Have you read Bloodline? You know where Leia and Luke decided to lie to the public that Luke is the one who killed Vader and the Emperor on the Death Star, because Laia think if people know that if there is still good in Vader, she will have to answer uncomfortable questions and Luke just went along with it. And no one told Ben the truth until he is 23 and he learned it from other people? And if this is the Luke and Leia in the new Star Wars and I don't know if I can enjoy it anymore.
I haven’t read it, though I’ve heard quite a bit about what happens. I’m pretty much ‘eh, we’ll see what shows up in the movies.’
It’s not my interpretation of things, though I can’t say I find it any worse than the old EU’s treatment of them, either (I didn’t like the portrayals of Luke and Leia even in fairly well-received things, much less the likes of Dark Empire). I’ve always treated material outside the films/scripts as potentially fun but ultimately only relevant insofar as it shows up in the films.
I think a lot of the fandom has wished otherwise at various points, but the fact of the matter is this: the films shape the EU, not the other way around. The filmmakers provide material for the EU, or seize material from it if they feel like, but they are never bound by it in any way. And I don’t think there’s any reason fans should be, either.
That said, I like the author, and I’m glad it was generally successful even if it’s not canon to me.