The 21st
More and less on a set of scales
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This post is especially important to me, as it keeps turning loops in my head, and gave me many restless nights.
I often try to draw the summary of how my dream-way of educating the dwarf is actually resembling our reality. And I often feel that I lack miles behind my actual concepts and visions.
I'm a romantic fellow. I like to believe that the best children can get is being outside, getting dirty and sweaty from wild play, and then come home for a hot soup in front of the chimney. I personally imagine that the simple toys, the natural toys are the ones that let their fantasy bloom the most. And that the adventures they invent themselves, instead of us parents offering them, are the most memorable ones.
I do know that this is not 1950 anymore, and luckily so. Children must learn to adapt and find their ways through our century's rules and speed. But then I also see how hard it is for them to find a healthy balance once you offer them a tablet to watch cartoons.
I did that for the first time last week when the dwarf was sick, and I was too tired and down to interact with him. Since then he keeps asking for another film, as those bright colours and lively scenes left a big impression, obviously.
For my taste dwarfie owns too many things. Too many little cars and dolls and clothes that I am not sure about whether another child had to sew them. These things just happen - either friends or family give him things, or we parents feel overwhelmed and are so happy to get a moment's relief when he checks out a new car. He LOVES cars.
And as such, that should be ok, letting him chose the things he is interested in - as long as it isn't getting too much.
But somehow I cannot shut up that nagging voice inside of me, preaching of the oh so natural life, that I personally am living much less than the dwarf.
Because as a mother, you want to do better through your child. Wicked, wicked habit.
I would really appreciate if anyone has thoughts on this, similar experiences, or totally different attempts.
Have a lovely week, y'all!