#gatekeeping cw

[fictionkinfessions]

i never understood why in 2023(i think) everyone started to say "youre a kin!!! you cant call it your source!!11!" without ANY explanation. even now I still have people in my comments getting upset about it, but no one ever explained why it was a bad thing, and why it wasn't before. maybe its just an internet user being over critical about non important matters. but in a community full of majority neurodivergents, it was weird.

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[kreibedo]

*gatekeeps tokyo revengers from people i dislike strongly*

[fictionkinfessionsarchived]

can people stop saying it's not valid to be traumatized by kin memories? not everyone has happy go lucky kin mems and some of us see our deaths in our kins, are tortured, abused, or have to see extremely dark and traumatic things in our kins memories. it's not like we can choose what we do and don't remember and when you see something traumatic it's only normal to be traumatized from it. so can people please stop saying it isn't valid to be traumatized by a kin memory?? please??

[roaringup]

l m a o got a ~progressive~ ad about “How can you tell if your child is transgender?” from the Gender Management Service clinic that took 15-yr-old me thru an abysmal 4-hour battery primarily of bullshit written tests (eg numerically rating how I felt about my individual body parts) in a tiny room, then wrote up a report full of factual errors, using a name and pronouns I had explicitly, fully disidentified from, to suggest that I was experiencing “gender confusion” and remark that I was “unable to come up with many specific reasons” for my ~gender identity~

I mean, that was 12 years ago and I went to the queer youth clinic instead and got my shit done there, but I’m apparently still mad (& traumatized)!!! Shrug!!! Interesting that they haven’t changed their name from the Foucaldian “Gender Management Service” in all that time

Okay, I need to... get out of bed

[whatkindofbigotisthis]

was this post about: A. nonbinary people B. bisexuals C. asexuals

[fictionkinfessions]

I've seen enough asks on here about the topic, so I just want to say:

If you identify as a system, GO GET THERAPY. Being a system is not a "normal" human thing and it definitely means you need fucking therapy. You can't just call yourself a system and call it a day. You cant just say you're KINNING, either, because the kin community goes back decades and it is bigger than some teenager on tumblr picking up kins from your mutual's posts. My honest, genuine opinion is that anyone with 100+ kinds or alters IS NOT ACTUALLY A SYSTEM. You are just young and impressionable and the world is in shambles right now and theres a sense of comfort in being someone else. Everyone wants to know who they really are and you will NOT figure it out until you're in your 40s. If it brings you comfort, fine. But go get therapy so they can tell you how to ACTUALLY cope with the real world instead of using "escapism." Escapism is not the answer to your problems and you still have to deal with them.

I say this as a person who felt inhuman since before I was 10yo. I even told my dad about it back then. And I've been watching the way the "community" has changed over time. You are not a polyfragmented system if you have 100+ kins, you are just trying to find an identity that fits you. Kinning nowadays is a good FIRST STEP. But I cannot stress enough that CPTSD, autism, and ADHD mix together to cause dissociative episodes. Maybe you should all look into it and find peace with yourselves before adding a new kintype to your list

All of this being said, yeah I do think having a bunch of kintypes is fine. It's okay for one alter to kin a handful of different people and shift between them. But you do not need individual listings for each separate one. You do not need to make a new proxy with pluralkit. I see people confessing to only seeing a character ONCE and kinning them. It doesn't work like that. Take some time to think about it. Its IMPORTANT to figure out if these similar kins are actually just the one person instead of assuming they're someone new. If you actually had 100+ kins (that you treat like individual alters) you would not be functional

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[fictionkinfessions]

open question, what do people think about kins using the word "source" to refer to the media they kin from?

ive seen a lot of people use source vs media to distinguish kins from fictives, and some even get mad at kins for using the word source

was just curious other peoples thoughts on this!!

my thoughts is that it's ridiculous cop brained hair splitting. please pick up a hobby, there are more fun things to do with your time than police yourself and others. There's way to do kinning wrong but that ain't it.

The words are synonyms. If someone is confused if a stranger is a singlet or system member they can ask. Whether they get an answer is up to the stranger, because they don't owe you personal info like if they're traumagenic or got some self conscious fictotypes. For examples. Just use whatever you vibe with, regardless of who you are.

Listen, knitting needles is like 5 bucks lifetime investment, a hank of yarn maybe 4-7 dollars if you got coupons or what store it is. Knit a BIG rectangle, sew up the sides, knit a long skinny 'scarf' for a handle and with a tapestry needle [2-4 dollars] sew it on. BAM. You got yourself a cute bag.

You can experiment with different knitting stitches, colors, knitting patterns, etc, to get yourself some cute bags and backpacks. Hell, I knit a bag with some duckies on it. QUACK QUACK! If you get acrylic or cotton yarn, that bag will last a damn long time. Hop on Ravelry.com for millions of free patterns and a big forum of of knitters and crocheters who'll gladly help a newbie into their hobby.

BONUS you'll be the hottest person at the gocey [grocery] store.

[fictionkinfessions]

no anon here wo! anxious. but simply here to spread some positivity!!

it doesn’t matter if you have canon memories or not. If you’re spiritual, physiological, etc etc. it doesn’t matter why or what caused you to realize you are a fictionkin. If you kin your Ocs, canon characters, or AUs.. you are valid! And you should be welcomed! It does not matter if you have many or little, you are welcome! I’ve been personally seeing a couple of odd gatekeep-y things recently and want everyone to know you are valid in this space

to fictives, I am not a system myself! I am friends with quite a few but I can’t speak on what you all go through. But no matter your source, no matter if you are connected to it or not, I hope you are doing well and that you are always welcome. You are valid! I sincerely hope the best for you all

I’ll be honest, these spaces can get quite toxic at times. But it’s one of my favorite communities. There are such a variety of people, even if I don’t fully agree with some of the people I meet. Discovering what fictionkinning was made me so happy and I can’t thank this community enough for how much it has helped me, even if I don’t personally interact often! As long as you aren’t hurting anyone, keep being unapologetically you!

also a very much thank you to the mod(s?)!! You probably have to deal with quite a lot but it’s very appreciated! Especially with rude confessions ( remember to be respectful to the mods guys, and to read rules ).

this is too long and I’ve used !! too many times,, but I wish everyone a nice day/night

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