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[lylahammar]

I just finished TMA and your fanart is restoring me to life, thankyou!!

Awww I'm glad I could help! 💛 We all share your pain in this moment xoxo sorry for your loss 🙏

[ask-a-vetblr]

Once abnormal sperm are screened out, is the fastest sperm necessarily going to be carrying the 'best' genes anyway?

Sorry for lack of context, my previous ask was following the anon question about IVF sperm selection

‘Fastest’ isn’t necessarily an indicator. Lots of sperm will be fast enough to reach the egg, they then need to bind and burrow and otherwise get in.

And that’s not necessarily related to the genes they carry either, but their shape and the health of the male at the time. Environmental factors as simple as heat (or fever) and alcohol can affect the sperm.

- Dr Ferox

[queerpyracy]

Please actually tell me about alcove beds, I was thinking of making one, is it a bad idea?

the thing about alcove beds is that you Will have to get physically on top of the mattress to put a fitted sheet on it, and the larger the bed the more of a pain in the ass this is, and if you want to change your sheets regularly you have to be prepared for that wrestling match every time

i only sleep in an alcove bed bc my other option is the sofa

[ask-a-vetblr]

My household adopted a rescue cat called George aka Georgie Porgie Pudding and Pie. It turned out he had impregnated a cat before being rescued and neutered, and she was rescued by the same organisation. They let us name the kittens after types of pies: Pecan, Boston Cream, Pumpkin and Meat. We called them the party pies. They were all adopted. For some reason Meat Pie was given a new name though.

I just. Can’t imagine why. Any Aussie should be proud to own Meat Pie the cat.

- Dr Ferox

[botaniqueer]

@fuzzlepiece replied to your photoset “I haven’t had the energy to maintain this blog regularly, but here are...”

wow and I thought basil black opal was goth but that pepper really goes hard

Yeah!! I’ve never seen one this dark before! Unfortunately it’ll mostly be ornamental for me because their upper range is a lower range cayenne pepper, while I can’t even handle a milder Jalapeño.

[blackbearmagic]

fuzzlepiece replied to your post: the bad news is that at some point yesterday, I...

I’ve had a bad experience too but my current dentist is lovely and my insurance at least pays half, or like three quarters for checkups

My current insurance is 80/20--they pay 80%, I pay 20%. 

I saw this dentist a few times when I didn’t have insurance and loved her. At one visit, I presented with a three-year-old root canal that still had the sedative filling. The sponge they’d placed inside the tooth was, naturally, starting to decompose, and there was a mess of bacteria and decay in there. She told me that they would probably have to extract the tooth and do an implant, as there was no way there would be enough structure left to put a crown on after she cleaned this tooth out. 

I started crying in her chair, because there was no way I could afford an implant. I couldn’t even afford a crown--that was why I hadn’t done anything with the root canals I had. I’d been able to take one up to the gutta-percha filling, but it still wasn’t crowned.

And this woman, bless her, calmed me down and said “Okay, here’s what we’ll do. I’ll go in there and clean out the decay, and then just pack it with composite. I’ll take it out of occlusion to minimize the stress placed on the tooth by chewing. Hopefully, that will last you until you can get it properly treated.”

Knock on wood, it’s still holding just fine. Recent xrays showed no cracking or breakage.

[blackbearmagic]

fuzzlepiece replied to your post: justlovelydear91 replied to your post: ...

considering that rabies is very fatal and death is very permanent it’s totally reasonable to treat it with utmost caution if there’s any chance at all of rabies no matter how slim

Absofruitley. Ain’t nobody overreacted today.

[wagyubeefy]

Hey there, my best friend is an AFAB nonbinary person living in Melbourne who wants to get on T, would you be willing to talk about/give some tips on getting on T as a nonbinary person? Cheers

Another ask:

hello Emmanuel,, I talked to my doctor earlier this week about going on t. I told my girlfriend I want to go on low dose t (for maybe a year or however long it takes to look more androgynous) and she's really adverse to the idea. I'm not 100% confident in it and I'm scared she'll think I'm a trans man or otherwise stop being sexually/romantically interested in me and I really don't know what to do : ( do you have any advice?

okay! let’s talk about t and being nonbinary/butch I guess. I’m gonna have to keep this briefer than I’d like because its late sorry

1. If you’re taking T topically (through a cream/gel applied to the torso), you can stop literally any day you want to and pace it as much as you like. There’s this misconception that T is all injections; it’s not. Injections are the highway to full transition town, and they still take like 3-5 years to have the effects of T maximised. On topical, that’s even slower and much more controlled. It takes months to see even the first effects of T. and once you stop taking it, it stops doing anything, and many of the early effects are impermanent.2. There are things that are permanent. These happen in different time frames and to different degrees. Things like hair growth and hair loss will develop more and more as time goes on (until they are maximised), things like voice deepening happen all at once and are there forever. If there are things on the permanent change list that you could not bare, be very cautious and thoughtful about your decision.

3. that said, T is unpredictable, depends on your genes, and expecting anything specific is useless. T is a guessing game in which nothing is certain and no one but god knows how it’s gonna pan out. I have two friends that started T around the same time. One has a goatee, a way deeper and a physically larger rib cage. the other has almost no changes except a fuck ton more acne. That will definitely change, their bodies are just dealing with T differently. So if trying to predict anything is gonna help change ur mind... stop that! you cant predict anything, except that it will do Something, and that Something IS on the T effects list.

Now to answer some more specific concerns.Will my partner think im a trans man?Not if they listen to you and respect you when you say you aren’t.

Will my partner not be attracted to me?

I dont know. That’s an impossible question to answer. But I find it unlikely; a lot of the things T gives you are things people find attractive. Like the ability to muscles, and a broadening of the body, and more fun vascular vein stuff, and body hair (very sexy). It also makes you really horny and gives you more energy so like ... idk T is pretty good for having sex??? Also people i know that are lesbians/bi women more into women found their afab partners MORE attractive after being on T. So like... SHRUG

Getting T in Melbourne as a nb person: y/n?

Y. Victoria is one of the better states (or maybe the best state) in terms of acquiring hrt; I know at least 8 people Personally that accessed testosterone while being completely up front about their nonbinary identity and preferring they/them pronouns (as opposed to he/him), including myself! I said very firmly that I didn’t see myself as a man and that my need for hrt was more about personal body dysphoria than outward perception (which is true), and the doctor I was seeing had no doubts about me and was very positive about me going on hrt and getting surgery in the future. 

I was also up front about wanting to take my transition slow, and that I was unsure how extensive I wanted the changes to be. This is normal and you should be open about that!! if you aren't, your doctor WILL assume you want to transition quickly and that will effect how your appointments proceed.Equinox is the best public service to access for gender things. The Centre Clinic in St Kilda also bulk bills and is really good, and doesnt have the wild waiting list Equinox does! If you have money however, Northside clinic is always the best option; it’s private, partly ran by trans people, and their care is excellent.

That said, here are some tips for making it smoother and not accidentally flashing any red flags to the Gender Vanguard that is The Medical Community:

- you don’t want hrt to Look better. You want hrt to FEEL better. If they suspect you want hrt to get big muscles faster or something, they will not like that.

- don’t frame your gender identity around ‘an alienation from womanhood’. This is understood as you still being connected to womanhood, and this doesnt fit into the narrative they want you to fill.

- say ur trans masc. even just a little. they want to hear it. there will be gender sliders where they tell you to mark where you are - put it toward the male side. even if its still mostly the middle. - If they ask if you’re considering surgery in the future, say yes. even if you arent. they arent gonna make you do it, and it reinforces to them that you’re prepared for dramatic change. Also, again, it fits their narrative.

- if you’re a butch lesbian, do not tell them that.

Hope this is helpful! :)