#aroaceapl

[isuggestaplatonicism]

You don't need friends to be socially fulfilled. If all you want is to have conversations with someone, you know you don't need to befriend them right? Like, you can have a totally impersonal relationship with them, right?

You don't need to interpersonally commit to anyone to fulfill your social needs. Acquaintances exist for a reason!

You don't need friends to be happy! Let them go!!

[mogai-shellybean]

Aplaroace flag alert!

[PT: aplaroace flag alert!]

[ID: a 5 striped flag. The stripes are orange, gold, cream, bluebonnet, and violet. /End ID.]

I used the sunset aroace flag and the aplatonic flag colors. :3

A flag for people on the aplaroace spectrum as an alternative to the current one. I like it. So cohesive...

uhhhh I think I'm supposed to do this? @radiomogai

[aroacebaggins]

@aspecardaweek Day 3: Across the A-spectrum

Click for better quality

"He is alone."

Aroaceapl Ulmo! (Yes, I've drawn the same concept before, I like this one better). The A-spectrum is much broader than many people realize, and I love Ulmo as some aplatonic rep <3

Also fun fact I almost went into marine biology. Anyway I love drawing fish.

[marrow-coining]

aspechaze

a flag for those who are on the aspec ( aro, ace, apl ) and struggle heavily to distinguish between romantic / sexual / platonic attraction.

heavily self indulgent, but also coined for day 1 ( lack of one or all kinds of attraction ) of @caedisinian's 100sin event. also tagging @murder-media.

[faerie-fangs]

going to the movies for the first time in years made me yearn cus im aroaceapl, I wish i had someone to lay my head on at the movies :( someone to nuzzle... is physical touch in a relationship too much to ask for... i wish it wasn't. It seems so simple but to everyone else it isnt. I am sad

[puddleofslimes]

As a loveless aromantic aplatonic asexual person with aspd, there is many things that """makes you human""" that I lack. It's funny how these intersect with each other in that way.

[thattheater-kid]

Figuring out that I was aplatonic made so much sense.

I’ve never made a friend on my own. All the friends I’ve made approached me and made me their friend, or I met through friends. I’ve never felt a desire to have friends. Even as a child I never felt I needed them, which made adults think there was something wrong with me and peers think I was stuck up, thinking I was “too good” to be friends with them. I was seen as a mean person. Adults pulled me aside to ask me why I was by myself, and I told them I didn’t like people. I told them I didn’t want to be around people. I said there were more important things to worry about. This got me sent to school counselors, who would ask me why I pushed people away and didn’t want friends and I didn’t have a reason. I enjoy my friends’ company, but I don’t miss them when I’m away. I never understood why it mattered so much, even as a kid. I always preferred to be alone, honestly. I thought for the longest time it was related to being autistic and ADHD, and maybe it is to an extent, but I simply never liked people and never had a desire to be friends with them.

I’d already known I was aroace. I never felt a desire to have sexual or romantic relationships. I never saw a point. I felt no attraction towards anyone and had no desire to. My life was enjoyable without it. Once I learned about aromanticism and asexuality, I understood that that was what I am.

However, aroace spaces put so much emphasis on platonic love that I never felt like I really belonged in the aroace community. I felt like I was still weird and gross. I felt like a freak who was destined to be alone, someone who could never be fulfilled and would always be missing something. I felt like a freak in my own community because I felt no love. I didn’t feel platonic love or attraction and frankly didn’t want to.

I found the word “aplatonic”. Someone who feels no platonic love or attraction. Now I understand that’s who I am, and that’s not a bad thing. My life is no worse without love. I’m not missing something. I still live a fulfilling life. I’m still human.

[your-fav-is-apl]

waterbottle!! from friendship test is aroaceapl and cupioplatonic

Waterbottle from Friendship Test is Aroaceapl and Cupioplatonic, and canonically Aroace!