#growth work

[self-care-club]

“I cant. I’m not smart enough. I’ll never reach my goals. I’m useless. I don’t deserve to succeed.”

Outta here with that nonsense! ACCEPT that you can change your story.

[self-care-club]

That fawn trauma response goes deep! I won’t pretend it’s an easy habit to break. It takes time and practice. But I promise the people who matter will still like you even if you say “no” sometimes.

[mysticllamaunknown]

Stop Being “Nice” – How Men Can Build Respect Without Manipulation — Tarot Chris — ManyStories

Let’s get this out of the way—nice is not the same as good. Nice is holding the door while silently resenting the person who walks through. Nice is saying “sure, no problem” when inside you’re thinking “I hate every second of this.” Nice is a performance, and people can smell the inauthenticity on it. If you’ve ever wondered why “being nice” doesn’t earn the respect you think it should, here’s the truth: niceness without boundaries is just manipulation in a polite suit. — Read and discuss this story with the author and others on ManyStories

[ocean-anchored]

The Queen of Books - Book Club

Book: Winning The War In Your Mind Chapter: 1 Date: January 11, 22

Remove the lie, replace it with truth. Love is a battlefield, where your mind is the battlefield and you’re fighting your mind each day, only one side isn’t aware there’s a war going on.  You cannot change what you do not confront. The enemy is always telling you lies, whether you’re happy or sad there is always a lie from the enemy coming against God to divide you. Satan is trying to lock you in a prison of lies.  A lie believed as truth will affect your life as if it were true. Who you are today is a result of your thoughts in the past. Who you become in the future will reflect what you think about today. 

Action Audit:

Inventory - taking stock of my thoughts for a day:

On a typical day... Defense (protection from the enemy): Are my thoughts tearing me down? Do I think worried thoughts? Does my self-talk cause me to shrink back in fear? Do my thoughts cause me to keep people at a distance? Are my unhealthy thoughts keeping me from the life I want? Are my thoughts negative, toxic, or self-deprecating? Does my inner voice tell me Im helpless or that life is hopeless? Do I find myself skeptical of others? Do I lean toward imaging worse-case scenarios? Offence (growth toward God): Are my thoughts building me up? Do I think peaceful thoughts? Does my self-talk inspire me to take faith risks? Do my thoughts help me get closer to others? Do my thoughts reflect my faith? Are my thoughts God-honoring? Do my thoughts reflect my hope in Christ? Do they inspire me to believe I can make a difference in the world? Do they equip me to become more like Jesus? Do my thoughts connect to the vision God has for my life?

[swissshard]

She felt I was the only one who could understand it because I was Jungian. I had training as a Jungian analyst and I was doing Jungian analysis at the time. Well, I was just amazed at this experience, just flabbergasted, because, my God, here I'd been working 30 years in various disciplines and studies and meditations and all that kind of stuff and every now and then getting a glimpse of the truth on an experiential level. Here, this gal comes in and tells me she dropped this minute quantity of material and she had a solid day of nothing but all those beautiful peak experiences that people will get out of it, and tremendous insights and many growth things and all of that. I was very surprised. Didn't do anything about it, particularly. I asked her some questions, but I knew that there was nothing you could even question about it. You just listen to it and get what she's saying. I got a contact high from her, though. (He laughs heartily.)

- Leo Zeff from The Secret Chief Revealed