makes you forget she hasn't called in 3 weeks and all because ' Baby, I bought us tickets in the private booth , I've missed you'. They buy you matching bracelets so that they can think of you when they are away for their 3rd trip that week. Love, relax and get a grip. Take yourself out, invest in some introspection and ponder about why they still don't satisfy you.
The ones who keep delaying their answer when you ask them pointed questions. Ugh, I hate this type. These ones won't even give you the 'let's just go with the flow' line instead they'll say 'Let me think about it and I'll tell you tomorrow' then that tomorrow never reaches smh. Firstly because you think you'll be a turn off for asking a second time so you don't ask and secondly ,since they see you as a game or they might simply not want to answer they'll just act like they forgot. When you do ask again , more excuses roll in to buy more time. I've had my fair share of those but the worst one was "I didn't go outside today so it doesn't count" and I let it slide , can you imagine ( I'm better now , thank you for asking). Love, these set of individuals don't deserve your time, they literally don't benefit you in any way like the rest , if you're going to be strung along at least let them buy you gifts, validate you or tell you their sweet sweet lies as compensation.
As always this isn't a finite list, just a relevant one. Protect yourself out there, it's not safe for us babes who love a little too with a bit too much hope. Recognizing when a romantic partner is leading you on is such an important skill to master so that you can stop wasting your time or at the very least stop placing so much value on the person by moving them to the bottom of the roster. I've been both the victim and the perp for at least one of these and I can tell you for free , they know what they are doing and they are definitely telling their friends about it while laughing at you. Such is life, people don't change too often so babe learn the tricks and CUT THEM OFF.
