#kaibawolf

[kaibawolf]

I'll Be Back.

Hey followers. I'm going to close shop here until further notice. however I will be around to answer questions. Just not happy with my overall content quality or current state of mind. I wish the best of luck and happiest of days to all.

~Kaiba

[kaibawolf]

How do I Femboy V2

The label “Femboy” is a complicated one to say the least, and contains many contradictions in it's own. A couple of the main things that could either classify or declassify you as a correct holder of the femboy label are listed in: 1: An Opening Statement 2: Gender Identity, 3: Motives/Desire, and 4: Appearance.

1.An Opening Statement: A femboy is essentially the antonymn to a tomboy; from a certain viewpoint. In a simple explanation, a femboy is simply an individual who classifies themselves in gender as a male, and expresses qualities more commonly associated and accepted in females. Being a Feminine male means you are a living creature of the typically masculine variety, who has an interest to be in touch with the softer, more beautiful side of (them)self, and acts upon that desire. A feminine man is not weak, nor is he automatically more submissive. A femboy is person who has the balls to go outside, and proudly represent who they are. (no pun intended) We are entirely capable of being your total full fledged badass. We just wanna look great/cute doin' it. The point of what I'm saying is, being a femboy doesn't decide how you act or how you interact. Plenty of femboys are gamers, paintballers, mechanics, whatever they feel like. For example, as a femboy who rides downhill, among other stupid dangerous activities, I can easily say that there are the "manliest" of "macho" dudes out there who are too scared to do what I do. We may have feminine qualities, but we sure as hell aren't wusses. Which leads me to share my usual response to any negative comment I receive. "If I'm such a little sissy, then let's see you nut up and openly represent as a feminine male in today's society. See how hard it is, then you can call me whatever you want."

2. Gender Identity/paradoxes: Above, I state a lot about how a femboy is a feminine male. However, anyone who so desires, may be a femboy. How you ask? Say "I'm a femboy.” This brings up many contradictions. Anyone who says "you can't be _____ because _____." Is merely stating an opinion. Any Individual has the right to identify themselves as they prefer, regardless of their biological sex. Yet, the definition of a femboy still remains, and should remain as; an individual who identifies as male and chooses to express feminine qualities within a spectrum of ways. If you don't fit the parameters within that explanation, a viable statement would always be; "A femboy is typically considered _____, but I like to consider myself one regardless.

3. Motives/Desire: By this I mean, what makes you a femboy, or what makes you want to be a femboy? What would de-classify an individual from using the femboy tag is, if their motives are of sexual/fetishistic origins (i.e. just for fun.) Having these fetishistic desires is not necessarily bad or wrong. It’s the fact that the misuse of the identity tag of femboy by said individuals implements false negative stereotypes/pretences to those who hold the femboy tag close to them on a more personal, meaningful level. If what drives you to be a femboy is more along the lines of; you feeling more comfortable acting out the way you find to be natural for yourself, by staying in touch with your softer more feminine qualities because it makes you a happy and complete person, then you have what I would call "the greater good” of many, in a sea of reasons to call yourself a femboy.

4. Appearance: Why would you call yourself a femboy if you don’t try look like one? Because of your desire/motivations to be one perhaps? Of course, visual perceptions differ, and It’s not a gender tag at all, it’s more of a visual category label in many ways, such as; stud, tomboy, twink, scene, etc. To give an example; you don’t see any swagfags walking around calling their style scene, or punk. It just doesn’t work that way. If an individual chooses to look a certain way, they may choose to identify themselves as such via a label they are fond of, or personally choose to disregard labels altogether. There are femboys out there who don’t consider themselves femboys at all. Just regular people doing their own thing, labelling themselves whatever they see fit.

I did my best to explain/rewrite my previous theories. I've learned a lot since I wrote the original. If anyone sees areas that could use improvements, re-writes, or more accurate info, don't be afraid to come spit on me about it.

~Kaiba

[kaibawolf]

San Francisco Pride Parade!

Hello everyone! Not sure if any of you will be attending, but I will be at the parade this Sunday; marching with "Yahoo!" on their trolley parade float. Keep an eye out!

~Kaiba

[kaibawolf]

It's me again, thanks for the tips! I don't have any problems with gay people (well, pretty obviously) the thing that really stress me is that people keep telling me that I gotta cut my hair or that the sidecut (yes, I'm growing themout for it) is only for females (untrue becouse also boys used it a lot), I hate their sexism, "boys will be boys" if a girl can dress boyish why can't a boy dress girly? I thought our society was paritary. Also, I want to be androgynous so...

What our society is, is fucked in the head. You wanna be androgynous, go do it! You want a particular haircut? it’s not for girls obviously, it’s for you. 

Added: I'd consider side cuts more of a unisex thing anyways, they're quite popular in today's fashion. 

And you're very welcome!

~Kaiba

[kaibawolf]

Wee

Kickin' it in Hawaii for a while, doing a little shopping, skating, and relaxing. Expect posts from a rejuvenated and slightly browner Kaiba upon return.

[estranged-union]

Hangout #1 - Chattin with peeps.

Yo, Kaiba and I are chatting. wanna join in? maybe ask questions?

[muffinsthefemboy]

For me, no school on a Friday means frozen yogurt and a visit to my favorite geeky store. :D My tongue’s been sticking out a lot today. :P I picked up a new copy of Deadpool. I love Deadpool. He’s funny, adorable, and a total badass. Found this guy sitting all alone next to the D&D section. Decided it was time to adopt another cuddle buddy. His name is Uppy. He looks so happy now! Credit for the outfit goes to Mr Kaibawolf. Found this sweater in a H&M a while back. Check out Kaiba’s blog for the outfit and more awesome femboy stuff. Stay Frosty! ^-^

[kaibawolf]

I want to look like you any tips

Edit 03/20/14: 

So you wanna rock a similar style and be a femboy, maybe have a similar body type?

1. I try to have a pretty strict diet (veggies and light meats) and I work out at least twice a week. I do sit ups, russians, forward leg pickups, and backwards leg extensions (mostly)

2. Fashionwise, I just buy or make whatever seems cool to me. Usually grunge, anime/japanese inspired stuff. I like dark or faded colours typically,  be careful not to go to crazy on the patterns.

3. I grew my hair out while trimming the back shorter every few weeks, and the front bangs every twice as long. leaving the sides as long as possible,  I usually only wear black eyeliner for makeup, and I apply it pretty heavily. There are more styles I enjoy messing with nowadays, little stars or dots and stuff I find really cute and fun to do. Practice everything from mascara application to makeup removal to see what you like and gain experience.

Lemme know if I left out anything you were hoping to hear ^^

~Kaiba