#exp ask

[intj-irl]

Most intj's grew up emotionally stable, but for me it was the exact opposite. I grew up very emotional (elementary school age), but as I've grown I became less emotional. I fake emotions even though I don't feel the same internally. Is this unusual?

Can you prove that “most” INTJs grew up emotionally stable? We don’t know if that’s the case. But let’s try to find out whether it might be true or not.

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- Rain

[intj-irl]

I don't know if it's just me, but every single time I walk into a room, I do a quick scan of everyone in the room, the nearest exit/several escape routes, possible weapons, who I know, who looks "uneasy", and only then do I take a seat. It happens so quickly, I don't even think I control it. Is this an INTJ thing, or is it just paranoia from those exaggerated school shooting precaution videos?

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- Rain

[intj-irl]

Is it usual to have fears of commitment and contact as an INTJ?

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- Rain

[intj-irl]

I've had depression since 3 years. And it pissed me off because of my stagnation. I WANT to do things. I PLAN to do things. But when it comes to action I always feel completely empty and I just can't starting to do. Not things which I've planned. Just things. My lack of productive actions makes me feel enormously worse. I hate my procrastination. Is it common to depressed INTJs? How should I fight with it?

Since I have never actually suffered from a depression myself, I leave this to my followers.

Fellow INTJs, can you relate? And if so, do you have any advice?

- Rain

[intj-irl]

I am nearly positive I am an intj. I feel as though I fit all the requirements and indentify with most of the people who submit to this page. However, I often see people on here talk about their lack of "crushes." I, however, am always crushing on someone. Usually, I quickly recognize that we could never date because of our complete incompatibility, but nonetheless I still like them for a short time. Could other intj's respond to this telling if they too experience crushes? lol

Myself, I tend to develop strong obsessions with people I find interesting; in a way I suppose that could be compared to having a crush. In this regard, I have found - just like you - that I don’t relate to many of the INTJs who rarely develop crushes.

Does anyone want to share their own experiences? Feel free to leave a reply.

- Rain

[intj-irl]

I tend to see people as variables interacting and fail to see much reason in anything but learning and gaining pleasure (Likely my Se) Is this a typical INTJ thing or just INTJ mixed with a life of no companionship and trust issues?

Let’s see what other INTJs have to say on the matter.

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- Rain

[intj-irl]

As much as my life revolves around rationalizing everything around me, and I'm just completely awful with emotions, I consider myself a hopeless romantic in that I yearn for the validation that something like soulmates exist. Do other INTJs also wish to believe in some form of irrationality?

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- Rain

[intj-irl]

"When I do have a very rare emotional outburst, it is almost always mistakenly perceived as anger. In fact it often is disappointment, sadness, despair or even enthusiasm. Is that just me or do other INTJ experience this? I'm not an expert in expressing feelings but this just discourages me even more."

This is something at least I can relate to. What do you other INTJs out there think? Relate/don’t relate? Leave a reply.

- Rain