Consent is important between lovers: Respect, harmony, positive, equality.
(This cartoon image was drawn by myself in order to represent the romantic story. In this image, it is a cute couple wearing same clothes and staying happily together.)
Have you ever thought about the important factors to sustain the relationship between lovers? Or do you think it relates to the gender norms to some extents? Do you think the unstable relationship between the teens and the high divorce rate are really prevalent now? The reason why I want to relate the consent to this theme is that there is an example happens in my real life to answer all of these questions: The most essential factor between lovers should be their consent.
They met at the same class, she is really talkative and outgoing, and each action of her was jumped into his eyes. And then, such a romantic love story begins. They spend most of their time together every day, and they live together. It is known to all that if two people usually stay together, some problems and contradictions are unavoidable. However, I am really curious that they rarely get angry to each other, and they can use their ways to deal with the problems tactfully. So I tried to ask some questions about how they can get well along with each other. There are no magnificent and complicated answers. They used simple words to describe some important factors about their stable relationship: Harmony, comfortability, Positive attitude and understanding. I am really surprised at that time because most people can do like this way, and each couple can also think like this way. But no one can really insist until the end. Especially nowadays, the phenomenon is that people change their lovers always frequently usually because their thoughts are different, and they cannot reach their consent, and then they break up.
To love and to be loved always need consent, because it will be a process to find each other’s common points and thoughts. And the relationship between lovers also need to be adjusted by some specific ways. Men should respect women physically, mentally and sexually. And vice versa. Because each of them have absolutely equal positions at any time. The only thing is to obtain a harmonious point so that they can stay with each other for a long time or even forever.
What I mentioned about gender norms in the first paragraph, I think according to many social issues, men and women are always a focused group that to be talked about consent in many ways such as when begin a sexual process, men should ask for women’s consent, men and women should have equal positions when making some choices and so on. There is no doubt that consent is also necessary in our life, in order obtain a stable relationship
There are some pictures (all pictures are authorized by my friends) to show these harmonious and happy moments between these two lovers who have absolute consents between each other.
The first picture above was shoot at The Disney World in Orlando when they traveled together.
The second picture above was shoot at the center of New York when they traveled together.
