im gonna be real with yall theres no inherent difference between being a fictive and being fictionkin in a system. im not saying that there is no difference at all between fictionkin and fictive, because the subcultures (fictionkin spaces+ fictive-centered system spaces) have their own trends and folks without community overlap,
but the only reasons i see people separating them as concepts so strongly is to avoid the “trading card culture” common in kin-for-fun circles and to try and get people to understand that their identity is important to them or is static/their only source of identity (or vice versa, that they would be reduced if seen as only their source)
but you know. bookending is common in fictive spaces too. otherkin can also have important and/or static identities or a fictionkin identity that’s their only source of self, and fictives can have unimportant and/or fluid sources and identity outside of their source(s)
the overlap is fine imo, it’s the lack of respect for normal divergent evolution associated with no longer being in your source’s situations and the dehumanization of “you are nothing more than a fictional character to me” in bookending/“trading card culture”
…as well as the lack of acknowledgement that static and important connections to fictionhood exist and that it’s not necessarily good to force separation on someone who’s often like that for a reason and needs to grow/change at a healthy pace
like. to get “i am in a system with a dissociative disorder that has goals around healing from that” for a moment, i think people so often assume the identity-shared-with-a-fictional-character part of being a fictive is the dissociative part targeted by healthy source separation, and not the mental separation from your current life and body, and the pressure to stay static and “perform” your source’s identity
im a dave strider fictive/kin and i got into rap music because it was something i enjoyed in my source. when i tried it in my current life, i realized that i still love rap actually and half my playlist is rap based. i still use a lot of post-irony and apathy to get by in life. i still think vulture culture is cool as fuck. i still call myself dave despite (de)transitioning. i love and seek out homestuck related material/media
but shit man. im in a completely different situation from my source and ive changed as a result of it. i use a lot more punctuation now because im not “dave strider from homestuck” anymore and its hard sometimes but i gotta remind myself that i dont have to stay like that. i dont have to try and “out-dave” other daves like i did when i first formed because we’re just different people all (originally) named dave with similar issues and interests, instead of one “real dave” with a bunch of fakes
that and also i can see myself as both the white haired, red eyed girl i am in-system while also seeing my body (and it is my body now, not “the” body, and not even “our” body^), a brown haired, brown eyed white man as me. i would recognize myself in the mirror in either forms. im working on loving and connecting to my body as it is and not as it “should” be
^ (im not saying my body is mine and belongs to nobody else in my system, im saying that for us, everyone in my system (including me) using “my” for my body, my life, and my system, is the next step to getting closer to each other and the life we fought so hard to live)
Side note: If you interact with me while having “endos dni” in your blog, you are breaking your own dni
Also I only do advanced syscourse on this blog. “Are endos real?” and similar topics have already been beat to death, and I have no meaningful contribution to make to those discussions.
I am much more interested in discussions about internal identities not lining up with the body’s and the potential problems that arise from it, as well as other niche topics relating to LGBT+ and kink discourse.
thank you for the fictive/fictkin post!! i have a seriously hard time figuring out how and where to talk about my experiences because a lot of spaces seem to draw these lines between the identity labels and insinuate that fictives have some inherently different experience. like. idfk if im supposed to talk in the kinnie channels or the fictive channels bc we see our "source memories" as a kin thing and having nothing directly to do with our systemhood and it just gets... confusing bc some people do genuinely seem to draw a hard line. i do think that for some people it boils down to "fictives are a real psychological thing and fictionkin are like, a for funsies spiritual thing"
yeah i mean its like. it can be separate things for a system the same way being a little and being an adult is seen as inherently separate for a lot of systems, but trying to enforce separation instead of acknowledging the shared experiences and grey areas leaves a lot of people alienated and without community
