Sorry if I don’t believe in “love at first sight”, when physical attraction became stronger that person seems to be so perfect in your eyes. You got lost in someone’s moves, gestures, hair, eyes, lips, body figures, fashion, interest and talents, that’s all what you see. You’re being naive and outside beauty matter most when you are infatuated. These things lead us to think that person is perfect for you, that you have already found the person you are going to be with forever. It’s like you want them so bad because s/he is such a big fish in the ocean. Infatuation is like putting a blind fold. It hinders you to see the reality, you believe that you can be a superman of her life, or you probably think that you are a princess. Your thought about being in love is something like fantasy and sad to say it drives you to go further.
Infatuation also tolerates your insecurity, emptiness and jealousy. That’s why you have the strength to just settle for something less. Do you think its love when you keep staying to someone that doesn’t even see your worth? When you are infatuated you disregard anything that is wrong to a person. It’s like “I don’t care! I want him/her so much. S/he is going to make happened my dream love story someday.” Maybe it’s not. Maybe s/he is just good for your ego or you’re just afraid to be alone and or you’re just sick of your terrible life so you use him/her as a reliever.
But yes, I do believe that physical attraction is another part of falling in love. Infatuation can be a part of falling in love, I cannot deny it. When you develop the infatuation and you can isolate your fantasy from the reality then it becomes love. I say it once again, “Just another part” because love is not all about outside beauty. Inner beauty has the big contribution in love plus the commitment for the betterment of both of you. This is where the “for better or for worse” goes in. What’s wrong with people is when they promise that they will stay for better or for worse, they just mean for the better. That’s why there are unsuccessful marriages. Because love is not just a plain affection, it can’t stand alone, it should have commitment. This kind of love can survive the bad times, illness and the sinking of the relationship. Love is never blind. It’s not about just accepting your partner’s flaws. It’s about leading them in the right way that despite of your differences you’re always together to fulfil the imperfections. Love is supported by action, a sort of devotion in the things you guys do for each other every day not just as a self satisfaction.
It’s love when you’re into reality over fantasy. It’s infatuation when you’re into fantasy over reality. Because eventually, when you get married you can’t stay living in your fantasy when reality is there haunting you.