Ok Moped - adventures on OK Cupid

just another fish guy, looking for love in the big blue sea

[40yodater]

I was hoping to get to the chorus but I think he gave up.

[justneckbeardthings]

Nice Guys are such fun

[dragonkitty]

You know why I don’t do online dating anymore? I got this fuckin’ gem in my OKCupid inbox:

“ Holy shit. A woman with personality. I was giving up hope that they actually existed “

Yes. Because insulting all women is a sure-fire way to endear yourself to me. YOU MOUTHBREATHING SKIN SACK PIECE OF SHIT OXYGEN THIEF.  

[okcupidfailzzz]

This is after I already rejected him in prior messages but I deleted it to make room in my inbox

[okcupidisstupid]

Like I haven’t heard that before.

[okmoped]

What a manipulative cunt !

[40yodater]

And it continues.

[okmoped]

When will they read!!!

[iridessence]

This guy had the gall to message me on OkCupid and demand his “like” back because I was acting “huff and shit.” I didn’t even know he liked or visited me until I saw his message. Needless to say, after looking at this bullshit, I told him he could have the “like” back because I wasn’t going to be using it.

[okmoped]

18

So completely in like with this girl, and she likes me back as well! Think I'm going to discontinue this blog for the foreseeable future.

[okmoped]

18

Omg stuff so much, good things, amazing person wow happy explosion of words and things! Things!

[okmoped]

#9

I flew up to Wellington to try and see 9, that ended up falling through due to her being busy all 3 days I was there, but que sera sera.

Got to spend time with my amazing wellington friends, got lots of hugs and took our friendship from good to epic, so it was kind of a bust in terms of why I went up there, but I had an amazing time with my friends, and I’m kind of pleased I don’t have to worry about 9, because I think I’m connecting even more with #18

[okmoped]

#18

Her favourite colour is green and then orange.

Her favourite shapes are triangles and her favorite letter is L 

She plays the violin

She’s read Deepwater black by Ken Catrin

She has pretty earrings with a ladybug on a leaf but people don’t see them because they’re hidden under her hair

She is surprisingly ferocious in ourdoor games and very good at thinking outside the box

and very cute.

[imwritingpoems-deactivated20200]

concept: me, in a stable relationship, with someone who doesn’t fuck around with my feelings

[howdoicupid]

Pledge of the Reformed Fuckboy

I will not send unsolicited pictures of my cock. I will not call a stranger “baby” or “sexy” or “beautiful” or anything of that ilk. I will not proposition strangers for sex. I will not message a girl without reading her profile first. I will not message a girl if I am outside of her clearly stated preferred age range or preferred geographic convenience or preferred gender. I will not waste the time of someone when I do not meet requirements that they have clearly outline in their profile - even if those requirements are stupid or bigoted. I will not mention someone else’s race in my first message because I am not an insane asshole. I will not copy and paste the same message to different girls. I do not deserve sex. I do not deserve attention. I am not a “nice guy” and I do not say “friend zone.” I am not owed a response to any message I send, no matter how polite I am, no matter how much effort I put into it. If I can’t say something nice, I won’t say anything at all. I will treat others with respect, even when I feel that I am not being treated with respect. I will be honest, I will be patient, I will not ask for nudes. I will be courageous and put myself out there. I will not apologize for my weight, my height, my personality, or what pictures I choose to put up. And I will never expect anyone else to do the same. I will not send unsolicited pictures of my cock.

[okmoped]

18

So 18 is a girl that I’ve seen a few times at a gaming cafe, she’s come across as being pretty quiet / shy and until recently I hadn’t really had many conversations with her. I forgot her name a few months ago and I told her that if she added me on facebook then I wouldn’t forget it again, so she did.

Last game night, which was about 4 weeks ago, I actually had a really decent conversation / banter while we were playing the game and I realised there was a lot more to her then previously had come across. I ended up giving her a lift down to the bus stop and we spent half an hour lost in conversation while waiting for her bus.

Yesterday have having a random conversation, I asked her if she wanted to go for a walk that night, and she said spontinuity sounded fun, so I went and picked her up and we drove over to governors bay and walked along the shoreline. She climbed over a fence with me to explore a partially collapsed pier which was pretty awesome - definitely the type of adventurous spirit I’m feeling like I want to find.  She also bought along her camera and we took lots of awesome shots at the beach - very cool.

After the walk we drove upto the becon hill signal tower and walked up to the summit and took photos of all of Christchurch, the streetlights sparkling in the smog - was very pretty, then dropped her home xD

I’ve actually been wanting to talk about her as a person of interest since our first conversation 4 weeks ago, but I figured I’d wait until we actually got to do something together and tell myself not to be too interested until I had a chance to spend time with her - and I did and it was magnificent. 

Also I was talking to my friends from the boardgaming thing and I told them I thought she was cute and they told me to go for it so yeah. Cool!  

[unabridged-tomes-deactivated202]

My sister may work in the coolest office ever.

[markct-deactivated20151225]

I need this poster… 

[sleepyclover-blog]

people are allowed to leave you. people are allowed to break up with you. people are allowed to love you but not want to be with you. people are allowed to not want to talk to you. people are allowed to put their happiness before yours and do what makes them happy even if it does not include you. people are allowed to move on from you. people are allowed to fall in love with someone else. people are allowed to not want you in their life. people are allowed to do whatever they want to better themselves and become the version of themselves they are trying so hard to love. don’t be bitter towards someone who is only trying to be happy.

[falseaesthetics-deactivated2016]

the truth hurts!

[okmoped]

Wow...epic weekend in masterton

So I had an amazing time with #9, i really like her, but it’s going to be very slow going, long distance and highly risky so i need to not gush too much or build up these feelings for her or I’m gonna be devestated.

So before this weekend i had met #9 once for 10 minutes, back in july! Since then we’ve been chatting online and I called her once at work and spoke to her for another 10 minutes.

Prior to this weekend i invited myself to a party she was having and then when that looked iffy, told her i was going to drive out to masterton anyway and wondered if she’d give me a guided tour and I’d get her coffee as thanks - pretty smooth way of spending time with her right?

Anyway picked her up and we drove to masterton and straight away headed to the park. I think i felt the first domph [heart noise] when she just jumped up and climbed over the surrounding fence to go on the swings and then we played on the children’s playground!

I love how she just climbs things or walks along railings or jumps random obstacles - we then went for a massive walk, climbed a rickety iron tower everything was just so good. This is def a girl i could have adventures and fun with.

We went back to her place for a bbq and hung out with her flatmates and played mafia. Then back to masterton to watch last witch hunter at the theatre. Then back to her place where we curled up on the couch and watched most of insurgent until she was practically falling asleep, then she went to sleep (i stayed in a spare bedroom.

In the morning we finished off insurgent, then drove about 30min into the bush and found this massive swing bridge. Then we walked down to the river and sat beside it chatting and skipping stones.

I told her that i liked her and but didn’t want to make things awkward. Kinda moved on to other subjects without really waiting for a response (im so fucking bad at being terrified of this part of the dating or whatever). Then drove back to town, had lunch at a cute french cafe, met her brother and nephew, then finally gave her a quick hug good bye and left.

You can probably see some big flaws in that but i just didn’t want to put her on the spot or make her feel akward - I’m just not good at trying anything more then casual relaxed.

Brut anyway we were together for 23 hours over the weekend - god shes so in touch with life and we have similar tastes in fiction too.

I txted her that night to clarify where i stood.

I didnt get the “i don’t see you in that way, lets just be friends” - thats what every other date or whatever has resulted in so far this year.

Instead she warned me that she wasnt good at relationships, that she didn’t know, that she didn’t want to hurt me or lead me on…

I told her that i would hold her to no expectations, that there would be no pressure for anything beyond friendship.

So who knows.

Problems:

she lives in Masterton North Island, I’m in Christchurch South Island. If I want to see her I have to fly there.

She might be moving to sydney, Australia next year

Is she just afraid of relationships or just not attracted to me?

I don’t know. Lets see what happens next time we meet, there's potential and we get along well but I don't know anything else yet.