#genderblogging

[7fff00]

the bugaboo of mine that perhaps sounds most like an overreaction at first blush, or at least a time capsule from 2010s pop feminist blogging:

i find it absolutely maddening that 'beautiful daughter' is so well‍-‍established as a collocation that it makes its way into the speech even of passionate feminists. i think it's the insidious tip of a whole conceptual iceberg: unobserved because subconscious, and all the more dangerous for it.

[wsgtwin]

i know my gender is fluid but like in a funky chicken noodle soup way. as in every day is a new scoop of the gender soup and some days its the everything broth and i genuinely have no clue how to classify it and other days it has a huge chunk of hyperfem chicken or hypermasc noodles and maybe some days its only nonbinary celery or agender carrots. and ofc we cant forget to include that multiple scoops are usually taken every day with varying mixes and amounts of each ingredient.

[internetserviceprovider]

sometimes when i’m doing my testosterone gel in the morning i hear robert evans in the back of my mind, and he’s yelling “ONE PUMP, ONE CREAM.”

[savefrog]

TMI SORTA NSFW TRANS STUFF

Got new light grey sweatpants (theyre SO fucking comfy) and i got a packer and bro i did it i achieved the infamous Grey Sweatpants Bulge ..... fuck yeah 😎 👌

[purrtrand-russell]

Some non-catgirl trans women find it frustrating to be modeled as cat girls, because they want to be modeled as being in the same category as cis women and cis women aren’t typically cat girls.

Proposal: Maybe people shouldn’t assume a transfeminine person is a cat girl unless they are signaling catgirlhood? Just model them as if they were cis women, unless you see a signifier of catgirlhood.

The problem with this is, if catgirls outnumber trans non-catgirls in the LW community, this might be unreasonable to ask. Also, it may not be realistic for catgirls to wear catgirl signals all the time. 

[pellmelegy]

When I'm gone, everyone who knew me had better use my right pronouns.

[7fff00]

reading a post abt language around hrt and thinking. well are you Replacing really or just like. adjusting the balance. bc presumably you still produce some of both just like everyone else?

anyway the point here is not my muddy understanding of the impact of exogenous hormones on the human endocrine system, the point is, if we called it Hormone Adjustment Therapy instead ppl could reenact that one comic abt it:

‘same HAT!’

[7fff00]

thinking abt like. various complaints i've seen that gender-neutral deployment of masculine language (in general but also specifically On Here) harmfully contributes to the normalization of masculine-as-default

and like. i don't have zero sympathy for that, i think the Unisex/Women binary (familiar from t-shirt shapes, stupid both there and elsewhere) is not in fact any better than the much-derided Men/Non-Men approach

but i just wonder like. to what extent those complaints are taking into account the fact that On Here, most of the people i've personally observed using eg 'guy' gender-neutrally are people who were assigned, and who largely continue to be treated as, female, for whom the act of self-describing with masculine language is really one of bending over-bent but still-springy material (the self) back in the opposite direction, with the ultimate goal of restoring it to its own intrinsic shape…