I have many female friends, many of them I find attractive and some of them ive asked out. The kind of girl I’m attracted to shares the same qualities that I’m looking for in friends.
It’s my responsibility to find the line between apprecating their company, respecting the gift of their friendship and not using any physical or emotional attraction of mine to over step their boundaries or affect them negatively in anyway. If I do mention that attraction, I need to make sure they know that if it’s not shared it won’t damage our friendship and I need to make sure it’s appropriate to them, their needs and their circumstances - otherwise I keep my emotional baggage to myself.
I think it’s very important to emphasis that as i know there are guys who will try and pretend to want friendship while really wanting to lure you into a sex or something longer term.
I believe that the only worthwhile way of having either sex or a relationship is with someone that wants me as much as I want them and that it’s a choice or decision made mutually and that any involvement between two concenting adults that feel similarly about each other is not only morally superior but also better in every other way as well.
I think it’s really easy to get into the mentality of how do I make this girl feel about me the way I do her, but if you take it back to concept that your feelings are independent from her and she in no way is obligated to be affected by them in the slightest, it helps break that trap. Better to let anything develop from genuine mutual interest rather than all these stupid ideas that you need to catch girls or trick them into liking you.
If you like a girl, then you need to respect her, and that means you need to value her wellbeing as much as you do your own. Don’t use attraction as emotional blackmail. Don’t inconvenience someone with your feelings if they aren’t mutual. Don’t assume that just because your feelings are so strong, that she owes you anything. Relationships are like trees. They grow naturally, you can’t force them to grow faster or in the wrong climate but if it’s right and if you give them sun and water they will flourish. Be patient and keep looking for someone who wants you as much as you want them.