#gender **

[unshadowbannedbaeddel]

hey transmasc that's obsessed with the idea that the TMA/TME distinction is about signalling cagab or genitals, are you also obsessed with your top surgery scars, like they signal to the world something perhaps?

[unshadowbannedbaeddel]

Honest question. Is it gay to say to a girl who's legs your lifting up "not to move you around like a dumb slut that I'm using as a human Fleshlight but I'm really cold and you're warm" while she's sprawled out under a blanket on the only couch in a cold room after spending two days abusing prescription medications and powerful psychedelics?

[unshadowbannedbaeddel]

interested to know what you think the potential demographic data in that 'do you think of your young self as your agab' poll would show!

i mean, i wanna know if my anecdotal experiences are more useful than not, coz ive met far more transmascs that tend to strongly hold onto their cagab (even to go as far as to view it as not coercive) whereas trasfems have tended to not so much, with quite a few of them thinking of their younger self as their cagab.

the thing that was ultimately missing from the poll though, too, was a lot of nuanced answers, like if you dont view yoursel for children in general as being as gendered as adults or if you see yourself as a nonbinary child or if you viewed your gender as a direct result from the coercive nature of gender assignment for people who later realise or grow into transgenderism. theres a lot to be said and its kind of contentious.

but i will say this. transmisogyny is backwards compatible, in that, if you realise you're transfem later on in life, you likely experienced transmisogyny before you realised you were a transfem (maybe a hot take but im not saying we should view all cis men this way since i dont see much use in it in that reards)

[unshadowbannedbaeddel]

no cis man got me kicked out of a community, no cis man spear headed me being banished from a political org, no one doubted if a cis man hurt me. the fact is, in certain spaces, cis men are under so much scrutiny that they simply cannot wield the typical kind of power they might in wider society, yet in these same spaces, because transmisogyny is only ever addressed when its cis men who are doing it, it leaves a power vacuum that cis women and transmasculine people fill. transmaculine people's erasure is a double edged blade that allows them to be invisible predators to transfeminine people but also can leave them without support where they aught to have it - cis women however, i dont know where to begin other than that unless they are visibly mentally unwell and annoy people, they too are rarely pulled up on their transmisogyny in similar ways.

[unshadowbannedbaeddel]

[unshadowbannedbaeddel]

One thing I didn't see being addressed about ppls hate for Mr finnster was the whorephonia. he is essentially doing a form of sex work.

[unshadowbannedbaeddel]

most queers in activist spaces and, vice versa, are already acclimatised with active criticism of cis men but not cis women or trans masculine people.