#gettzi

[wheeloffortune-design]

I didn't expect to be as emotionally affected by your Georgia and Manuel art as I was. It soothed my soul. Pride is a conflicting time for me as a bisexual individual and it's sad how many bi people I know who feel similarly. Thank you for the bi positivity.

It’s a pleasure! And I know what you feel, I struggled many years with the feeling I wasn’t “gay enough” so I overcompensated by flirting with girls even when I didn’t feel like it, and somehow adopting “guy talk” to be sure people didn’t mistake me as straight, and huh. yeah, cringy unpleasantness. I still feel the need to alternate the gender of the people I bring to family occasions so they can understand that it’s not “Oh Talhí’s a lesbian” vs “Ha Talhí finally found a nice guy”. (The best one was when my aunt asked me about “the nice young man that came with you at your mother’s wedding” and I smiled and told her aaaaaall about my friend Vivi’s transition and how good she now looks in a skirt. Vivi thinks it’s hilarious.)

Overall, there’s annoyance in real life, and I can deal with annoyance. But online, it becomes anger when people thing they’re being progressive and protecting themselves by shaming me and people like me. And I refuse to let anyone disrespect me - or people like me- without retaliating with ADORABLE CUDDLY SHIPPY ILLUSTRATIONS. 

[chequemerci]

gettzi replied to your post “I want every homophobe who said Bitty was too “soft” or “not a good...”

Is this people in fandom or in canon?

Fandom mostly. But if we see assholes in cannon saying he’s not fit for captaincy I’ll feed them my entire foot as well tbh

[garden-of-succulents]

Any thoughts on poly ford/lardo/shitty?

Metamours can be seriously weird.  It’s like–Ford likes Lardo an awful lot and kind of can’t believe that Lardo chose her back; she’s over the moon at the chance to spend time with her.  But she… feels kind of bad that she doesn’t like Shitty that much. Which is to say, she respects him as a human being, and she appreciates that he seems to love Lardo with the same passionate intensity that she does, but… oh god, he’s such a Harvard Law white boy who thinks he’s woke, he’s a little exhausting to be around. And then she feels guilty for feeling that when he’s nice to her.

Which is to say: Ford feels a little weird about vacationing with Lardo in the Knight house on Cape Cod, following Lardo when she wanders into the family wine cellar to pick a bottle to drink in the evening, and stealing a large men’s Samwell Hockey hoodie from a peg in the back entryway and wrapping up in it when she and Lardo go out on the back deck to enjoy the evening.

Shitty’s internship kept him in Boston this weekend, but he told them to go and enjoy the house anyway, since he did go twelve rounds with Cousin Gloria to keep her from bringing her friends out on a weekend Shitty’d had booked on the family calendar for months.

Take care of our girl, he’d texted Ford. She needs a break.

So it’s weird, but Ford thinks she might be able to get used to it.

[i-am-weis]

@gettzi this trick! here's another source that talks about foreshortening tricks (not for bent limbs, though) http://tweedle-dipshit.tumblr.com/post/157934241890/toonimated-coffee-quest-continues-we-made-you (pardon the lack of clean hyper links and stuff, like I said I'm on mobile 😩)

[star-anise]

I did a study (survey type) ten years ago about daydreaming and found that it was related to "openness to experience" and "creative problem solving. Maladaptive daydreaming was defined in the literature as ruminating on negative thoughts or feelings. Side note: I did the study before I knew I have combined type ADHD. So I was probably projecting a bit trying to justify my inattentive zoning out habits (aka world building inside my head time).

High five from the ADHD-PI chick over here.  Since starting on this topic I got lost for half an hour down a research rabbit hole and then remembered I had a ton of personal projects I want to do, plus actual real for-pay work I’m behind on. So.

The classic Eli Somer definition of maladaptive daydreaming is “an extensive fantasy activity that replaces human interaction and/or interferes with academic, interpersonal, or vocational functioning” (his scale doesn’t address content almost at all, but focuses largely on behavioural criteria) and to me it’s a very tail-wags-the-dog thing. It’s like stimming in autism.

The behaviourist approach to autism, or the maladaptive daydreaming approach, focuses on the end result (daydreaming, hand-flapping) and says that, THAT is the bad thing, and if we can diminish THAT, then the child can spend more time doing math homework or the person can spend more time socializing. Which is why you get “autism experts” who make children sit on their hands, or just tie or tape the children’s hands down, to make them “pay attention”.  Behaviourists devote ENDLESS amounts of time to making autistic people stop stimming.

Meanwhile, if you ask the people inside the situation, the actual problem is emotional or physiological dysregulation; the problem is being so distressed and overloaded that it urgently needs soothing, either through sensory or imaginal self-stimulation. 

The actually useful solution is helping the person find easier, more efficient ways of self-soothing that they can then go do their math homework or talk to people.  Which can be big–medication, less stimulating environments, schedule changes–or small, like having a fidget toy or worry beads.

Whereas the actual “experts” who have targeted stimming or maladaptive daydreaming as the bad thing are the kings of their little theoretical castle and by GOD they’re not admitting that the thing they’ve sworn to eradicate is actually a useful coping skill.

[nerdygirlart]

OMGCP Fic List

Stories on AO3 for OMGCP that include mentioning Jack’s anxiety/addiction/overdose for @gettzi.

Keep in mind all these are completed stories but maybe not completed series.

The Left Hand of Godlessness     words: 38,044 rating: E

http://archiveofourown.org/works/5665741

say it’s been a long six months     words: 10,296     rating: T+

https://archiveofourown.org/works/3895402

AUs:

and then i met you (and the whole world changed)     words: 11,519     rating: T+

http://archiveofourown.org/works/9103957/chapters/20693668

A Chance We Could Make It Now     words: 24,211     rating: E

http://archiveofourown.org/works/5605246

Here Come the Dreams     words: 26,416     rating: T+

http://archiveofourown.org/works/8647201/chapters/19829599

you to believe in     words: 25,756     rating: T+

http://archiveofourown.org/works/9017047/chapters/20565496

Bittle’s Bitty Bites     words: 28,924     rating: T+

https://archiveofourown.org/works/10059203

White Houses     words: 112,000     rating: M

http://archiveofourown.org/works/6189592

A Little Bit Closer     words: 107,963     rating: E

http://archiveofourown.org/works/7289398

Series:

Shards     words: 39,526     works: 3     rating: T+ for the first two M for the final

https://archiveofourown.org/series/603097

Actually, I Do Make the Rules     words: 149,447     works: 8     rating: G-T+

https://archiveofourown.org/series/447310

OC POV:

The First Day of My Life     words: 27,958     rating: T+

http://archiveofourown.org/works/5910166/chapters/13613182

If anyone has one to add do so! I only looked through the completed stuff and specifically Bitty/Jack stuff.

ps. As I was looking through them I was reading them so it took a bit longer. :)

[bluegrasshole]

@gettzi a réagi à votre billet “Super important PSA for all zine participants”

Is there a way to receive a confirmation that you have received stuff?

if i didn’t email you back then i didn’t receive anything. i’ve been emailing back everyone !

[brandoncarlo]

gettzi replied to your photo “I ddn’t mean ttoo   make aa mi.sogynistic lii;;stoof ruless wwomen...”

I'm not really surprised she didn't respond well to people trying to tell her she was in an abusive relationship. People in abusive relationships (who don't believe they are in an abusive relationship) don't usually respond well to people calling their SO abusive... just my personal experience. Plus on top of that there was an overwhelming number of people telling her that she was dumb and misogynistic? I wouldn't be responding too kindly either.

@gettzi Stil isn’t what was happening. People were telling her what was wrong politely and kindly with what she said. Doing their best to educate her. Telling her over and over how she was worth more than this and that she had more worth than her boyfriend. The two people responding to my post both said that we should have done that and we did. People werne’t happy seeing others being told that those parameters were what you needed for a good relationship and all of them who were responding to her were worried that she was spreading this to other young women on here who would internalize her words and were trying to reiterate why it was wrong and why no one should be treated like that. I’m just really frustrated that people who weren’t part of this situation seem to be taking stances that aren’t taking everything into consideration it’s very tiring.