Authority
Fundamentally, we all want someone authoritative to mark our homework, to tell us we've done such a great job, and hear confirmation they're so proud of our efforts.
We all visualise our imaginary authority figures differently. Some will eroticise them, transmuting them into fantasies of strict Daddies, Teachers, and Governesses. For those who read this blog, it's extremely likely these fantasy figures believe in bare bottom spankings.
Yet many can find themselves confused by their own adoration of authority. It seems quite at odds with the personal freedom we cherish so dearly.
Even so, there's also an undeniable attraction to accountability, and many find great reassurance in the certainty strictness brings. It seems whether we obey them or take delight in mischievously circumventing them, rules are at the heart of what we find erotic.
So maybe our desire for authority and strictness isn't so much of a puzzle after all.
Maybe when someone who cares about us is strict with us, we can finally be much less strict with ourselves.
