#grayrose

[papercranesandpride]

I always forget about the term rose (as in, the shortening of romantic-sexual) and it's such a good term. Allorose is such a good term to make it clear that you're talking about only people who are both alloromantic and allosexual, and not talking about other tertiary ways of being allo, and all the rose labels, like grayrose and demirose, are so cool and convenient too. And their flags are so good! I love the blue-green. Anyway. Just a reminder that rose exists and it's a cool word and we should use it even more.

[plague-and-creatures]

Is "at the end of the day you can ship what you want, just check your biases" too easy to confuse for 'queer policing'?

Do I need to spell it out in bold text?

I DON'T GIVE A FUCK WHAT YOU SHIP, IT'S THE UNDERLYING APHOBIA THAT BOTHERS ME

Is that clear enough?

Is this what it takes to not be accused of policing queerness or shipping?

And after I literally said my askbox was open for people that wanted to learn how to properly depict romance and sex favorable aro/ace characters

I KNOW it does more good to educate and not police. That's why I made a post offering to do it!

"Older aces don't have this mentality"

And????

I'm pretty sure plenty of people have discussed fandom aphobia before as well. Even if they didn't I don't give two shits what you say "older aces" care about, I'm still going to care about calling attention to underlying biases in fandom spaces.

"I've only seen this mindset in the Hazbin Hotel fandom"

A) other fandoms actually do have these discussions. Obey Me being one that I've seen most often (I should play it some time)

B) Hazbin Hotel is a pretty massively popular show relative to other shows and games with aro/ace rep

Also it really fucking says a lot when the only other canonically ace characters in the hellverse that are not sexualized (or at least not nearly as much as Alastor) by fans is a 17 year old (Don't misconstrue my words, I'm glad we're not sexualizing a 17 year old period. I'm just asking why it takes that for fandoms to have respect for an ace character's lack of sexuality), and Mammon. Hell, for one of the only two times I've seen Mammon sexualized the person got backlash not because he's canonically ace but because he's fat. What are we doing people?!

You can't tell me there's no bias or that people apparently care so much about sex positive ace rep when there is a clear difference in how ace characters are treated based on conventional attraction.

There's actually a lot of us who have been wanting to put "it's a spectrum" on the high shelf because it's so grossly misuesd in fandom spaces

If asking people to approach an underrepresented identity with care and respect is "policing", especially with regards to the very little canon rep we get, then I guess I'm head of the aspec CIA

Also I would probably hate to hear what someone with this opinion would have to say to literally any other minority in fandom that asks the same because I know aphobia is far from the only discrimination issue in fandom

Seriously all but proving my point about how it's hard to discuss this shit without being accused of policing people or being an anti, cause god fucking forbid an aroace stand their ground and say "I actually don't like being disregarded when we get so little representation already". If you say anything other than "ship whatever you want with no regards" you're a no-good fun spoiler

And of course the pick-me has to come to the rescue and be all "Well actually☝️depicting an ace/aro character like that provides representation for sex/romance favorable ace/aro people"

Okay cool, if us romance/sex favorable aro/aces were so starved for recognition in fandoms, then tell me the last time you saw a depiction of a relationship involving an ace character in which their allosexual partner abstained from sex for them. Cause I see all the time how the ace character comes around to having sex for their allo partner, never the other way around though. Wonder fucking why...

[superstar-rockin]

I love aroace Ryland Grace

So I made grayrose pfps really just cuz they're for me and I'm grayrose (and other shit but ehh)

[yourfaveisintersex]

Kris Dreemurr from Deltarune is an intersex transneutral (link) agender person canonically using they/them pronouns, aroace as an umbrella label but specifically greyrose (link), and they have an unidentified hormonal variation!

Intersex flag-only and popular transneutral flag edits under the cut!

[augmentedpolls]

Aspecs, did you used to identify as bisexual or pansexual before realizing you were actually aspec?

yes!

yeah, and now I identify as bi/pan-romantic asexual or bi/pan-sexual aromatic

I identified as something other than straight, but not bi or pan

I went right from identifying as straight to identifying as aspec

I’m bi or pan and used to identify as aspec before realizing I was bi/pan

Something else/it’s complicated

Not aspec

Results

Voting ended onSep 30, 2024

[fruitpridepixels]

A little collection of my Aro + Ace pride pixels! These are the general spectrum pride flags and the combo aroace ones! From top to bottom: Acespec Aroace Arospec Demirose Grayrose

[plague-and-creatures-lore]

I love being a queer writer! I love being an aroace writer! I love writing interesting and ambiguous relationships for my characters

I love the emotional dynamics I can explore through queer emotions and attractions. I love how they subtly show characterization in ways a heterosexual monogamous and amatanormative relationship could not

I love characters that mean something to each other in a way only they understand, or maybe they don't quite understand but it doesn't matter

[jasper-coins]

Greyspec

[PT: Greyspec. End PT.]

[Image ID 1: a rectangular flag with 6 equal horizontal stripes. The first 5 stripes are a gradient from dark-ish/mid grey to light grey, and the bottom stripe is a very dark grey. End ID.]

[Image ID 2: same design as the first flag, but the gradient has a faint green tint/hue. End ID.]

[Image ID 3: a rectangular flag with 5 equal horizontal stripes. In order of top to bottom, the colours go: grey-turquoise, light grey-turquoise, white, light grey, and grey. End ID.]

Greyspec, or Grayspec – not experiencing attraction in the same way as others. Some examples are: experiencing attraction less frequently; not experiencing it to the same degree as most; or feeling attraction only occasionally and not all the time.

Greyspec is the grey area between Aspec (little to no attraction) and Allo (experiences attraction normally)

There are many different ways to be greyspec, as it is a spectrum. And greyspec is not just for greysexual or greyromantic, it is a term that can be used for any and all attractions.

Taglist: @radiomogai