#femboy tips

[endiegaming-blog]

Hi I’m a 15 year old femboy but I’m too shy to be totally outward about it, I really want to flirt with some guys but I’m too shy, what do i do?

[kaibawolf]

I'm asking you anonymously cause I'm weird but my name is Ben I'm a 15 aspiring femboy with muscular build and say I'm pretty average looking like I'm just a person you would see any old day on the street. I'm just asking to see how I could actually be open about being a femboy I'm already openly gay but being a femboy seems like an even larger step. I dunno some tips for fashion would asks be cool >////< thanks

Hi Ben! Ahhhh 15, that takes me back x3 First of all. Being a femboy isn’t associated with being gay, don’t connect the two. However, I’d say it may be harder to be open about it than being gay, because you can’t see sexuality, haha. Take baby steps, one thing at a time. Make sure to keep it classy at all cost. If you want to avoid more attention while you creep in on being a femboy, stick with more laid back or monochrome colour themed outfits (greys, browns, etc.) Most importantly, don’t focus on being “open” about it. Just wear what makes you happy and be yourself dude ^^

Hope this helps, lemme know if you want any more questions~

~Kaiba

[kaibawolf]

Just felt like putting this out there... I'm a girl and femboy a are beautiful and I would date one. I saw another ask on here about a man who everyone thinks is gay because he's a femboy, and I'm over here like, I'd date you. So if you a a femboy be proud of it, regardless of height, weight, haircut, or sexuality, because you're adorable^_^ k bye

Damn straight girl! See you guys? 

[kaibawolf]

How do I Femboy V2

The label “Femboy” is a complicated one to say the least, and contains many contradictions in it's own. A couple of the main things that could either classify or declassify you as a correct holder of the femboy label are listed in: 1: An Opening Statement 2: Gender Identity, 3: Motives/Desire, and 4: Appearance.

1.An Opening Statement: A femboy is essentially the antonymn to a tomboy; from a certain viewpoint. In a simple explanation, a femboy is simply an individual who classifies themselves in gender as a male, and expresses qualities more commonly associated and accepted in females. Being a Feminine male means you are a living creature of the typically masculine variety, who has an interest to be in touch with the softer, more beautiful side of (them)self, and acts upon that desire. A feminine man is not weak, nor is he automatically more submissive. A femboy is person who has the balls to go outside, and proudly represent who they are. (no pun intended) We are entirely capable of being your total full fledged badass. We just wanna look great/cute doin' it. The point of what I'm saying is, being a femboy doesn't decide how you act or how you interact. Plenty of femboys are gamers, paintballers, mechanics, whatever they feel like. For example, as a femboy who rides downhill, among other stupid dangerous activities, I can easily say that there are the "manliest" of "macho" dudes out there who are too scared to do what I do. We may have feminine qualities, but we sure as hell aren't wusses. Which leads me to share my usual response to any negative comment I receive. "If I'm such a little sissy, then let's see you nut up and openly represent as a feminine male in today's society. See how hard it is, then you can call me whatever you want."

2. Gender Identity/paradoxes: Above, I state a lot about how a femboy is a feminine male. However, anyone who so desires, may be a femboy. How you ask? Say "I'm a femboy.” This brings up many contradictions. Anyone who says "you can't be _____ because _____." Is merely stating an opinion. Any Individual has the right to identify themselves as they prefer, regardless of their biological sex. Yet, the definition of a femboy still remains, and should remain as; an individual who identifies as male and chooses to express feminine qualities within a spectrum of ways. If you don't fit the parameters within that explanation, a viable statement would always be; "A femboy is typically considered _____, but I like to consider myself one regardless.

3. Motives/Desire: By this I mean, what makes you a femboy, or what makes you want to be a femboy? What would de-classify an individual from using the femboy tag is, if their motives are of sexual/fetishistic origins (i.e. just for fun.) Having these fetishistic desires is not necessarily bad or wrong. It’s the fact that the misuse of the identity tag of femboy by said individuals implements false negative stereotypes/pretences to those who hold the femboy tag close to them on a more personal, meaningful level. If what drives you to be a femboy is more along the lines of; you feeling more comfortable acting out the way you find to be natural for yourself, by staying in touch with your softer more feminine qualities because it makes you a happy and complete person, then you have what I would call "the greater good” of many, in a sea of reasons to call yourself a femboy.

4. Appearance: Why would you call yourself a femboy if you don’t try look like one? Because of your desire/motivations to be one perhaps? Of course, visual perceptions differ, and It’s not a gender tag at all, it’s more of a visual category label in many ways, such as; stud, tomboy, twink, scene, etc. To give an example; you don’t see any swagfags walking around calling their style scene, or punk. It just doesn’t work that way. If an individual chooses to look a certain way, they may choose to identify themselves as such via a label they are fond of, or personally choose to disregard labels altogether. There are femboys out there who don’t consider themselves femboys at all. Just regular people doing their own thing, labelling themselves whatever they see fit.

I did my best to explain/rewrite my previous theories. I've learned a lot since I wrote the original. If anyone sees areas that could use improvements, re-writes, or more accurate info, don't be afraid to come spit on me about it.

~Kaiba

[kaibawolf]

I'm an aspiring femboy, I turn 18 in just a little over a week. I'm thin, tall, and fairly athletic, though by no means musclebound. But I really want to know how I can start getting curves, and dealing with facial angles especially. I think makeup may help with that, but I'm not sure where to start. Could you point me in the right direction, please? Thanks so much~!

Makeup can have many layers and intricacies. I’d say study makeup artists who do a lot of male to female work for movies and actors of sorts. (My best guess) Otherwise, all you need is a decent base and something to bring out your eyes a bit. (Just don't go overboard at first)

Curves. Well. Guys usually don’t have ‘em. You gotta work with what you got. My personal strategy is; when I work out, I do low weight/high reps almost everywhere, but high weight/low reps for any exercise that works my thighs and bum to stack and build muscle. That’ll give you a little bit of a curvy placebo effect in the mirror.

~Kaiba

[kaibawolf]

Hey. I've been reading through your posts and I'm really excited about becoming a femboy. I am just starting and I've got a sort of... husky build. (I'm 166 and 5'11.) So I was wondering if you had any... tips that could help me be cute or more... like... cute xD. I really love what you had to say about Femboys not being just... sex toys. It made me love you thissssssssssssssssssssssss much more. I love you and all you do, ~Anon. P.S. You are super adorable. o.o

Thanks dude! I try! 

The best advice I can give you is to find your most feminine qualities and draw attention to those areas. Let me break up the core elements here:

A. Hurr

A good rockin’ hairstyle is absolutely VITAL to a femboy’s look. The directions and angles of your hair can give your face an entirely different (and in this case more feminine) perspective. ‘Tis the cherry on top of the banana split of cute, feminine, and masculine flavours of ice cream drizzled with fashion syrup (and some nuts) that is a femboy.

(Can I get a cookie for that analogy)

B. Make it up

Makeup always helps around the face of course. Watch many videos, find out what you like, and what to apply where according to you face shape. Don’t be afraid to walk up to a MAC counter or whatever and ask “How the flippin’ fuckaroo do I do this?” Because they will teach you some good tricks, and help you find what you need. Bringing a picture or two along for reference is always a good idea. (Same goes for getting your hair cut)

C. Clotheses

There are clothes that accentuate certain areas and cover others specifically. If you have a hard time finding a garment that does this how you want, there is always the option of going to a tailor and having something fitted precisely to your preference. It is important to realize you will have to cross to the “womens” side of the store. So suck it up and try on some clothes IN-STORE. Because there’s no other way to figure out what fits you how, where, and why. Just don’t go overboard with overly feminine clothes at first. Ease into it.

D. Axe-sessorize

The way to spice up any outfit or curb it’s style in a new direction is with simple accessories. They can turn a simple or boring outfit into something really special. For example: Jeans and a white shirt. Spike the hair, throw a studded belt on, black/black converse, bandana around the neck, spiked wristbands, and suddenly it’s punk! Take the same outfit but instead, throw on some ray bans, trucker cap, flip flops, shark tooth necklace, rope string bracelets, and suddenly you look like a surf rat.

Bam. You got tha powah.

I hope this helps with some basics when starting out.

Yours truly,

~Kaiba

[kaibawolf]

Hey I'm trying to become fem, but I don't really look good with longer hair and my nose is really masculine, any tips?

There’s nothing wrong with having a bit of masculinity about you, but If you don’t like a body feature, the best thing to do is try and draw attention away from it subtly. You can experiment with different hairstyles, or makeup patterns with shapes/lines that draw the eye away from the nose. Think of it like an art composition.

Best of luck,

~Kaiba

[kaibawolf]

Uhhh hi, I'm 15 and I need help explaining to my parents I'm a femboy, any tips to help me break the news??

The best advice i can give is just be yourself. Mind your own, and if they ask about it just tell them whats up. Knowing parents, a simple explanation is best. Like an “I feel more comfortable showing a more effeminate side is all.”

I think I might have said this before, but.. I don’t really see the need to “come out” just because you’re not what society sees as normal. Just be you, and live.

Best of luck whatever you decide to do!

~Kaiba