forevergingeratheart replied to your post:
I think she’s a girl who’s been with Even since she was 15/16, and feels a lot of responsibility for her bf, and I also feel like she is not holding on to even bc she loves him, but bc she feels like he owes her? maybe? for staying with him that long. And the best thing for her (AND Even) would be to break up and move on, bc nobody’s the same at the start of hs as they are at the end, which is basically what SKAM is all abt; character arcs. So yeah I think she handled the night with Isak badly, but I have been running up and down that same street looking fr a drunk friend and that is nOT a good neighbourhood to be lost in. I get she is scared, and I get she feels like Isak is just a phase. But she’s gotta let go. find a bf who she doesnt feel the need to control/babysit. And I wholeheartedly hope she has another chat with Isak, after even and isak are an item and sonja is officially an ex, and tell him how difficult the past few years have been for her MOSTLY bc she was to proud/stubborn/young? to let go. Bc she felt more obligation than love and that all she hopes is that isak won’t make the same mistakes.
I mean Julie Andem is amazing and has handled a lot of things with such grace that I hope she can handle this with grace too.
Sonja is the age where she was a freshman while I was a senior in Norwegian hs, and I know I have learned A LOT after I started college/uni. And I think she would maybe look back on her behaviour towards isak in a few years and cringe to herself. but right now she is scared and angry and probably feels like Even should be with her bc she is with him despite his mental state. Like a saviour complex, the florence nightinggale effect. So yeah, I just think she is young and stupid and could have handled it better but she is not necessarily a bitch
I agree with all of that. Except, I don’t think i ever thought Sonja felt Even owed her, but rather she felt him to be her responsibility, what with the whole controlling thing and monitoring. I have no doubt that there is love there, but I don’t think it’s romantic love, but rather for someone you fiercely care about. I think being with him is the only way she feels she can wholly keep him under her watchful eye, and thus protecting him.
