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Day 4

*Writing this on day 7* 

So, I’m SUPER good at all this documenting business. In case you couldn’t tell and maybe thought being 4 days behind was a bad thing. Well, ... no, you’re right it totally is. 

BUT. It’s not that I haven’t been DOING the projects/ goals. I just haven’t been posting here. Or any of the social media channels. Or anywhere else that might prove I’m not lying... dang... well... I guess you’ll just have to take my word for it. Also, there’s pics! And for the sake of the illusion, let’s imagine that I really did write and post this Friday night.

Went on the first “Adventure” which was supposed to be an Irish String Ensemble concert but turned out to be a “Mountain String Band” show with a 4 song warm up set by the Irish String Ensemble. No matter, we still had fun and even found a here-to-fore undiscovered bench on campus and sat for a second and pondered deep things like the meaning of life, finding career satisfaction, and who left this apple core here on the floor? 

Then went home and took the following picture:

I’m honestly not sure what’s going on here. I think this is the look someone gives after being punched in the eye after trying too hard to look gangsta? Not pretty but that’s what you get after walking for 45 minutes on a ghetto treadmill in the corner staring at a wall.

Regardless, everything is on track. Exercising and calorie counting. Spanish homework is coming along. Painful but coming along. Making headway on the first book on the list which is gi-NORM-ous!! Which brings us to today’s haiku:

This book is so long

Reading while walking is nice

It makes the time fly

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Day 3

Alright. The jig is up. I didn’t write this on day 3. I thought I could keep the ruse up but I can’t. I cracked under the pressure. Sorry to whoever was keeping my secret with me from yesterday. But if no one reads this again, today maybe we can still get away with it? Who knows. I sure don’t. You reading this at all? Is this thing on? Check, check. 1,2,3...

So I woke up on time but was just TOO tired. I slept awful. Not sure why but I tossed and turned. Got up and thought, I could go out walking but that will use up what little I have and THEN some. And I need to work and I need energy for that. So I went back to bed. 

To be fair, I DID still walk in the evening on our super ghetto treadmill but didn’t get any cool picture so here’s me flashing a 3. or a W. Whichever you prefer. 

I also forgot to write a Haiku while walking because I was reading my super long book while on the treadmill. Which made the time fly by but I think I read slower than I would have had I been able to focus solely on reading. 

Spanish homework went okay but again, ate into my reading time because I didn’t do it in the morning...

BUT! I caught up on everything. It was just too late to write about it and post it and what not so I’m doing it now. I even got a haiku down before I hit the hay:

Sleeping late kills goals

For body mind and spirit

Sleeping in feels great

I’ll post again for Day 4 later tonight. Hasta luego! 

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Day 1

Again. I can’t begin to count the number of “Day 1s” there have been in the many attempts to improve over the years. But it’s the # of times you get back up, right? Also, I think/ hope this time will be different as I am BEYOND motivated to finish this project. And I’ve done pretty well so far. I’ve woken up on time, done cardio & circuit training. Did one assignment in the Spanish workbook (which took forEVER... I remember why I hated that class), read in the scriptures, logged my calories for the day, and stayed away from sugar and junk carbs. I EVEN PASSED UP COSTCO PIZZA, PEOPLE!!! Well, kinda. I scraped the toppings off and threw the crust away like some depraved MONSTER. 

I won’t say all this was easy. I can already tell this is going to be tricky to keep track of. But like I said, I’m feeling more motivated than usual and I’ve been feeling the love & support from friends & family on my social media accounts so that’s been a great boost too. Here’s to tomorrow!

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The Beginning

tl;dr

Trying to improve myself

In haiku form, son!

This is me. Lying on a couch. Down and out. Well maybe not out but definitely not in and very much down. If life were a game, I’m currently AFK. Discouraged. Disheartened. An argument could be made for “broken”. Certainly more than Hercules level of despair 

It's difficult to describe. I'm unsure if my problems qualify as legitimate (as opposed to un-legit) Unsure if I'm just perceiving them to be bigger or worse than they actually are? I really don't want to complain. We all know that person who is… “A little ray of sunshine” shall we say. Nothing is EVER good enough. They hate puppies and rainbows. They could be be unhappy at Disneyland. No one likes being around those people. They’re probably also communists.

*Side note, was there a scientific study published in a reputable peer reviewed journal with statistically significant data showing a clear correlation that led the researchers to fail to reject the null hypothesis, or whatever, and ultimately declare Mouse land “The Happiest Place on Earth”?... If not, Disney is MIGHTY sure of themselves. The HAPPIEST? Of ALL other places? I mean, have they even heard of the Great British Baking Show? Do you even bake, bruh? Don't get me wrong, Disneyland is up there but if I had to pick between the two, I'm more than fairly sure I'd have to go with the tasting tent in the middle of an English countryside, eating Puff pastries listening to Paul's thick liverpudlian accent. Okay less his accent, it's more of an excuse to say liverpudlian. Try it. It's fun. I think that gives the Peter pan ride a run for its money at least.

But I digress, back to me ;)

I was saying I don’t wish to be the aforementioned type of person so I try not to complain (some of y’all who know me personally are stifling scoffs I’m sure) and I realize there are many, MANY people who have it MUCH worse than me. I am also BEYOND grateful for the good things I do have in my life. 

BUT!

… at the same time, the stuff I’m dealing with really does seem like a bit to me.

I have an injured tailbone that’s been a source of constant pain for about 3 years now. I used to be able to sit in a certain position or on a specific chair without it hurting but now it’s pretty much 24/7. Yet x-rays, MRIs, trigger point and nerve blocking injections and several different meds have not helped at all.

I’m in my 30s now which apparently means your ribs pop out of place while you sleep. I get them cracked back into place at the Chiropractor and they're out again the next morning. Basically it hurts to breathe and I can feel my back muscles scraping over my ribs.

My house is ALSO falling apart and I can’t afford to fix it. My backyard is a dirt pile and I feel SUPER awesome that my kids don’t have grass to run around in. Our plumbing, electrical, and roof all need to be replaced because the house was built before electricity was a thing. Well... 1950. Which is basically the same. And every time I look around at everything that’s broken I feel worse because I’m reminded that I don’t have the means to fix it. Why don’t I have the the funds? Welp...

I’ve been laid off 3 times in the last 4 years and since graduating college 6 years ago have yet to be at one job longer than a year. I pretty much live in fear that every day I go into work will be my last and live in constant stress of how I’m going to provide for my family. It wouldn’t be so bad if I had a marketable skill but I majored in German Literature (long story for another day) and sadly not too many people are looking to hire me to read books to them in German and write sub-par research papers about the motivations of the protagonists...

Why don’t you just learn a new skill, you might ask? That’s a great question. I’ll tell you. In SONG form

No? Monty Python? Anyone? Bueller? NM...

I haven’t had a good night’s sleep for about 2 years (which remarkably coincides with how old our youngest child is) and am effectively a zombie now living off cold pizza & diet mtn dew. That’s what zombies eat, right? Low energy, difficult to focus, seconds away from weeping most days. Which means I have had a beast of a time trying to find the time, motivation and energy to learn to code or be a graphic/ web designer or whatever skill will guarantee that I don’t have a heart attack every time someone says, “Hey, you got a sec?”

So, as a zombie dad, most days I wake up late, trying to get every last second of “sleep” that I can, roll out of bed, shove some “food” in my face and rush off to work (usually without showering, shaving, brushing teeth or any thing resembling self care or hygiene). Gross, I know. And believe me, I’m not boasting here. I live in a state of constant embarrassment of myself. But may I remind you... zombie.

Then I sit in pain for 8 hrs at a job I don’t care for (but am beyond grateful for) and am afraid to lose, hop in my almost broken vehicle & head home to eat a delicious meal made by my beautiful, loving wife. Try not to take the disappointment in my children’s eyes to heart when I tell them I can’t play with them because I’m too tired and in too much pain. Get them down to bed and instead of using the remaining hour or so to do something productive, I fall asleep while watching Parks & Rec through for the 100th time because it’s funny and I need as much levity and release as I can get. Then I’m on the night shift (usually up 2 or 3 times a night getting bottles, changing diapers, rocking back to sleep, etc) and doing it again the next day. Worn out. Run Down. Scraping by, dragging my broken down body through the motions of a “life.”

I feel like this:

Not like a cool zombie

Geez... He makes it look so EASY and fun...

Now, you’re not gonna believe me, but I SWEAR I’m not complaining. Seriously. Just explaining where I’m at these days. Setting the stage, painting the backdrop, giving you some context. I REALLY do try not to complain because as I said, I know it could be way worse and I really am grateful for the good things I DO have and if this is the price for those things and people, I’ll do it again and again. 

But do you see what I mean? Some might say, you don’t shower every day? You don’t brush your teeth regularly? But in my mind and body, I’m just too tired and don’t have time. Last year I broke two back molars in half chewing on gum. Yup, gum. And I lived with that for 6 months because I couldn’t get them fixed because I didn’t have insurance because I didn’t have a job. Seems like a legitimate reason versus a lame excuse.

But I know other people who are going to school full time, while working 2 jobs who seldom see their family let alone get time to play with them. Making do with less and seemingly more put-together than I am. So am I just making excuses then? I mean, have you SEEN this kid?!

Now, I know I shouldn’t compare myself to others. I know everyone’s got their own challenges and I should only compare myself to the best version of myself. But that’s just the thing. I AM comparing myself to myself. And I’m not even CLOSE. 

It’s not that I’m dissatisfied with life. It’s not that I just want more money (though that couldn’t hurt) or a bigger house or power or fame. I really only want enough to care for my family and some extra to help others out. It’s more of a discontent with who I am as a person. I’m not as nice as I’d like to be. I’m not as skilled as I’d like to be. I’m not as humble as I’d like to be. The list goes on... Literally. I have a list. A back log of ideas I want to try, things I want to learn, skills I want to have and put to use, people I want to help.

Basically, I have bad health, bad financial situation, no career, super awesome self esteem, fragile mental health, and not much of a social life.

Sooooo... So so SO!

I’m changing. This WAS me. 

I’m on a journey to finally achieve everything I’ve been putting off and become the best version of me. And I hope you’ll join me on the trip because I hope to learn from all this and I hope that someone somewhere can learn something as well. Even if that’s what NOT to do (Hey man, if it helps SOMEbody, I consider it a success and worth any effort).

So, follow along. I’ll share what I can along the way. And make sure to let me know how I can help you achieve YOUR goals too! Until later!