Are you comfortable sharing what your gender means to you/what your gender expression means to you? I’ve identified with he/they for probably two years now and I’m still trying to figure out what exactly that means for me
ooo yeah
i’ll start by saying you have it right when you say “means for me”. you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone else, and even if you did “figure it out”, it may change in the future.
separate from my expression, i think she/they feels as accurate as it can be at the moment. to me, my womanhood and femininity feels comfortable and pretty much reflexive. there are aspects i love and am even proud of. simultaneously, i despise gender and being labeled anything. i want to be known for who i am as a person, and i think however femme or masc or androgynous i appear or act has nothing to do with who i am (or at least its last on the list of ways in which i want to be known).
i, too, have recently added neutral pronouns. and i’ve never put much thought into the outfits i put together, so im still trying to figure out how i express myself in that regard. i often wish i could wake up and just be formless? idk
when i really think about it, i want to be stripped of all expectation, and gender neutrality represents a sort of freedom to me that i really value.
thanks for helping me put some of my feelings to words
