Trans exclusionary rad fem theory actually hates women. Women must be petite, feminine, soft, delicate, and cater to traditional beauty standards. But also, women must be strong and independent and being hyper-feminine is bad because it looks like you're mocking femininity, or maybe you're just trying too hard to appeal to men.
An ideology based on the exclusion of others can never, and will never, treat the in-group with real love or respect, because the whole point is to make yourself above the out group.
If terfs actually valued traditional femininity they would have appreciated Dylan Mulvainey dressing like Audrey Hepburn and wearing makeup, but they see it as disgusting and insulting, because they actually hate women who dress like that.
If they valued strength and independence in women they would have been excited about Imane Khelif, who won a boxing tournament in the Olympics for women's welterweights. But they saw it as a cruel man taking over real women's space, because they actually hate strong, independent women.
The real lesson here is that no woman will be woman enough for terfs. Not even JK Rowling, not even Marilyn Monroe. Because they hate all women. Too girly, too manly, too tall, too strong, too weak, too fat, not curvy enough, your nose is too big, your collar bones don't stick out enough, your hair is too wiry, you wear too much makeup, you don't know how to apply foundation, your too modest, you're an attention seeker. They hate women, they just don't want to say it like that.
