#doorslam

[catmeowfia]

[izmatic]

“The moral of this story is that no matter how much we try;

no matter how much we want it ... some stories just don’t have a happy ending.”

Not sure who wrote this but I feel it.

[myinfjworld]

Living with a Doorslam

I don’t trust myself anymore...

Not now that I know I am capable of breaking someone’s heart and not looking back...

How do I love again without the fear that one day I might break and walk away forever...

I didn’t used to have this fear, but now I know myself better... now I know I know I am capable of hurting someone worse then I ever thought I could....

[soul-filled-with-flowers]

The curse of feeling and thinking too deeply.

Being an INFJ is probably the personality type most affected by the “feeling and thinking too deeply” curse. I mean this as something that’s happening at the same time. Some people may say that they are overthinkers, while others are the emotionals — but perhaps the INFJ got the worst end of the stick of having both.

Feelings and emotions are something that is free flowing to INFJ’s due to their good hold of Fe. While overthinking or rather, living inside their heads, is also supplied by the “always on” Ni. Not to mention that Ti is a bad supporter of the Ni during stressful situations. Inside a stressed INFJ’s mind is an overflowing battle between the Ni-Ti and Fe because for some reason, Fe is always illogical and Ni-Ti is always firm and harsh. In this part, the INTJ’s got it easy by turning off their emotions effectively – their Ni-Te will do its work and they can move to the next project without any issue or remorse.

But the INFJ will both feel deeply and overthink – at the same time – and they can’t really stop it. Their default mode is to use the Ni, which is a double edged sword that just gives the outcomes they thought would happen. In the first place, the source of the INFJ stress is when their Ni fails. But the Fe tends to worsen the situation with its irrationality. Overall, it’s easy to overload.

And that is probably why the doorslam becomes their next step for self-preservation. As long as they fuel their Fe, the battle will not end and they will grow very tired and very weary and very unhealthy. But even as they grow tired, the emotions feel as strong as ever. Other types can probably last a long time grieving over failed relationships because they can, but for someone who feels like dying everyday just because of “feeling things” – it has to end. It’s basically a choice between keeping the memory or ourselves alive. The choice was never easy, but it just had to be.

[dearmbti]

Dear INFJs, do you ever “doorslam” due to overwhelming positive emotions, simply because you can’t handle them?

Doorslam is usually associated with negative experiences, but I am just curious about the opposite possibility. I mean, isn’t excessive positivity threatening?

[infjway]

Doorslammin ppl like

[please-letmein]

Oh hello there, hi, sorry! I thought I’d let you in,

I thought I could hear knocking, or something loud and disturbing,

I’m sure I let you in, did you not hear me shout?

I shouted for you to come through, then I thought I heard sound,

of the door slamming

Like when you’d come home drunk, much worse then disorderly

You’d fling your stuff up the floor, remember nights were pretty morbid for me,

You’d be shouting or crying

Sometimes I’d burst out my room, half the time sounded like you were fucking dying

I must’ve been wrong, I must’ve misheard the door, maybe I’m reminiscing too much, too much about before

Maybe it was more of a slow creek, that I heard when the door shut, a creek up the stairs when you’d check on your sleeping daughter,

I’m not sure,

maybe I’m hallucinating,

maybe I’d should stop here,

and stop this writing I’m creating

[endless-nife]