Getting Carried Away with A Relationship
In a relationship, you need to constantly reevaluate it and reflect on how you are. A lot of us get carried away with relationships, especially with long term relationships, we often forget about the nitty gritty of it. We start hurling mean words and demands to the other person, not because we mean it, but because we simply feel like it or just lost focus on the fragility of how a relationship can be. Perhaps the stress around you has really sunk in and you have no other outlets to go rant to so you just transfer the burden onto your partner. Of course we never mean to but it’s very easily looked over especially when we get carried away with ourselves and with the relationship.
This is when you really need to step back at once and think to yourself, would you love the person you are for doing that? If the answer is no. Then you might have to make some serious changes to yourself or else you risk losing this person for life.
One example of this is my relationship I had with my ex-boyfriend. He was amazing, non-judgmental, compassionate and empathetic. Although he wasn’t prince charming, I couldn’t care less because I vouch for a persons character over any sort of materialism. I got carried away with the relationship because I was experiencing stresses coming in from all directions but the problem was I didn’t know how to handle it. In my ex’s eyes, we were far from being compatible and he overestimated the affection I required, when really, I was just dealing with small moments of crisis where I would transfer the burden of stress onto him. Of course, he suffered and I was regretful I was this way. Because I got carried away and didn’t know how to handle my stress.
So this self-evaluation, which unfortunately occurred 2 weeks of no contact and many sleepless nights, allowed me to transform myself. To be stoic and face my problems head on instead of letting it slide, ignoring it and inevitably allowing others to be affected by it.
Although, I have transformed completely and have felt shame from reflecting on who I was towards someone I loved and cared deeply for. It was too late, I have committed irreversible damage to my ex and his perspective of me.
Smart people learn from mistakes, wise people learn from mistakes of others. I was the former.