Unsurprisingly, I see a lot of conversation about the infamous ‘gender pay gap’.
A lot of opinions, and strongly held believes, and plenty of information that is not accurate, or at least… not anymore.
For the nature and shape of the pay gap has changed. And so out of the outrage, garbled conjecture, and political agendas; must come a new conversation that once again asks, ‘why are women paid less?’
Because the truth is, it’s not ‘women’ who are getting paid less, but rather ‘women with children’.
Mothers who are out of work, either full or part time, whose lower income drags the average down - they are a large piece of the conversation, too often missing.
No. Women are not paid less than men, and such slogans belong in the museum, not upon the placards of today.
Now it’s time to talk about parenthood.
To honestly discuss why mothers are paid less than fathers, and ask if this is a result of societal expectations… or women’s own free choices?
Do women want to be part time parents?
Do men? Who wants to work full time at a job they don’t even like anyway?
We rightly talk about the price of motherhood on women; but what is the price of barely seeing your child at all?
What is the price of the late nights at work, or early morning shifts; or the second job, to make ends meet?
Also if mothers are to get equal pay, are they willing to share their parental leave with fathers in order to get it?
These are better questions.
And one’s I don’t see asked.
Instead I find the pay gap conversation to be a broken record; that redirects energy from logic and reason, into outrage and anger instead.
Yet another stick to hit ‘men’ with, another patriarchal poster child, and sermon preached from the pulpit.
It is a gap that is never closed, because it is never truly discussed.
So tell me, what’s in the gap?
The Economist, Motherhood Penalty:
https://www.economist.com/graphic-detail/2019/01/28/how-big-is-the-wage-penalty-for-mothers
US Census Bureau:
https://towardsdatascience.com/is-the-difference-in-work-hours-the-real-reason-for-the-gender-wage-gap-interactive-infographic-6051dff3a041?gi=2dc24b441466
Denmark Study:
https://www.aeaweb.org/articles?id=10.1257/app.20180010
The Pay Gap Explained, full video:
https://youtu.be/hP8dLUxBfsU
What's in the gap is different choices and different priorities. It's sexist to act like men's choices are the default, correct ones, and if men and women make different choices and get different outcomes, there's a problem that needs to be solved.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/18179326/
Abstract
Previous research suggested that sex differences in personality traits are larger in prosperous, healthy, and egalitarian cultures in which women have more opportunities equal with those of men. In this article, the authors report cross-cultural findings in which this unintuitive result was replicated across samples from 55 nations (N = 17,637). On responses to the Big Five Inventory, women reported higher levels of neuroticism, extraversion, agreeableness, and conscientiousness than did men across most nations. These findings converge with previous studies in which different Big Five measures and more limited samples of nations were used. Overall, higher levels of human development--including long and healthy life, equal access to knowledge and education, and economic wealth--were the main nation-level predictors of larger sex differences in personality. Changes in men's personality traits appeared to be the primary cause of sex difference variation across cultures. It is proposed that heightened levels of sexual dimorphism result from personality traits of men and women being less constrained and more able to naturally diverge in developed nations. In less fortunate social and economic conditions, innate personality differences between men and women may be attenuated.
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27000535/
Abstract
Men's and women's personalities appear to differ in several respects. Social role theories of development assume gender differences result primarily from perceived gender roles, gender socialization and sociostructural power differentials. As a consequence, social role theorists expect gender differences in personality to be smaller in cultures with more gender egalitarianism. Several large cross-cultural studies have generated sufficient data for evaluating these global personality predictions. Empirically, evidence suggests gender differences in most aspects of personality-Big Five traits, Dark Triad traits, self-esteem, subjective well-being, depression and values-are conspicuously larger in cultures with more egalitarian gender roles, gender socialization and sociopolitical gender equity. Similar patterns are evident when examining objectively measured attributes such as tested cognitive abilities and physical traits such as height and blood pressure. Social role theory appears inadequate for explaining some of the observed cultural variations in men's and women's personalities. Evolutionary theories regarding ecologically-evoked gender differences are described that may prove more useful in explaining global variation in human personality.