#elderqueer

[openfortressplanet]

Why is she enraged that I'm bisexual and masculine? I'm not attracted to femme lesbians, I've been clear about that since I was a teen. Why is she mad? How is me being attracted to nonbinary people, trans masculine, femme queer cis men, and soft bi and ace butches and studs a problem for her? How is me being bi4bi and t4t an issue? Why bring biphobia my way?

🟤I do not enter Lesbian spaces.

🟤I do not enter Queer Women of Color spaces (anymore).

🟤I do not enter Sapphic spaces.

🟤I do not enter WLW spaces.

🟤 I don't even comment on Lesbian posts about their negative experiences with bisexual femme women.

🩷💜💙 I'm minding my own bisexual business; I do not tolerate being called confused, a cheater, leading lesbian women on, settling for straight men, and all the other biphobic b.s. into my safe offline and online spaces that I've created.

🤝I was married for 22 years to a queer femme pan ace Black man and was sexually monagamous. Its cringe, how there is an assumption that we were not. Not all bi folks are sexual cheaters. Not all bi folks are flirting with lesbians and leading them on.

🫂 I've had plenty queerplatonic consensual relationships with bi masc women, trans women, trans men and nonbinary folks whilst married.

🚫I'm not interested in cis het hypermasc men nor straight women. I'm sexually monogamous and enjoying my single life and open for a healthy bi4bi or t4t future relationship when I am ready.

👋🏾I do not have any issue with lesbians who do not want to date or be platonic friends with me.

There really is no need to be angry at a bi androgyne who is at peace and not causing harm.

🩷💜💙Happy Pride 2026🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

[openfortressplanet]

Friendships, Community, and illness.

When I'm non contagious sick and self ID friend (s) falsely assume that I need to be left alone with no checkins, I observe their false assumption. My trust is readjusted and any thought of caring community action from them, when sick, is gone.

I accept their limitations and carry on.

I can see my personal growth. :)

I'm not chasing care by calling out their disappearing and awkward reappear when I'm well.

...they may desire social isolation and emotional neglect when they are (non contagious) sick, yet that doesnt mean I do.

[openfortressplanet]

In 2026, I've met 2 people so far who have never seen a pride flag. 2 humans who are under 35 yrs old, live in a major North American city, yet never seen the 🏳️‍🌈 flag, nor knew that it existed!

I'm still baffled by that.

But then again, if you are deep into religious spaces and all your social spaces are anti- 🌈 people, and are told its either [fill in religious doctrine] or nothing else, than yah, they never seen it.

Ngl, if I was still deep into my childhood spaces I would have not have access to seeing the 🏳️‍🌈 flag and still be in secret turmoil about who I am.

[openfortressplanet]

That moment when a person from my own ethnic group pretends that there are zero LGBTQIA+ people who live in our homeland.

Ya'll got colonized mentality and are in a violent stage of denial.

And they shocked that I could be 50+ yrs old, be of my ethnicity, and still be alive. Ehhhhhh plenty of us are roaming this planet and far far far away from our ethnic group!

The bigoted folks in our ethnic groups don't deserve to see us thriving. No need to put on a 'proof of existence' show on for them.

[rapeculturerealities]

TikTok’s Elderqueer Creators Bring LGBTQ+ History to Life

From @Your_Lesbian.Mom to “The Old Gays,” a growing community of older queer TikTokers are connecting with legions of young fans.

TikTok also allows viewers to have the feeling that they’re building an ongoing conversation with a queer elders. Because creators speak directly to the camera, the videos often have a sense of intimacy akin to a FaceTime call, with the ability to follow one person’s story through a YouTube-like profile page. This is certainly the case for Calla Felicity (@callafelicity), a 68-year-old nonbinary lesbian and minifarmer who first broke onto the platform last November, with a video of them simply smiling to the camera, captioned with the word “elderqueer” and hashtags relating to the nonbinary community. Many of the comments on that video and ones that followed ask Felicity to be their “auncle” or mentor (one even asks, “Can you be my fairygodbutch?”) Finding an audience on the app felt like reconnecting to the world and a welcome “distraction” to the recent end of her 32-year marriage, she says.

With her bright green hair and gentle voice, Felicity’s presence is calming as she shares TikToks about how her identity has shifted through the past five decades. She came out as a lesbian in 1976, when lesbian culture was heavily focused on “butch” and “femme” identities, neither of which she felt fit. It wasn’t until years later that they began using the term nonbinary, even though they had felt that way since the age of 3. Felicity’s age and wisdom offers validation and comfort to their younger nonbinary viewers, since gender nonconformity is often mistakenly viewed as being “new” or “trendy.”

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[kimilat]

Reposted from @bluejaguarlove Aging in this queer body of mine has been an ongoing journey of embracing and letting go, running away and running towards, deep disappointment and proud curiosity. and as someone whose body includes a uterus, the cycles of bleeding have had an impact. it’s something that I never quite understood - for my body, in my body - and now that I’m moving thru menopause, oof. so much is coming up! @mkali_hashiki and I joined creative healing forces and have been all up in the absurd and the sexy and the discomfort and the hilarity of menopause — and are so excited to launch a series of interactive conversations (starting feb 21) for queer, trans, intersex Black, Indigenous and people of color who have bled/bleed who are going thru menopause as well. We are all about breaking down the taboos and reclaiming the sacred and profane of our bodied experiences. Menopause (a term we are using to encompass both perimenopause and the menopausal experience) can be a confusing and often private threshold that many QTIBIPOC folks who have a uterus will experience. The ways that our bodies transgress social norms and disrupt cultural narratives informs how we navigate this liminal space. This is a time of evolution into our next incarnation(s). What do we want this evolution to look like? Who do we want to be on the other side of it? How do we understand this space without using the lens of White Supremacy and colonial notions of the “good body”? Living under White Supremacy involves hiding, being ashamed of, or disgusted by our bodily fluids. We believe that part of throwing off the lens of colonial bullshit is to embrace our bodies, the realness, to not look away from the blood & the clots. If the title makes you uncomfortable or even turns you off, we invite you to sit with that & investigate what comes up, We invite you into a 3-part conversation to explore stories we carry within our bodies about the nuances and taboos of menstrual bleeding and aging:  Feb 21 - Part 1: Cultural narratives of Menopause Mar 7 - Part 2: Gender & the Aging Body  Mar 21 - Part 3:  Menopausal Sex & Desire #menopause #bipochealing #queeringmenopause #elderqueer https://www.instagram.com/p/CLnzvMJghzE/?igshid=1p5ilurt541r

[geneticallyawesomejotx]

That feeling when you get a personal invitation to an event that the most radical, feminist Lesbian Professor on your campus is hosting at her home with only a small group of the queerest/activist students being invited.