#extroverted feelings

[soul-filled-with-flowers]

The curse of feeling and thinking too deeply.

Being an INFJ is probably the personality type most affected by the “feeling and thinking too deeply” curse. I mean this as something that’s happening at the same time. Some people may say that they are overthinkers, while others are the emotionals — but perhaps the INFJ got the worst end of the stick of having both.

Feelings and emotions are something that is free flowing to INFJ’s due to their good hold of Fe. While overthinking or rather, living inside their heads, is also supplied by the “always on” Ni. Not to mention that Ti is a bad supporter of the Ni during stressful situations. Inside a stressed INFJ’s mind is an overflowing battle between the Ni-Ti and Fe because for some reason, Fe is always illogical and Ni-Ti is always firm and harsh. In this part, the INTJ’s got it easy by turning off their emotions effectively – their Ni-Te will do its work and they can move to the next project without any issue or remorse.

But the INFJ will both feel deeply and overthink – at the same time – and they can’t really stop it. Their default mode is to use the Ni, which is a double edged sword that just gives the outcomes they thought would happen. In the first place, the source of the INFJ stress is when their Ni fails. But the Fe tends to worsen the situation with its irrationality. Overall, it’s easy to overload.

And that is probably why the doorslam becomes their next step for self-preservation. As long as they fuel their Fe, the battle will not end and they will grow very tired and very weary and very unhealthy. But even as they grow tired, the emotions feel as strong as ever. Other types can probably last a long time grieving over failed relationships because they can, but for someone who feels like dying everyday just because of “feeling things” – it has to end. It’s basically a choice between keeping the memory or ourselves alive. The choice was never easy, but it just had to be.

[kendrixtermina]

Lower Function Progress Report

Si: I can make edible food now. Yay! Since I read about functions & found out that I could be good at this before I hit middle age I made an effort of taking note of how each vegetable smells/feels to the touch while you cut it. 

I think it’s working. For example, I’ve noticed stuff like how the smell becomes really pervasive when you add the salt. Not sure if I’m getting faster/ more practiced at cutting stuff, but I did improve at gauging how long to fry/cook things. 

Recently, I was flipping through a few fun pictures of my “creations” that I’d taken mostly to inform my family of my progress, and one of them - as it would be expected, one that was both a particular success and intertwined with personal significance because of the conversation that followed sending that pic - sparked a pretty vivid, ‘flashback’ style memory of it’s crispy friend consistency, the parts of my mouth it grazed and how it combined with that joghurt sauce, and what I felt during the afore mentioned conversation, taste, smell, consistency, temperature, all of it. So yeah.   

I’ve also tried to be more aware/mindful of when this keeps me from leaving my comfort zone for no good reason, though. 

Next step would probably be to try to develop a better sense of when an object needs cleaning. Speaking of which, I should probably go down the stairs to get the vacuum one of these days but r/n I’m too lazy. *cleans local sink, then keeps writing*

Fe:

I think I’ve grasped the minute nuance between “^^” and “^-^” and made attempts at using them more strategically, also lots of “^^°” which I didn’t before. So that’s something. 

RL wise, I try to stick to that advice of “When you notice something poitive about something someone does, try to explicitly say it” I do think it improves things? Not sure. But there’s nothing worse than a person who only ever complains & tears everything down. I don’t want to be that sort, or be perceived as such if I can help it. 

I realize I’m not nearly ready (and might not ever be) for “tips” like “try to invite your co-workers to hang out” (shudders. Though it woulds obvsly depend on the co-worker. )

Apart from all that, I’ve been trying to pay more attention to/ make conscious evalutations of random hunches/ specific premptive in order to get more mileage out of that shadow-Ni; I suppose making an effort to continue into progression and not just alternatives when playing something through in my mind could also help.  As I just started that, I can’t say if it’s doing any good tho.

 I have been able to accurately predict/guess wether my boyfriend is actually going to make it for a certain meeting, maybe based on when he calls & what he mentions? Like one day I said, “I’d like to hang out with you more mom, but I think today he’ll actually make it and I wanna be home in that case” and indeed, he got his work finished in time. I’m aware that this might always be a sporadic thing and that I’ll never get anything resembling my second-youngest sister’s output (then again, I can live without fussing over which vacation home room I get months in advance) but I might as well make full use of it within my limited capabilities. 

[lifethrucrystallizedeyes]

Fi users radiate love. When they're happy, they make others happy too.

Fe users store love. They only have so much they can give to make others happy.