Layman’s Guide to Winning Your Ex Back
This isn’t a one size fits all guide but these are tips that have more of a positive chance of getting your Ex back rather than not.
21 days to 60 days of no contact and no silly posts that hints you’re still madly in love with them. No contact rule does not mean you cry into your pillow for 60 days straight until you are finally allowed to speak to him again. It means that during this time, you’re healing yourself from the shock of the break up to avoid bottled up anger in the future with that loved one. Also, during this time, you’re working on improving yourself. Don’t think this time means you’re only drinking your sorrows away every other night and partying it up. You occupy yourself with healthy distractions. Dita Von Teese says she took up horse riding and it worked in her favour because of how much attention that is required in that sport. Kate Middleton took up competitive boat racing, which required early morning wake ups for training. This not only proves to the person that you’re independent and capable of taking of yourself when you’re alone but it is extremely attractive trait to pick yourself up from the floor and push yourself to do more! This isn’t to say that these two women did it all to win back their ex but they did it for themselves, which is another reason why it made them so attractive.
*During the no contact time, when the person tries to contact you again, you need to hold off from responding back. If the person is already trying to contact you again, it shows that this person has grown curious of you and this curiosity will only deepen if you step away and resist!
This will not only impress your partner it will also prove to your partner that you are a decent and mature person and it is something they can actually grow fond of. It is actually rare to find these days to find partners that can end on amicable terms. My boyfriend actually mentioned this once to me after our “short breakup”, commenting how impressed he was on how I handled the situation and he said that it is actually “rare”.
3. Don’t Make Him Jealous, Show Him how Happy you are
This kind of draws back to the first point. Independent people who are capable of picking themselves up after a bad break up are very attractive! Making him jealous will only cause upset and anger and it is ultimately an amateur thing to do if you want to get back into a healthy relationship. What you need to do is show him how happy you are without them. This doesn’t mean posting a photo of you getting heavily drunk with the boys on a saturday night. Because that will only mean to them that you have resorted to destructive behaviours and this may lessen the chances of him making a reappearance into your life.
4. Work on Yourself from the Inside and Out
It might be hard to bring yourself to go to the gym he once went with you or to eat healthily when all you can do is occupy yourself with thoughts about wanting him back. But once you display self-love and care, you can only achieve more. I mean think about it logically, when you are feeling good and looking good it reflects positively with other people.Therefore, when you are upset and angry over a loss which is also very understandable we resort to do things that won’t bring us any closer to getting our ex’s back! Wouldn’t it be nice to bump into your ex to see that you started to look after your skin and health and watch their jaw drop to the ground??? It will plant a seed into their mind that perhaps this time the relationship will be different. Not only will it attract that person but it will also attract other people which will only make you seem more desirable in their eyes!
5. Increase your standards of yourself
This could mean drinking more water, going outside more, being more social and making new friends! A bigger social circle means you are increasing your opportunities. Nowadays, physical evolution has been replaced by social evolution, we are all climbing the social ladder to become acquainted with confident and smart people. So having a bigger social circle will make you more attractive and it all starts with making small changes in your life.