Hey you seem like a pro so can I get your help🙏, I’ve started to date my first feedee ( wooo🥳) but idk where to start, do you have any tips on gaining or how to link pleasure to food for girls, I’m lost 😂 thanks, wanna try my best
First, I am not a pro, I just treat people with the respect and kindness they deserve and I just ask what the person is into, so then I can give them what they enjoy in my own particular way. Some of my mutuals who I have had proper feedism convos know about this.
Second, there's no such thing as "feedism for girls 💄💐🎀👠" and "feedism for boys 👔🗿🔧🏈" everyone is different and everyone has a particular flavor of feedism that they like. My advice is that you ask your partner what they're into, not everyone is into stuffing for example, some people prefer to graze or are just more of a foodie than a feedee.
If your partner has been a feedee for a while now, they might already know what works for them the best in terms of gaining. To be honest I don't feel comfortable giving advice on gaining per say because your partner might have a dietary restriction or perhaps not, so I honestly don't know :P
• Doing stuffings frequently will make their appetite bigger, yes a big appetite is hot, but it is also expensive to fill it up
• Take things at their own pace, they are the ones going through body changes and navigating life in a bigger body
• They'll gain by consuming a surplus of calories, this doesn't necessarily mean that they'll only eat take out, there is a wide variety of ways to add extra calories into their diet
• You gotta enjoy the journey and not only chase the next big goal
• Gaining can get very expensive, because it's not only food, but clothes and so much more depending on how much they gain.
And this one is more of a personal advice, you'll have to be your partner's rock and safe space, in a vanilla relationship this is a must, but I feel like in a feedist relationship it becomes extremely important. Your partner will most likely face fatphobia because we live in a fatphobic society and you'll need to deconstruct those ideas that you have (yes even the internalized fatphobia) in order to be a support for your partner when life gets tough.
Communication is key and it is very important that you listen to them, sometimes there might be periods of time where feedism takes a step back and is not the center of the relationship and that's okay too, at the end of the day we can all get caught up in the chaos of life and just focus on necessary matters.
I think I could go on and on with this kind of advices, but I don't wish to post a whole book on this. Just remember that you're partners first and then feedee/feeder.
