#hegexo

[sparklesandchalk]

Did you know that Kenzo can do a split leap with a full turn as well as a Mustafina? He was playing around with the rest of the girls while they were waiting for Mai, hopefully Aiko or Asuka will post the video they took later 😁

I don’t doubt this one bit haha. they better post video!

[vaspider]

Have you heard Diva by Dana International? It's an ode to powerful women in history, sung in hebrew, and performed by a jewish trans woman. She won the eurovision song contest for Israel in 1998. The song is beautiful and the performance magnificent

I haven’t, how cool! Thank you.

[vaspider]

Have you been to "What Jew Wanna Eat"? It's a food site and they have a gluten free section^^ You probably know more about keeping kosher than me, and you can probably make a more educated decision as to whether it's legit^^

I haven’t! I’ll check it out. If other folks have already checked it out, please let me know. <3 

[thesylverlining]

Do you have any nifty words to make a doctor take your pain seriously? Cause I don't feel like waiting two years in pain this time before medical personnel takes me serious..

Ugh. If I knew, I would absolutely tell you. Depending on the doctor you have, it can be really, really hard to get someone to actually listen and believe it’s not ‘all in your head.’

The last specialist I talked with suggested both a ‘pain psychologist’ (he completely un-subtly said I was exaggerating/it was psychosomatic) and… spinal surgery. Because of the very clear and physical evidence… that it wasn’t in my head. He was looking at the x-rays, and still said this.

So yeah, you can have very solid, physical evidence, and some people still won’t believe you/take you seriously. The best advice I give is to have this, get your symptoms and conditions documented when you can - and if you’re trying to get help for a physical problem, and especially if it’s something like an autoimmune/dysautonomic or allergy disorder that often overlaps with other conditions/disguises itself/is episodic - try not to associate it with mental/emotional conditions. It’s absolutely shitty, but doctors will try to play it off like it’s all in your head (ie; if you say you have a history of even depression/anxiety, they will say ‘well maybe your pain is coming from your depression. have you tried yoga?? long walks? try eating more blueberries’ - actual suggestion for my skull malformation).

I’m not saying lie, just make it very clear that this is not why you are here. (If there’s a ‘why are you here today’ form, or a ‘reason for visit/symptoms’ form with mental/emotional checklist boxes - don’t check, for the love of God. Not if you don’t think it’s true. (If you do, go ahead, obviously.) But if there’s an easy way out (oh, ur depressed/have a mental disorder? it’s that) it’s likely that doctors will be inclined to take it.

What else… whenever you can, take someone with you to your appointments. My mom and I go together to every single one, both of ours. If you’re in doubt that someone will listen to you, just having someone there to corroborate what you’re saying often helps.

When it’s possible, I bring my dad. (It’s… remarkable how much differently I’m treated when he’s in the room. And kind of discouraging when I think about it. But this is probably the thing that helps the most. I’m really sorry to say this, but that’s… been the most helpful thing. If you’re read as a girl, or trans/gender nonconforming, bring someone who’s read as a man, especially cis, and grown. It sucks. But that’s probably the most practical/immediate suggestion I have.)

If I think of anything else, I’ll add it.

Getting your symptoms/pain taken seriously if you’re dealing with chronic pain and/or invisible illnesses is… a process. Getting someone to listen can be the hardest thing in the world. Much less actual effective treatment that works for you. Remember to rest and be gentle with yourself in the meantime.

[carolxdanvers]

So this is completely random, but I saw your toothpaste comment on a sensory friendly toothbrush post and wondered if you found a decent toothpaste that was not mint flavored? Personally I'm attached to Earthpast in Lemon or cinnamon flavor, or Tom's in cinnamon.

I haven’t yet, but thank you so much for the recommendation!! 

[luanna255]

You've probably got messages about it. I think when folx are taking about accurate cast in Night at The Musum, they're about Rami Malek as Ahkmenrah. But it would have been nice if the other Egyptian rolls where filled with Egyptians as well

I don’t think casting one actual Egyptian is enough to go around praising the movie for its incredibly accurate casting, especially when in addition to the issue of casting two Indian actors as Ancient Egyptians, there were also real-life Native Americans who took offense to the casting of Mizuo Peck (who is a Japanese/white actress with possibly some Cherokee descent in there) as Sacagawea.

Also, can we not with the “it would have been nice”, as if, ho-hum, it would have been nice if the movie hadn’t cast two Indian actors as Egyptians, but they cast one Egyptian, so why are you being so picky? 

I mean… like I said. I would have been pretty happy if they’d just put actual Middle Eastern or North African actors in those roles. There’s room for some flexibility here. But Indian isn’t even close. And it’s a problem that’s far from unique to the Night at the Museum movies. Seen the King Tut miniseries that came out last year? Surprise, surprise - two Indian actors in the two main roles. (Oh hi, Ben Kingsley! Good to see you again.) The best I’ll say about that kind of casting is that it’s better than just straight-up casting (almost entirely) white actors, like Exodus: Gods and Kings and Gods of Egypt did. But it’s the laziest kind of “Eh, they’re brown enough, whatever” casting, and that’s racist in its own right. You can’t act like literally any non-white race is interchangeable with another. 

[deliriumfics]

You know what? I love you and your writing, for realsies! I think my favorite is 'Be Positive', but the 'In Remembrance of Kitt Allan' series is brilliant as well^^ One thing about 'Be Positive' is that I really would like to see Gio coming back in some way. For the most part I want him to become a friend of Kurt after everything is cleared up with the false diagnosis. That's all, have a great day^^

Thank you! I will say that Gio does appear again... I won’t say how that goes down. He really kind of got the brunt of a lot of weirdness that he had nothing to do with. Poor guy.

[thesylverlining]

Hey, I hope you and your followers can help me out with something^^ I'm planing on becoming an educator, more specifically an elementary school teacher. Now I know how much it hurt me cis female to be educated in a gender stereotypical environment that sent me on a downward spiral of depression. I can only imagine it's worse for somebody that's non-binary or transgendered, do you have any advise on how to create a non gendered and/or inclusive class environment? Much love^^

Well that is a lovely question and I am really glad you are thinking about it. :3 The first thing that comes to mind is that I am not sure if a non gendered class environment is the way to go - and I’m so glad you said the word inclusive - because different genders do exist, and are all great. (And as a nonbinary bigender person I thank u.) And saying we’re all the same doesn’t really change anything. So it’s more about showing that all genders are cool and okay to be, and that if kids want to do things outside their assigned genders that is totally okay and wonderful. And expressing them is great, and being mean to others about it definitely isn’t.

I have absolutely zero experience with teaching kids anything and also I just woke up and am not doing the word thing good and need the caffeine, so would like to open this up to follower thoughts. Anyone with them? I have many lovely smart followers who can probably help weigh in as well, so feel free to do that.