I’m sorry but people on TikTok are so weird when it comes to Ryland and his characterization… like at the end of the day he is a grown adult man and not some small little cinnamon role baby boy who shakes whenever someone looks his way.
Like canonically (!) in both book and film he is quite assertive as long as he feels comfortable enough. He is shy or can get embarrassed/awkward but he’s not like super insecure. That man went toe to toe with Stratt (and the other characters) whenever he felt like it. He could be downright rude and arrogant when someone questioned his intelligence/ideas. (Hint hint UNESCO conference. Doing that takes a level of arrogance only found in the depths of academia)
And the whole swearing thing? Don’t even get me started. He doesn’t not swear because he is too pure for the world but because he spends his days with kids. He says 'fuck' when he sees Rocky’s ship.
You don’t have to headcanon him as a dom or whatever but the way people pretend like he would start shaking and crying at the mere suggestion of sex is mostly just infantilizing.
(Just to be clear, it’s fine to think about him like that and write about it in fact write more it just becomes weird when they get all holier than thou about it and pretend like it’s canon instead of what they think he’d be like)
At the end of the day, it’s fiction and everyone can make up their mind especially over stuff like his sexual preferences (which we technically know nothing about), just don’t be weird and pretend like your headcanon is religion and everyone else’s is ridiculous 🫶
