i just think that like half of the "Demetrius is a bad stepfather to Sebastian" arguments stand entirely on infantilizing Sebastian?? like, guys, that's not your poor little mistreated baby boy, that's a grown-ass man who acts like an angsty 14-year old and is constantly just straight-up mean to his stepfather...
ALSO, Robin has ONE line of dialogue mentioning Maru.
ALSO ALSO, Sebastian mentions that Robin threw away his entire comics collection? why does everyone talk about how Demetrius told Sebastian to take down his snowman, but nobody says anything about the comics collection? like. that is indisputably about a hundred times worse.
ALSO ALSO ALSO, i think people are getting so distracted by their love of women who are mean to them that they hate Demetrius for being socially inept (cough, autistic) and yet think Robin is awesome for being rude to her husband, to the point where he jokes about how short-tempered she is... IDK MAN. i juuust think there's a BIT of a double standard going on here