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[carlisle91]

nyc

Gov Ball

[carlisle91]

NYC2013

I'm going to GovBall in June. Not going to lie, getting a bear hug from Mike while I'm in NYC would be the cherry on top of a great weekend. Just putting it out there, universe.

[withinbegin]

5+ Friday (why today rocks):

No red mango.

The work parking lot usually fills up by 8:50. I got a sweet spot at 8:57 and made it inside right on time.

It finally feels like spring today. I had the sunroof opened on my lunch break drive.

I already mentioned this, but I’m just so happy that my tax return got deposited today that I have to say it again. Treating myself to a nose piercing with it as soon as I am blessed with a day off.

Everyone in the office starts going crazy at 3:45 (especially on Fridays). Me and Ryan just ran around collecting group hugs. We got threatened to get farted on so we stopped.

My dad got me a press pass for the Knicks game tonight.

Then we’re heading to some bar in manhattan to see my cousins band play. This will be my first time seeing him play music in years. It’s so wonderful that he’s doing what he loves again. I’m also trying to convince mike to meet me there. I might have to send him a sad puppy face or something.

[carlisle91]

2014

Part of the reason I'm happy about moving to New York is knowing i'll see some tumblr peeps there. Like Mike. Mainly Mike. I don't even talk to him. Whatevs. The man is Ah-ttractive.

[fitnessjerks]

If you have bad knees and can't do lots of squats, is there another movement that's beneficial to do but less stress on the joints?

hey first ever fitjerkz anon - it's your lucky day because you're getting answers from both of us:

Mike says: "Okay so first things first: I also have knee problems, so I know those feels. That said, it's possible you can modify a few things about your stance to allow yourself to squat. Honestly, squats are a staple of weight training for a reason, so you want to do them if you can do so painlessly.

Start by squatting with no weight. Put your heels directly under your shoulders, and rotate your feet about 30 degrees outward. You want to engage your hip adductors, the muscles which rotate your legs outward, away from your groin. By engaging the adductors, your butt takes over. This is a good thing. Your butt is strong. By transferring the weight to the hips/ass, you alleviate pressure on your knees.

Try it without weight. Stretch your legs, including your hips, and try to descend deeper with each rep. If you're able to do it painlessly, then use a light barbell or light dumbbells. It can take time to feel comfortable with the movement, but doing squats correctly is immensely beneficial, so stick with it.

Unless you don't want to. In that case, do leg presses or something. But we're not friends anymore."

Tina says:"no! there's nothing better! honestly, you can do squats. mike said everything i wanted to say but in a nicer, more scientific way.

i have shitty knees (no flexibility, fucked up my lateral meniscus this past spring, etc) and i still do them. it's not a knees-only movement. doing them the right way takes the stress off your knees. don't let them turn inward at any point of the movement. move your butt back first before any knee bending happens.

you don't need to do "tons of them" - just do like, 3 sets of 5 with a weight that feels heavy but not uncomfortable for you - and you don't need to start with a ton of weight! get that form down first and get back to me when your ass and thighs are looking' like a million bucks. you'll thank us."

[lnthefade]

the internet is a place

"I don't understand why you are so sad about someone you know from the internet."

You don't need to know the whole conversation. But that was the last line of it, spoken by a coworker. 

It didn't matter to her that I had met Julie. She was still from the internet. And you know, it didn't matter to me that I met Julie, either. I know and care for many people I have yet to meet.

It's so very hard to explain the concept of internet friendships to people who don't understand them, because they have a mindset that only allows them to see the internet as a thing; a source of information, Facebook games and pictures of kittens. What they don't see is the communities that exist within. They don't see the people.

Last week, Mike asked if we think of the internet as a thing or a place. The person who did not understand my grief for Julie would think of it as a thing.

But for me, and probably most of you, it is a place.

The internet is a bar, a living room, a kitchen table, an all night diner. It's a gathering place where people meet to talk about sports and politics, about life and love, about music and art. It's a place to tell jokes, to laugh, listen, learn and yes, love. We forge relationships in this place. We make friends. We meet people we intend to spend the rest of our lives with. We take those relationships and sometimes bring them into a physical space, meeting in groups or couples and when we do that, it always feels like we have just moved the conversation from one space to another. It doesn't feel weird. It doesn't feel different. It feels as right as talking to friends always feels.

The internet is a place. It is a hospital waiting room where we pace awaiting news of a birth. It is the pub next door to the funeral home where we gather to swap stories about someone who shared their life with us until the end. It is a graduation party, a wedding hall. It is a stadium where we all watch the same game at the same time, it is a convention center where we sit down to watch and talk about a Presidential speech. It is an auditorium where debates are held. It is a cafe after a movie opening. 

It is, indeed, a place. And the people in this place are very real.

I lost a friend last night. It does not matter where or if I met her. It does not matter that the first time I ever saw her was in the hallway of a hotel in Chicago, where she was standing in the open door to her room in a robe, with a towel on her head and she recognized me and we hugged like old friends because we were. We were old friends. Before we even met.

Because the internet, it's a place. Real people exist here. We make friendships. We start relationships. We share our pain, our joy, our happiness and sorrows. We make each other laugh, we help each other in times of need. Sometimes we travel to other states or countries to meet each other for beer and food and fun. But we never have to travel far to be with each other. 

Because we are here. In this place. In this vast living room called the Internet. 

This is not something you can explain to someone who sees the internet as a thing instead of a place. 

At least I have somewhere to go where people understand.