#hetero-normative

[rz-patriarchal-grapistx2]

Terrible System

So I've noticed, unless you're queer, it's basically impossible to keep any sort of kink blog here.

[therainbowtimes]

A Trans Woman’s Journey From the Straight to the LGBT World

A Trans Woman’s Journey From the Straight to the LGBT World

Deja Nicole Greenlaw By: Deja Nicole Greenlaw*/TRT Columnist— Like many trans women, I came from the straight, heterosexual community. I knew very little about the LGBT community. All my views and thoughts were seen through my hetero-normative filter. As a child growing up in the 1950s, I was taught that gay men, (they were referred to as homosexuals back then), were evil and unstable people. If…

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[acevulpes]

Ok, so I'm a Secondary Education student. First year. Majors are English and Biology. And today I had my second 'Child and Adolescent Development and Learning' class. Second class. And we're learning about how growing up can affect kids socially, emotionally, physically, etc. And I see one of the bullet points, under the late childhood to puberty area, the stupidest fucking hetero-normative shit. Direct quote: 'development of appropriate sex roles'. DEVELOPMENT OF APPROPRIATE SEX ROLES. This lady with a doctorate in education and teaching us about fucking child and adolescent psychology, who had said not 5 minutes before that children are sensitive about being early/late puberty bloomers, considers the development of appropriate sex roles an important step in the social, emotional and cognitive growth of 6 - 11 year olds. What the fuck is this shit?!?

[tiffanyastrology]

Things to do with the signs before you die - acq.

I didn't write this. It was shared in a Facebook group I'm in and the poster shared it from another Facebook group (Obsessed with Astrology) post. 

But I liked the list so I'm sharing. I have one comment. Those of us who are straight and into astrology have a way of forgetting there are people whose sexuality falls outside of Heterosexual "norms". Therefore I am trying to think of phrasing we can use that isn't so hetero-normative. Here's the part that popped out to me in this regard... "So go out with them, through away all preconceived notions of what an appropriate friendship is and take your Libra on a date same-sex or not."

So that means all those who could date someone same-sex and have sexual attraction to someone same sex are left out. More and more people are open and accepting of homosexuality and bisexuality. But, some of us heteros don't think our wording through, or maybe we just don't know how to word things in a non-heteronormative way. Like even me saying "non-heteronormative" I am sure I could use another adjective.. but all that's coming to mind is "gay-friendly" and that sounds cheesy and would exclude bisexual or people who just don't want to be labelled.

But, I was thinking maybe it could be reworded like "So go out with them, through away all preconceived notions of what an appropriate friendship is and take your Libra on a date platonic or not."

"So go out with them, through away all preconceived notions of what an appropriate friendship is and take your Libra on a date sexual attraction or not."

I don't know I actually would appreciate some advice on some more open-minded terminology. Astrology can be pretty hetero-normative itself. The Sun is a Male. The moon is a female. I wouldn't disagree entirely with defining planets as male or female... but I'd prefer masculine and feminine... because... we all have masculine and feminine... it's just that feminine has been deemed weaker and therefore looked down upon by society. So people think the antidote is to remove male/female or masculine/feminine from the equation... And there's validity to that. But, I don't think society as a whole can progress to understanding gender neutrality until they fully realize and respect that which is masculine and feminine. Many have argued that masculine and feminine is designed by humans... a figment of our imagination... And they're right, but that's way too enlightened for us all to fully grasp at this point in time. Most of the time I hear that used bitterly, and people don't really know how to explain it well enough that I believe they get it. Fact is, masculine and feminine was designed for our expansion. and the destination of this will eventually be gender neutrality and the boundaries with sex won't be so rigid as they are today. 

Overall, just forgive me for writing when I am so tired still. My brain has that fuzzy feeling. 

Things to do with each of the signs before you die

Get into a fight with an Aries. I’m not talking about an over the phone fight, I’m talking a real toe-to-toe, heart pumping showdown. It will most likely be more beneficial to you if they were on your side in the fight, think of like a bar fight or taking on bullies at your school, but fighting them yourself would be just as exhilarating and you would most likely be better friends after the incident than you were before.Aries people are warriors and they like to know their friends can hold their own if something goes down.

Eat with a Taurus. By this I do not mean take them to a local fast food restaurant to hork down some greasy burgers. I mean take them to an amazing five star restuarent preferably one that has been around for decades and has built a strong reputation. Then allow the Taurus to order for you, it may take a while, but Tauruses have wonderful taste. Make sure that you don’t rush them or yourself, take your time enjoy the food, enjoy the atmosphere, enjoy the music, enjoy the feel of your luxurious clothes, and enjoy your Taurus escort.

Go out on the town with a Gemini. Wait till its night time and the social life of your particular city is buzzing, and then call your Gemini friend. Not only will they have the perfect location, but they’ll most likely have the transportation to get you there(Gemini’s hate not being able to get around when they want to). Be sure not to just contain them to one party, or one club ,encourage them to take you club hopping. Gemini’s are the most amazing social butterflies, not only will they know the right people to get you into to any club or party, they’ll know enough people at the party to make it a truly memorable night. Trust Gemini’s they’ll show you a whole new world in your own backyard.

Have a rainy day inside with a Cancer. It will be even better if your at their house, which will most likely be stocked with comfort food and pillows. Cancers can turn their fortress of solitude into a veritable wonderland, if there men they will most likely have the newest video games and systems, and if the are women they will most likely have a wonderful assortment of make-up that they don’t mind sharing. Also, be sure to stay the night, being ruled by the moon these lovely people get there second wind at night, and would love to pull an all night junk food and call of duty session, or an all night truth or dare/make-over session. With a Cancer you are guaranteed to have the most fun indoors you’ve ever had in your life.

Watch a Leo do what they love to do. You are allowed to join in only if you’re ok with not being the center of attention. In fact, let the Leo be in charge, join a choir directed by a Leo, or a stage production directed by a Leo, or play in the background band in a Leo performance it may not be the best experience during rehearsals, but during the performance you will never feel better in your life. Leo’s absolutely work magic on a stage, and have a way of making everyone in the auditorium feel just as magical, doubly so if your on stage with them. You see something funny happens to a Leo when their plans come together, the bossy roaring lion that was once there gives way to a burning sun of generosity, and love. They go from whiny cats to Aslan himself and when that happens there’s no better place to be than witnessing such an inspiring sight.

Let a Virgo fix it. The “it” may very from person to person, but if you need anything to be perfect and you cant quite get it there, call Virgo. Yes they may seem a bit harsh at times, but they only critique because they care. Listen, let your Virgo hairstylist cut your hair and it will be perfect for your face shape, let your Virgo accountant balance your books and they will be perfect to the penny, let your Virgo make-up artist do your face and you will never look more flawless in your life. Virgo’s love a job done right, and unlike Leo’s they don’t need a whole lot of fanfare, they just need to know they did their job flawlessly and that their hard work was appreciated.

Have a romantic evening with a Libra. I don’t mean a date per say , you can have a romantic evening with a Libra regardless of the nature of your relationship. Being in a duo is hard-wired into their DNA, so it doesn’t matter if your just friends, siblings, or in a committed relationship Libra’s first instinct is to be romantic. So go out with them, through away all preconceived notions of what an appropriate friendship is and take your Libra on a date same-sex or not. Take them to the movies, or on a paddle-boat ride at sunset, or on a picnic and watch them become all smiles, and amazing conversation. You will not only have more fun with them then you ever did alone, but you will truly learn what it is to love without a need for sex. Libras have no problem being romantic and cuddly even in their most platonic relationships and being on the receiving end of that kind of love is a heart warming experience not to be missed.

Face your demons with a Scorpio. Dig deep with Scorpio because no sign is more well equipped to purge your emotional baggage than a Scorpio. If anything traumatic has happened to you talk to a Scorpio, but make sure you are ready to deal with it and get over it. Scorpio’s can summon the demons of your past, but once they’re summoned they are very hard to push back down, so don’t bring anything up your not ready to deal with. But if you are sure you are ready to deal with it Scorpio will stick with through the entire ordeal and you will feel much better afterwords, and Scorpio will to. You see Scorpio loves helping people sort through the dark parts of their life and the recipient of such a session usually leaves completely free of the past, and all emotional trauma. (Look at that a Scorpio post and I didn’t mention sex)

Go on an adventure with a Sagittarius. The further away the better, across the country is good, but across the world would be perfect. Sagittarius’ are the best people to have with you when going to another country, not only will they know the best way to travel there, but because of their propensity to go native you’ll see a side of the country most tourist never see. Let Sagittarius take you to the coolest trails, where you see the native wildlife, let them take you to the mountain with the best view, let them take you to the beach with the best waves. Sagittarius’ are natural explorers trust them and you’ll always remember your trip as one of the best decisions of your life.

Climb the corporate ladder with a Capricorn. I know this may sound silly but I’ll explain. Take your Capricorn to any event at which you wish to make yourself look better for the purposes of advancement. Like your bosses party, or a buisness luncheon, the snootier the better(bonus points if any political dignitaries are involved). Capricorns are amazing at putting their best foot forward and are even capable of making you look better by just being with them, they are savvy and will quickly key in on the social hierarchy of any gathering and use it to their and your advantage. So if you want that promotion, bring a Capricorn with you.

Go “out there” with an Aquarius. What I mean by “out there” is out on a limb, past the point of comfort. Nearly every Aquarius has some out there hobby that they are somewhat fanatical about. Join in with there hobby, don’t be afraid to let them teach you about it. Aquarians are to most people what Prometheus was to the human race, the giver of progress. If you listen and learn from an Aquarius they’ll truly expand their minds, and you may even tap into another dimension.

Get saved by a Pisces. I mean when you really hit rock bottom, call a Pisces or you could help them save someone else. You see sometimes Pisces are very scattered and spacey, but when they see someone in trouble their Messianic switch gets turned on and they become almost Christ-like. They glow with a love that is amazingly pure and true and needs nothing in return. They begin to spout off the most inspiring phrases like it were nothing more than light banter, and they have a knack for seeing who you really are, the good and the bad and loving you anyway. So whether you’re there to see them give this kind of love or you are the recipient always call Pisces if you need a savior.

[gwydionmisha]

Test Design Flaw

Wow, that Mythbusters "Laws of Attraction" Episode was hetero-normative.  How did they know all their test subjects are straight?

[ashersketchup]

Netflix: "We recommend Brokeback Mountain because you watched Rent and there were gay guys in there and Brokeback Mountain has gay guys too. So even though the two movies have absolutely no similarities, we're just going to categorize this movie as a gay movie and we're sure you'll like it anyway. Oh, and we also have a category for lesbian movies because we just want to separate them from the "normal hetero romantic comedies" category. Enjoy!"

[mirandaadria]

Forever rolling my eyes every time a song performance on a singing competition show is changed so that the gender matches a hetero-normative perspective.

God forbid a woman sing a song addressed to another woman, or a man sing a song addressed to another man.

We can't have people thinking they're GAY.

*GASP*

[kushieldvine]

Sweet new wedges for the summer. Okay, full disclosure I'm pretty much a tomboy who likes to paint my nails and troll fashion blogs. So my goal this summer is to become more feminine. So yeah, in my book that means bustin' out the heels. All you folks who complain about hetero-normative bullshit, seriously keep it moving. I wear hanes briefs under my jeans.