long-term long-distance low-commitment casual gf

K, 36, she/her. wheelchair user, astronomer & astrophysics student. don't follow if you're under 18 https://www.ko-fi.com/carolxdanvers

[talas-first-lady]

[uovoc]

English has different words for mouse and rat but in Chinese they're both the same creature (laoshu) so I asked my mom well how do you differentiate between mice and rats. She, clearly having never felt the need to do so, was like uhh big laoshu and little laoshu I guess. Then I went online to see how the difference between (the English words) "mouse" and "rat" was being explained to CN->EN learners and there are numerous articles delving deep into the analysis. Bigger vs smaller, indoors vs outdoors, cute and favorable connotations vs evil and ugly, tail length, fear factor, emphasis on the fact that you cannot call it a "computer rat." Much thought is being expended on this little mystery of the English language

[xiangqiankua]

Last time I was looking for an apartment, the guy showing me a room that opened directly to the alley was like 你怕老鼠嗎？and I, hoping to distinguish mouse vs rat, asked 大的還是小的? To which he replied, with great satisfaction: 都有!😃

[sladeofyaupon]

Translation: "Are you afraid of rodents?" "Big ones or small ones?" "We've got both."

[official-linguistics-post]

official linguistics post

[pudulogy]

same animal btw

[dailymanners]

If you want someone else to do something, there's a reason it's considered more polite to ask "Hey, could you ___?" instead of just telling someone "do this" or "I need you to do this". It's not just a hallow meaningless formality, it's about acknowledging the autonomy and free will of the person you're asking. Unless it's an urgent situation where someone's health or safety is on the line, you are actually very rarely in a position where it's appropriate for you to give orders or demands to other people, especially of the nature they can't say no.

For example, say you have a work colleague, and you want them to check in with a supplier and make some alterations to an order with a supplier. The reason it's more polite to say "Hey, could you give x supplier a call and get back to me after you've spoken with the supplier?" instead of ordering them "Call the supplier and get back to me after you've called them" is because by asking instead of ordering you are acknowledging your colleague's autonomy and free will, that they are your colleague and not your servant to order around.

Some people might argue "but if someone asks me 'Hey, can you ____?' technically they are just telling me to do something but with useless hollow formality!" which simply isn't true. If someone asks "Hey, can you ___?" you technically have the right to say no, even if it's your job that you are getting paid for, even if there are consequences to you saying no (such as being reprimanded at work or even losing your job), you still technically have the right to say no, and it's only polite and considerate to acknowledge that by asking instead of giving orders.

Of course, things are different in highly urgent situations where someone's life/health/safety are on the line. This is why you probably won't find firefighters or paramedics going "hey, sorry to be a bother but could you hand me that defibrillator?" to their colleagues.

However, when it comes to most situations in daily life, you getting that report from your colleague, asking the server for more sauce, asking your girlfriend to put away the dishes while you're at work, nobody's life/health/safety is on the line in these situations, so you certainly can stand to be polite by acknowledging their autonomy and free will by asking instead of giving orders.

[dailymanners]

[eridan-ampora]

baby animals move like theyre playing a new video game & havent figured out the controls yet

[eridan-ampora]

^ just found the dodge button

[carolxdanvers]

Stuff I post rarely makes the rounds these days, so having a vulnerable post about AI gaining so much traction on a platform whose userbase has largely lost the plot with regards to AI... It's scary. I'm glad it's making an impact but it's fucking scary. I'm just waiting for the day that I disagree with someone on a post and they throw it in my face. So far I've only gotten one shitty anon message about it, but the more it circulates, the more hesitant I am to check my inbox.

Isn't that fucking sad?

[comix207]

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Also, we removed all AI functionality from the site as requested by the majority of the roleplaying community!

Comix.blog is a collaborative roleplaying platform in a digital comic book style. Create stories, play as your favorite characters, and join

[carolxdanvers]

Y'all should be supporting shit like this instead of pulling AI witch hunts. This is a site that has explicitly removed ai after listening to roleplayers, and y'all are in the comments calling the image AI.

The image was posted twelve years ago on deviantart WITH a time lapse video of its drawing.

When I say the way y'all behave about AI is getting culty, I mean it.

[mochipuchi]

trying to interrogate the last boy that went to jupiter to get more stupider, but he bit down on an estradiol like a fucking cyanide capsule and I didn't get anything from her!

[dreamyslothbunny]

Decades of stupidity vanished in an instance, just like that, swallowed by the sands of time. What drives a man to seek ignorance over knowledge? Ironically, the answer will remain a mystery. But maybe it’s for the best; afterall, some stone are best left unturned, and unturned it will remain in the twilight zone.

[knifenymph]

change does not come from a place of comfort

[aquareaper3]

I find pennies and nickels in my couch all the time, so I don’t know what you are talking about

[homofied]

[opalfairy]

[catsandwich-deactivated20240213]

This is a literal sexual harassment training video we had to complete

[shoezuki]

obsessed with the canadian ghoulmaxxing acecel

[thetimetostrikeislater]

[foone]

My picks for the sole non-muppet in each 4:3!Trek, were they to make a Muppet Trek:

TOS: Bones TNG: Wesley DS9: O'Brien VOY: Trick question. They're all muppets. (Even Seska. Especially Seska) ENT: Phlox (as he's already a muppet)

[galileoace]

Fairly sure Enterprise, at least in its latter seasons was broadcast in widescreen, not really fitting the moniker of 4:3!Trek

[foone]

That's true, but it started in the 4:3 era, so it's a 4:3!Trek.

[clara-the-cat]

Having O'Brien be the one non-muppet is perhaps the most correct take anyone has ever had

[foone]

Yeah, I wrote that one first and then expanded out to the other shows for completeness

[fictionadventurer]

I think the Hunger Games series sits in a similar literary position to The Lord of the Rings, as a piece of literature (by a Catholic author) that sparked a whole new subgenre and then gets blamed for flaws that exist in the copycat books and aren’t actually part of the original.

Like, despite what parodies might say, Katniss is nowhere near the stereotypical “unqualified teenager chosen to lead a rebellion for no good reason”.  The entire point is that she’s not leading the rebellion. She’s a traumatized teenager who has emotional reactions to the horrors in her society, and is constantly being reined in by more experienced adults who have to tell her, “No, this is not how you fight the government, you are going to get people killed.” She’s not the upstart teenager showing the brainless adults what to do–she’s a teenager being manipulated by smarter and more experienced adults. She has no power in the rebellion except as a useful piece of propaganda, and the entire trilogy is her straining against that role. It’s much more realistic and far more nuanced than anyone who dismisses it as “stereotypical YA dystopian” gives it credit for.

And the misconceptions don’t end there. The Hunger Games has no “stereotypical YA love triangle”–yes, there are two potential love interests, but the romance is so not the point. There’s a war going on! Katniss has more important things to worry about than boys! The romance was never about her choosing between two hot boys–it’s about choosing between two diametrically opposed worldviews. Will she choose anger and war, or compassion and peace? Of course a trilogy filled with the horrors of war ends with her marriage to the peace-loving Peeta. Unlike some of the YA dystopian copycats, the romance here is part of the message, not just something to pacify readers who expect “hot love triangles” in their YA. 

The worldbuilding in the Hunger Games trilogy is simplistic and not realistic, but unlike some of her imitators, Collins does this because she has something to say, not because she’s cobbling together a grim and gritty dystopia that’s “similar to the Hunger Games”. The worldbuilding has an allegorical function, kept simple so we can see beyond it to what Collins is really saying–and it’s nothing so comforting as “we need to fight the evil people who are ruining society”. The Capitol’s not just the powerful, greedy bad guys–the Capitol is us, First World America, living in luxury while we ignore the problems of the rest of the world, and thinking of other nations largely in terms of what resources we can get from them. This simplistic world is a sparsely set stage that lets us explore the larger themes about exploitation and war and the horrors people will commit for the sake of their bread and circuses, meant to make us think deeper about what separates a hero from a villain.

There’s a reason these books became a literary phenomenon. There’s a reason that dozens upon dozens of authors attempted to imitate them. But these imitators can’t capture that same genius, largely because they’re trying to imitate the trappings of another book, and failing to capture the larger and more meaningful message underneath. Make a copy of a copy of a copy, and you’ll wind up with something far removed from the original masterpiece. But we shouldn’t make the mistake of blaming those flaws on the original work.

[heywriters]

As a nonfan, one thing I’ve always appreciated about the “love triangle” of THG is that it’s the one YA love triangle I’ve ever read where the heroine DOESN’T choose the brooding, violent bad boy. Every YA novel that has love triangles is copying Wuthering Heights and Jane Eyre where the broody guy is “not like the others” making the heroine “original” and oh so special for falling for him when he’s literally an abusive jerk.

My FAVORITE part of this though, is that in violent, oppressive, dystopian Panem Peeta IS the different one. Every person Katniss meets has dark, broody feelings for completely valid reasons (another thing shallow Bad Boy archetypes usually lack). Peeta (sry it autocorrected to “pasta” and I cracked up) is one of the only people in Katniss life who’s telling her “Hey, you can do this, we’ll get through this, people shouldn’t have to die for it though.” And that’s, like, the most revolutionary mindset in a world where brutal violence is so normalized it’s broadcast on television as mandatory entertainment. Katniss didn’t pick the “nice guy” she picked the healthy worldview she and her society need to heal.

Moreover, Peeta picked well too. He’s a child abuse victim from a houseful of people who wouldn’t stand up for him in a town that derides him for having a minimally better station in life than them, and here’s this girl who willfully stands up to every injustice she can. Seriously, how often does the love interest in copycat YA lit have a convincingly compelling reason to love the heroine other than she’s pretty or “different” or “we’ve always known each other so I guess let’s get married”?

[redshiftsinger]

Also, their initial interactions, he’s not kind to her because he has a crush on her. He’s kind to her initially because he’s a kind person.

It’s also never *definitely* clear exactly when he developed romantic feelings for her. Sure, he claims he had a crush all along, and that might be true, but also he’s shown to be an excellent improviser who can and will lie extremely convincingly on the spot to manipulate public opinion when he feels it’s warranted (fake pregnancy, anyone?), and also a deeply kind person, and in combination? He may not have loved her yet when he first claimed to, in the first public interview. But he knew she had more to win for than he did, and if she won, it would help their whole community, by extension everyone he cared about, PLUS she has the kind of skills that are useful in the Games, far more than he does. She wasn’t ever going to get the public-opinion support that would improve her chances on her own, she’s too blunt, too rough around the edges. She’s already pissed off the elites enough to manipulate the rankings to punish her.

But a tragic, star-crossed-lovers story? THAT might get people rooting for them, and by extension, for her. That might be enough that Katniss, whose family primarily rely on her to feed them since her father’s death (unlike Peeta’s family, who can fend for themselves), gets to go back home alive at the end of all this. He never had a ghost of a chance anyway.

And Peeta is a kind person.

[cringecorp]

so. i do this thing where i wake up still half-asleep, write a note in my phone, and then fall back asleep and forget about it completely until i find the note later.

and i need to show you all some of these because ?????

[thedogeveryonehates]

[moniquill]

[scorpio-system]

AAA video game publisher voice: "Look. The goose layed a golden egg, and that's nice! Everyone loved that egg. But keeping the golden goose means paying for bird feed and I don't want to, so I killed the goose."

[miscellaneousmao]

Fluffy Eevee marshmallows 🤎🤍 Design based on Penny's Eevee backpack since I think it's so cute 🥹 Look at it spin!