just read name the yearn...platonic sex foreverrrrrrrrr!!!!! really funny that they had to be like wait are we friends. ive honestly never read platonic smut before and its great. personally my favorite thing about ace + aro fic is that it makes everything around sex and romance feel more chill because you literally do not have to do anything!!! sex should be fun! I was having a whole crisis over relationships and why they always feel like saw traps and thought hm. well actually my ideal situtation is friends with benefits. it never really occured to me that fwb could be the stop point rather than one other way of getting to inlove. shirley and louisa just have such a fun and hot and meaningful relationship and its not romantic but its soooo special. hello!!!! and stone top shirley!!!! idk i think even as someone who is not aro or ace i make up so many rules about relationships and my favorite thing about reading your stuff is how your challenge what platonic relationship can look like. and then romance is not an evil saw-trap because i can do other things if i want. great lesbain sex
!!!! thank you so, SO much for this message, it really means SO much to me to hear that you enjoyed the fic and that it meant something to you!! that fic is so dear to my heart, which i know i say a lot, but it really, really is. it was the first smut fic i posted, i think, and i'm really pleased with how it turned out. (god, i need to post chapter three. it's like. it's literally written, i just need to edit and tweak it and it's good to go. @ myself, COME ON MAN.)
the 'wait are we friends' scene is one of my favourite ones i've written in recent memory. it's so... awkward and strange and endearing and fond and i am so, so happy with it.
and the way i depicted that relationship... yeah. yeah, for real, it is like. it is so important to me that their relationship is exactly, specifically, and in its final most important/evolved form 'friends with benefits.' i wish there was another term for that, because it sounds so... flippant? but it's such a special kind of relationship to me. i love writing about it. i love reading about it. (i really wish it was easier to find things to read but like 90% of the tag on ao3 is like, straight up romantic ship fic. still.)
i'm so, so specifically glad that this fic could be a part of a journey for you to better understanding what you want out of your own relationships!! that is so meaningful to me :') especially because of how much i put of myself and my own non-normative relationship into my work. non-normative relationships are my bread and butter and they bring me such joy and satisfaction and like... the sense that i can breathe and fully exist in the world when i get to write about them and share them with others. i will defend anyone and everyone's relationships forever being exactly what they want them to be, including people who aren't aro or ace at all!! we all should get to love and experience intimacy and companionship in the ways that feel good and right and safe and not like a saw trap to us.
FINALLY: THANK YOU FOR THE LESBIAN SEX ACCOLADES AS WELL. I WEAR THIS COMPLIMENT WITH IMMENSE PRIDE. ALSO IT MADE ME LAUGH THANK YOU SO MUCH.