#grayapl

[emberhoards]

Grayaroaceapl and hyperplaro flag combo inspired by @lovesse hyperromantic flag, @clowncarfullofrats's hyperplatonic flag, u/partybun_kitty's grayaroaceapl flag (couldn't find original post)

When you are grayaro, grayace, grayplatonic, and also hyperplatonic and hyperromantic

Can also go by grayroseapl+hyperaplro, grayaplrose+hyperroapl or whatever order you wanna call it

[fallenrain40]

thinking about if im aplatonic or not, and if i am, where on the spectrum. the problem is i don't really relate to many aplatonic people. but i feel the term still fits me. it's just that- sure, i don't mind talking to people. but most of the time i'm not looking for any sort of connection with them. there are a FEW people, just a few, that I do want a connection with, but that is fairly rare. and if I don't have much in common with someone, it's highly unlikely i will want to be around that person for long. this, from my perspective, shows that i'm less looking for an actual connection, and simply someone to share interests with. if they don't share my interests, then i don't care about being around them. there are very few people who i would still want a connection with even if our interests do not align at times. also, I'm pretty touch averse.

like, for example, if i want to play a video game, I might decide it'd be more fun with someone else. but it's becuase of the way said game is made, and becuase teamwork is fun. (and becuase I might be able to talk about my interests while i'm at it.) the reason i want to play it is less becuase of connecting with others, and more just becuase... the game is fun and made to be even more fun if others are involved. yknow? I've also always felt since i was a little kid that there are two types of friends. There's my "friends" (the people that i know and talk to. i call them my friends cause... idk what else to call them.) and then there are my friends (the people i actually have a desire to hang out with). the latter was always much less common. and even then, it feels like I sought out friendship for stimulation, for something to do, rather than cause I wanted to feel connected to anyone. cause i don't really want to. idk. it's really hard to explain and it's hard not to feel bad about saying that i don't feel platonic attraction often, if at all. it's not necessarily that i don't LIKE platonic relationships, because I do like them! I like the quite a bit. But I don't think I feel them the way others do. I think it's very possible I am greyplatonic and platonic-favorable. I'd like to hear what some other aplatonicspec people have to say about this <3