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[youngwolfchaos]

Professor Sybill Trelawney

"I've always been in love with what the stars have to say"

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((a gift from yours truly, @stuff-of-pi . It's about time you got one, my lovely friend ❤️))

Sarai I.. You're amazing. Thank you dork.

[guess1mjustheren0w]

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@percyweasleyapologist

AS o' Irish twin o' mine

[redfernfrog]

What I heard today in 2nd grade

Three boys walk in the class today. Two of them are yelling that third boy punched someone. I look at him. He says "he said he could predict the future! He coulda dodged it!"

[knittinglittleblueboxes]

and now..hopefully the rest of the story..which is a total lie..just a little more of the story before my fucking big finale

His Kindergarten teacher would talk a little of his problems, which were mainly touching. Not bullying, not aggression just contact with another person. The GE(general education) teacher wanted to immediately jump on that. How to fully communicate with me, she chose a weekly calendar in his school folder (usually it's a monthly calendar but she needed weekly to get EVERYTHING down) and write all things that is getting him into trouble. So after this meeting..which I think I covered everything they wanted to do then we continued on.

At ESP(extended school program) things had greatly improved. He had no issues with his groups, bumping into people, his behavior changed for the better. At school on every day it was always something. Top three things were 1: calling out in class(which Grey explained that isn't necessarily yelling, it was just talking when you weren't supposed to) 2: touching. Always the touching. 3. Not doing any work. He'd receive classwork, morning work, and the rest and would shove it in his desk. There were a few days were we would get multiple pages to finish because Grey did not do it at school. So there were days he was eating his dinner right at bedtime after finishing everything.

But I'm jumping ahead of myself, I first had the 1st quarter school meeting. Which of course I wanted to go to vehemently. Let me first state something, the GE teacher did not have an email. She was slightly impossible to reach on the phone. When I would call, she would be busy, get my call back message late and return the call the next day. There is rarely immediate feedback. So I resulted to writing letters and putting them in Grey's school folder. It would be about wanting to get more information on testing, has anything happened (this would be 2 or 3 weeks after that first meeting) and she would say well no, we haven't done it, I'll let you know when I know..which if I may say..she didn't. Grey would tell me. He told me of the hearing test, he told me of the vision test which was HILARIOUS when he acted it out. That is probably when I noticed first and foremost Grey never truly sits still. He is a mover..and when he showed me how he did his vision test, he sat COMPLETELY still. Stared at one of our bookshelves..and said if he focuses on one things, things around it get fuzzy. It was frightening for me to see him sit so still. And when you think about it..why haven't I noticed this before? Had I gotten so accustomed to how he always was moving? He also explained about a test with Ms. Clooney(which isn't her real name..I'm trying to keep everyone's privacy..except my son's obviously) And I was like "Oh! tell me more" but he couldn't really. He always stated he couldn't remember. But he did a test, and she said he did very very well and he got a special treat.

So now...we reach the first quarter meeting:but I'm going to backtrack just a week before, where I had written a letter to the teacher. For the last 6 to 8 weeks, Grey had his toys removed. He wasn't able to watch TV. He wasn't able to play with his Leap Pad or leapfrog pen or anything. I was constantly at a complete loss for Grey. I was trying to show him, if you have bad days at school, you have bad days at home. I'm quite stubborn in an idea that I stick to. And for 8 weeks, there was no change. Occasionally, on VERY RARE occasions he stated he had a good day and the paper reflected that it wasn't necessarily bad. There was a moment where I took all of his toys completely out of his room, and shoved them into my room. He was very upset about this, which..was the reaction I wanted at that time. I said if he came home bad that next day we would take some toys to Goodwill. ( I know..I know I reacted badly in this situation. I know I did, so please leave off your flack about how you would have done..blah blah blah.) That next day I talked to my mom's best friend, who happens to be my cousin also, who happens to be a retired school psychologist. And she stated, yes that was very extreme. I knew it was..I was completely upset about how I was doing, about how I jumped so quickly to something to get a reaction out of Grey. She said..You're a parent, and you can make mistakes too. When I was coming to get Grey that night, I was expecting a meltdown. I was fully expecting nothing to have gone right for him, he was losing control everything. I was ready so ready to calm him down enough to get him outside to explain, no I wouldn't take toys to Goodwill, I was making a bad decision..blah blah blah. I came to him, and he was all smiles. He had an excellent day and he was very pleased his toys wouldn't have to go to Goodwill. 

Lets just say..I can make multiple mistakes, but I can also very immediately state I made a mistake. I have tried to keep myself always honest to everyone I love, and I would want them to truly know that I was truly sorry about what I did to make it wrong.

So first quarter meeting, after the letter of how Grey hasn't been able to play with anything, how I was frustrated at how it wasn't changing anything at school, how I feel I have little to NO CONTROL over Grey at school..it went on and on. About testing about, about speech therapy.. We have our meeting where Grey's father came too. (I'll talk another day about Grey's father..whole new can of worms). It was with the GE Teacher, and the school psychologist. All about how the GE teacher wanted to talk to me so bad, especially after the letter I had written. Summarizing: NO don't take away Grey's toys. Yes you have little control over school. Leave the punishment at school, on especially bad days don't do something special, but don't take away his toys. Yes we are doing testing, and yes here are some results, oh my goodness how much he comprehends way ahead of his peers, lets do an IQ test, agreed, agreed, Grey's father interjects between this blah blah blah. He's mastering everything, but has extreme trouble interacting with peers. End of meeting. Literally..I was able to take little away from this because my main thing was Grey. Comfort for Grey, how I was frustrated, and oh how I was wrong. eh...it went wellish cause he is trying his best, especially on these tests. He seems to really enjoy quizzes like they were doing.

Backtrack again cause I suck at keeping track: I had multiple forms in between these meetings. ADHD forms ( what Grey does at home, and the teacher had her own form as to what Grey did at school) and as I already said..I think I had grown accustomed to Grey so much..I didn't have really another kid to look at and compare. There was one..who was WILD and I felt Grey was less wild than this kid. But I digress..multiple forms to fill out of ADHD, Social Behavior 100 to 150 questions all about Grey.

After this meeting, they sent home two forms: one for me, one for Grey's Dad. All about Asperger's Syndrome. Which..they have now changed the name to mildly autistic. mildly autistic. mildly....autistic. In this form..It had just as many questions about how Grey reacted. In my form..There were a few things I noticed like " acts like he knows more than he really does" " average to above average intelligence" ..his father stated on his that Grey has multiple tantrums at his house, that he talks in a sing song/monotone voice..(which he says..he literally said "But a lot of kids do that" and I had to explain to him.."NO a lot of kids don't have it..it's an unusual behavior.") Thank goodness my roommate was there, because if she wasn't I would never have spoken up to Grey's dad about this. I was astounded he said Grey has tantrums..like flips out on him. So we discussed this, he doesn't think Grey has Aspergers, but he believes Grey has multiple characteristics that I don't notice. Or get to see. My roommate said it's more than likely Grey has more respect for me, knows that my law is THE LAW and she doesn't see Grey flip out either. So...I'm not necessarily feeling like I know my son..this form changed my way of thinking about a lot.

And now...NOW NOW NOW the present time. The last meeting which was last Friday. All about Grey's IQ, about his comprehension..everything..and like last time..to be continued(my brain is worn out..trying to get all this)

[knittinglittleblueboxes]

Just trying to get my thoughts in order...

My son has been recently tested for gifted..and this is just a sound board for me at the moment..skip if you would like

"Grey is a 6 year old male who was referred for an initial evaluation to assist in the determination of eligibility for special education support services. Grey was referred for testing by the school team. He displays significant behavioral, speech and sensory issues in the general education classroom. Grey is a very bright and inquisitive young man."

Grey..my darling Grey. When he was a baby he was no problem at all. And I did all the wrong things with him that they teach you NOT to do. I breastfed, and co-slept with him. Mainly the co-sleep they don't want you to do. Breastfeeding was fine. I had him with a pacifier(which they say now is a no-no) He didn't want it past 3 months and I let it go. When he was past 1 year, I still breastfed at nighttime to help him sleep. No problems when we weened. Nothing out of the ordinary. You read all this stuff about how people knew their child was gifted, but Grey didn't show that much between 1 to 5. We had a slight struggle with talking when he was real young. He would grunt instead of talk. And a lot of that was my own fault cause I already knew what he would want. So I stopped. He started talking after that and whoo hoo no problems. It wasn't until he was starting daycare we had issues. Mainly with touching. He kept his hands down his pants(which is hilarious now..was somehow much more serious then). We still struggle with that time to time, but it's MUCH better. I even had one of the daycare teachers advise me to get bigger underpants because his penis was much larger than you would expect of a 2-3 year old. Which with all due respect I didn't know? But getting bigger underpants and trying boxer briefs has helped a huge amount.

Also reacting or interacting with children, he did have trouble in daycare. He is such a clown, and he badly badly wants to be funny. He so badly wants to fit in. In Kindergarten it came to a true headway. Touching other kids(I DON'T mean dirty or weirdly but he wanted to hold hands, hug, touch someone's arm). We struggled through that with not much success. In school his Kindergarten teacher (bless her) was young and it was her first year and we had communication errors. About 4 out of 5 days he would come home on "red" and he was upset that it wasn't a good color. We tried numerous things that helped a little, and then went back to red. About the last 3 months I didn't care, knowing I was transferring Grey anyways to a new place cause I was moving. During Kindergarten with everything else, the teacher constantly stated how smart he was, how he was mastering things so fast and how young he was. He turned 5 August 19 which was right around the cutoff for them, so he was definitely immature for the rest of the class. I thought about holding him back because of his age, but his daycare teacher said he would be bored cause he already knows everything. She said he was the best at it all(ABCs, counting,colors). Which I was proud of..didn't think that meant anything more than he liked learning. So the teacher tried to change her perception that he was going to be much more immature than her regular students, who are well into their 5's. It was not a fantastic year except that he mastered everything perfectly fine. He was just a mover,shaker,toucher.

First Grade opened into a whole new can of worms. Which is where we are now. It started off with a BAD bang. Not at all with the teacher but Grey himself. The first meeting(open house if you will) I stuck around to ask how Grey is doing cause he was already telling me of writing in the Behavior Book. She said yes..he's signed his name every day in the behavior book, mainly because of his immaturity. Let me first state something, this teacher has been around the block multiple times. I had after talked to some people after meeting her and they said she is really the best person for Grey. She is a stickler, hard nail, and will set him straight. Very very good reviews about how good she is, how nice..blah blah. She is excellent in multiple things, however some I have issues. Hold on..let me keep to the first meeting. She immediately asked about his speech, saying it was incredibly hard to understand him. In the Kindergarten testing, the speech tester said he needed to be retested. That is all I've ever heard about this speech, the Kindergarten teacher never said a thing about this. So, this 1st Grade teacher wanted to get that ball rolling immediately, and wanted a meeting about Grey. Also his behavior sky-rocketed for 2 weeks after that. I was getting bad news from everyone, his teacher, from Grey, from ESP(extended school program) about how badly behaving Grey is. How they had to change their general layout for Grey. If it was a ton of children in one area, Grey blew up and went wild. But if they made the groups smaller, Grey was much better controlled. I had every day a new person talking to me. It was terrifying one day when I went into school and there was a fire truck. I was convinced my child committed arson.  (which it wasn't..it was a false alarm thingy thank goodness) At home, I started teaching Grey how to stand in line, how to be aware of people in front of him and not to bump into them because he wasn't paying attention. Also just talking to Grey helped tremendously. He told me of a boy who was pulling his finger backwards on his hand, and Grey would "scream out" or breath in quickly. He pantomimed it extremely well. I brought this up to the teacher, who immediately had them separated.(backnote: Grey had tried to choke this same child in a lunchroom line..which wasn't as extreme as it sounds apparently..play choking..notice my sarcasm) Removing this boy seemed to help tremendously, to Grey they both just got on the wrong foot. They are now friends, and I had met this boy on a field trip(before friendship..more around to where they could be trustedish together). He was much smaller than Grey, but very in control. He was crying silently(ever watch Dr. Who..when he talks about a child who is crying silently isn't looking for attention ..this was this boy) found out his dog was on his way to a Vet cause he got in a fight. He was such a sweet boy..found out later his dog was fine. So..back to Grey problems they soon de-escalated to where it was much doable. No longer bumping into everyone every time..just some times. ESP went so well, finally I wasn't getting someone new to talk to every time I came up front to get Grey. There was even two times that it became funny. A teacher(esp teacher) came up to me, and saw my face and went "It's not bad. I promise" and told me of a funny moment where Grey and another child were playing with a ball, and it hit the other child in the head. They immediately went over to make sure he was ok, and he vehemently said it wasn't Grey's fault it was fine, and Grey was freaking out on the other side saying "It wasn't me..It was a child who looks just like me but it wasn't me!" which made the teachers laugh. Also he was sitting up front during one day, and seeing my face again the teacher went "He's not in trouble! He's just chilling out with us cause he was getting frustrated"..They are used to me now jumping to conclusions..which is really hilarious for me.

1st meeting about Grey. My roommate was off that day, so I asked her to come with me because I needed someone else to listen and to also speak up with me about Grey. At that meeting we had the speech therapist, two school counselors(one of them was a gifted teacher) his general education teacher, and the school psychologist. They went about his behavior, his touching, his extreme reading, and how he is mastering things very very well. I remember the GE(general education) teacher say 115, and the speech therapist was impressed by this. Grey picked up on reading in Kindergarten and yeah..he reads a lot..but I thought this was because I read a lot. I always read to Grey when he was a baby, and ok I bought him the leapfrog pen when he was 3-4 and he got the Leap pad when he was 5(all around XMAS and birthdays..we don't pick up extreme special things often..I can't afford it) but I noticed he picked up on reading really well in Kindergarten. So he reads really really really well. Ok. To start speech therapy they wanted to do vision test and a hearing test to make absolute sure of him hearing coherently and reading well. All paid by the school. Also the school psychologist mentioned then about doing an IQ test/comprehensive test to really see what Grey was capable of. At this time..I didn't thing too much about this. It was so Pro-Grey. I was really really pleased about how they were wording things. Making sure it wasn't Grey is doing this wrong..it's we(the school system) are not doing this right. They were going about different things with his sensory, him rolling about the carpet, his controlling his actions..everything. I did express at this meeting that his Kindergartner teacher and I had a lot of miscommunication. How Grey was on red all the time, but every time I had a discussion with her, he was such a sweet boy and meant so well, and oh how he corrected directions once....to be continued

[joyllibee]

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