⚠️This is a public service announcement⚠️
Tell your partner about your fetishes. No, seriously, tell them. If the worst case scenario happens and they're rude or weird about it, they're probably not the one for you.
A good partner wants to satisfy and pleasure you through sexual activity. If your sexual partner is someone you know and trust, a core tenet of that bond is the desire to give each other enjoyment and excitement, and that desire should express itself in a majority of interactions, sex being a primary one. A partner who will reject a sexual suggestion with disgust towards you is not one you want to be with.
I know it's scary. I know it's hard. Take your time and find the comfortable way to express it. Let your partner earn your trust in other, smaller ways. But best case scenario, they're into it and indulge in it with you, and that is one of the best experiences in the world.
A lot of us on this site are nervous about kink play IRL. But it is not shameful to have uncommon sexual interests, and while online spaces are a great place to begin the process of unlearning the social stigma and shame imposed upon people with fetishes and more niche kinks, getting validation from someone you know on a personal level is a new level of affirming and confidence boosting.
Tell your partner about your fetish and reap the rewards. You deserve it.
