#five ys

[vinterfeminism]

Real transfeminists love all trans people btw. Regardless of their gender, sex, presentation, status of transistion, or otherwise. It is not transfeminism if you reject any trans person on the basis of any of these characteristics.

[vinterfeminism]

It's kinda crazy that some people see that I call myself an intersex transfem and if they don't like what I have to say about transfeminism, they just lie and say I am not transfem. Very transfeminist of you, to strip me of my trans womanhood! /sar

I think I have said it here but I will say it again. Even though assigned gender and sex does not matter to me in terms of labels such as transfem and transmasc, I was initially raised as a boy for the first 13 or 14 years or so of my life and then became a girl. I still lived as a trans girl (and later a trans woman) up until a little under a year ago when I learned I was intersex, and switched from using she/her to it/its. Yes I am at risk for being sent to a male prison, yes I am at risk for being harassed and attacked by transmisogynists, yes I am a trans woman. Even if you disagree with my opinions, can you pretty please not make up lies about what you assume my gender is? I have had people reblog or send me anon asks where they say I am (c)afab and this is not true. I do not identify with any agab, and you assuming agabless = afab is very disgustingly intersexist.

[vinterfeminism]

If you can't be normal about people from the Southern and/or rural United States who are white, abled, cisgender, alloheterosexual/romantic, wealthy, skinny, and Christian, them why would I ever trust that you would somehow be normal about Black, Indigenous, or other POC from the South/Rural US? Disabled people from the South/Rural US? Queer people from the Southern/Rural US? Poor people from the Southern/Rural US? Fat people from the Rural/Southern US? Religious minorities from the Southern/Rural US?

The next time you stereotype the Southern or Rural US for being all uneducated racist white skinny hicks, I think every person who is part of a minority in the South and Rural US should each get $100 from you :)

Sincerely, a physically and mentally disabled intersex transfem from the rural Midwest

[vinterfeminism]

There are many many many people on this website who need to learn the difference between loving intersex people and fetishizing intersex people. And especially loving intersex transfems and fetishizing intersex transfems.

[vinterfeminism]

The majority of things I post about mention specifically transfems and intersex people of an unspecified gender unless I say intersex transfems, but I have never had anyone- and certainly not any trans man- say "but what about men????" as some so-called 'transfeminists' here would like to have you believe this is an hourly occurrence. I believe this is because I make it clear that I love and support trans men so there is no question to be asked of my feelings around them on my other posts.

[vinterfeminism]

I really think that if you try to binarize the experiences of non-binary, agender, multigender, genderqueer, gnc, or intersex people then you are directly perpetuating patriarchal standards and are transphobic and queerphobic. I am an intersex transfem. This does not mean I am afab. This does not mean I am amab. I don't ascribe to any agab. This also does not mean I am TME. This does not mean I am TMA. I am not binarizing myself like that. I am transmisogynized, but I am not using those terms when they have so often been used against my intersex siblings. As some random person online, you will never know more about my own experiences than I will. This even goes for my followers and mutuals and those who otherwise support me. It's always best to ask before making an assumption. Let intersex people be intersex instead of binarizing then. Like non-binary people be non-binary. Let multigender people be multigender. Let agender people be agender. Let gnc people bc gnc. Let genderqueer people be genderqueer. The attempt by some so-called "transfeminists" to binarize us is blatant intersexism and exorsexism it is makes you fundamentally a TERF.

[vinterfeminism]

You need love transfems and trans women with your whole heart and be kind and patient with them even if you hear bad things about them. People will lie about trans women and you need to confirm whatever is said is true before doing anything, and even then, don't contribute to any harassment campaigns or call-outs against them. Block and move on and try to get your friends to do the same. Let's stop making tgirls have to live in fear on this website. Together :)

[vinterfeminism]

I really do wish some of you would just put the phone down and stop debating yay-bunnies-zone. On one hand, she clearly has plenty of time and isn't going to back down and is more invested in maintaining a divide in an already vulnerable community than trying to band together with other trans people who aren't transfem to actually make a difference. But on the other hand, I see a bunch of people who have their own various reasons such as wanting to combat transandrophobia or being anti-TMA/TME, which while good positions in theory, so many of you are genuinely being so transmisogynistic to this woman just for the sake of the debate. I have seen people calling her "bitch" and "cunt" just because she is a woman which is not fucking okay. That's literally malgendering. You wouldn't call me "herm" when debating me if you disliked me unless you were an intersexist loser, so why call her those misogynistic insults? It is literally not helping anyone. I have also seen way too many people misgendering bun with they/them pronouns and saying "well it doesn't have pronouns listed so I default to they/them" like yay-bunnies-zone doesn't literally have Ms./Mrs. (I forget which atm sorry) in buns bio. Many people they/them trans women and transfems as a way to degender us to show that they do not respect us, and you are not being a good transfeminist if you try to defend your usage of they/them for a trans woman who tells you not to even if you dislike said trans woman and she has said harmful and upsetting things to you.

Literally just step back. Be the bigger person. Stop platforming her with debates because I can promise you, yay-bunnies-zone is not going to change its mind and is not going to back down. Spare your mental health and do something you actually enjoy. Unless that thing you enjoy is transmisogynistic malgendering and pestering, then I think you should just delete your tumblr account atp. I am also anti-TMA/TME because it is too binaristic and often perpetuates intersexism and exorsexism, and ofc transandrophobia, but we absolutely CANNOT be transmisogynistic in the name of debating someone we disagree with. Do you know how that comes off to me, as an intersex transfem? That makes it look like the moment I say something you all even SLIGHTLY dislike, then you will turn on me with your pitchforks and torches and does not make me any more certain that you are actually real transfeminists and want to include intersex and non-binary people any more than you just reallyyyyyyy want to call a woman a bitch and rationalizing it as acceptable because "well she said a mean thing first and is debating me :("

Please, everyone. Prioritize your mental health. You'll do more for making the intersex and non-binary transfems you want to help out feel more safe by not debating with trans women online and insulting them with misogynistic and transmisogynistic insults. I promise.